y did he just back off....I'm confused.?

Question

I really like this guy friend of mine & for 3 months or so I thought he really liked me. He followed me around like a puppy dog, cooked me dinner, picked on me, playfully would punch me or kick me. Just basically acted like a little 5yr old w/a crush. Then out of the blue...he just stopped everything, doesn't even talk to me much. I asked if I did something to make him mad. He said absolutely not, he's not mad at me all, there is nothing wrong. I just said ok. Well I decided to talk to his sister in law...my good friend. She said he has no desire to have a gf for whatever reason. He's 21 & has never been interested in having a gf. I told my other friend this & she said maybe he just stopped & backed off cuz he did like me but is trying to talk himself out of liking me. His sister in law said he always has excuses y not to have a gf...didn't have a job, now he does. Didn't have a car, now he does. Now it's he doesn't have his own place...he lives with his brother. & he's not the sleeping around type either. He's pretty religious & doesn't believe in pre-marital sex. So what's the deal...did he just decide he doesn't want to be my friend(which his sister in law said that's not case, he thinks I'm great-says it all the time I guess), or is my friend right that he is talking himself out of liking me so he is staying away. I don't get it. I've always been told if a guys likes u...he will be with u...period. True or false?

Answer 1

Not to come off as crude or like a deviant but approach the situation in a sexual manner get him alone and seduce him. I know you said he don't believe in premarital sex but if a woman is rubbing on me and drops her clothes in front of me... Its going down morals or not they go out the window. I'm telling you he'll change his point of view

Answer 2

maybe hes really nervous to make the first move? or maybe he has had a bad relationship in the past and doesnt want it to happen again, i think you should talk to him honestly about it, your never going to find out the way he feels unless you ask him (okay this is hypicritical coming from me but i think you should just talk to him)



under the right situation guys will be really honest and open up, and this is alot harder for guys so you have to respect his decision,



if he says that he doesnt want a relationship and that he felt you too were getting to close then you need to respect his decision no matter what he says, and tell him your prepaired just to stay friends. showing him your there for him and willing to do whatever he is most comftable with, may make him less shy or more likely to want a relationship in the future.



hope this helps, good luck sorting things out. would be greatful if you could answer my most recent question, iv got guy trouble abit like yours too actually xxx

Answer 3

Yes, if a guy really likes you he would make sure you know it. He could be backing away for a number of reasons; he is trying to get his life to where HE (not his sister in law) wants it to be, before having a relationship. Or, he isn't ready for a commitment to any girl -- including you. Guys can tell when we like them. So, maybe he is backing away because he doesn't want what he feel you want from him. In my opinion, this is the respectable thing to do. Because some people will get into relationships knowing they have no intentions of being committed!



Trust me it feels ALOT worse to be in a relationship with someone who isn't commitment then NOT being in a relationship with someone who doesn't want a commitment.