Is it wrong to go back to him?

Question

I wanna make this short,
Basically I've been seeing this guy, we fight all the time its an everyday thing, literally! But before the night is over we always makeup. He says that he loves me everyday and is always saying how I mean the world to him. I love him to but we both agreed our everyday fighting over the little stuff is to much stress. All of my really close friends think I should just cut it off because he is way to controlling, and is always accusing me of cheating, lying, not loving him, you know that type of thing.
I love him but we fight over little things and its annoying and crazy. Our love is strong but I'm getting sick of it. Finally after our last fight I tried to break it off for good. But he said he hated life, and wanted to die if he didn't have me. I tried to talk him out of it and once again fell for him. I really wanna go back to him, but is this not the right thing to do? I don't want to loose my friends over this because were always on and off. They think I should just drop him and never be with him again. I was trying but I ended up right back in his arms.. I kept telling him not to say he loved me because that is my weakness.. Of course he uses it. He thinks I need to choose to forget about what others think, (EVERYONE), or to just leave his heart broken. He also has anger issues and gets heated from things I can't control, from another guy flirting with me, to the way I dress. He controls everything I do. He is constantly making me change my life! I always do it though to make him happy because I'm deeply in love with him, but is all of this really worth being with him?
Thanks :)

Answer 1

Well, first off you will learn as you get older that your true friends will stick by you no matter what and if they don't they were never your friends to begin with. In deciding if you want to be with him or not you need to look within yourself and evaluate your relationship from your point of view and no one else's. Another thing is that if you give a man (boy) the power then you have already lost yourself. Don't let him control what you do and if he truly loves you he will accept you just as you are

Answer 2

You asked a really good question..'But is all of this really worth being with him' well lets see if he accuses you of cheating obviously it's no trust there as well as lying and you said you are getting sick of it. What does that tell you there? Also is he controlling in a way you can't hang out with certain people or anyone for the fact? Well lets say he doesn't let you see your friends, what if you did break it off who would you go to?? No one since you lost them because he told you not to see them anymore all im saying is I always look at the negative part before the positive well lf you say you love him? Is this love a kind you will die for him or just a attached love kind of way as in you got use to the idea of him but not really for him,you get me? I say go with what you want but in the end it's up with the choice you made not us..I'm sorry i couldn't give you a nice answer

Answer 3

Maybe you need a good break from each other, a couple of weeks at least. It sounds like the sensible option to break up as you are staying together for the wrong reasons. But your mind is clouded at the moment and you need to see that for yourself.



Good luck!

Answer 4

if you both truly love each other then you should be able to talk it out calmly. and if he says things like that when you tell him its over then maybe you both should try counseling together. and if you friends are willing to turn there back on you all because of a guy you are with then they are not your true friends. try sitting down and talking to him though

Answer 5

Oooh this guy sounds very dangerous. You need to cut yourself lose NOW. DO NOT be seduced by him saying that life is not worth it without you. That is emotional blackmail. He is dragging you down with him. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE don't let that happen. You NEED to get away from him to save yourself.



His issues are his issues not yours. Dont let him dump them on you. I was married to a control freak - he will wreck your life if you let him. Don't let him.

Answer 6

ths is very very unhealthy.listen 2 ur friends coz thy see it frm tha owtsyd and wat it is doing 2 u.and dnt b in contact wth hm at al when u dump hs ***!gud luck girlfriend

Answer 7

yes..!