my boyfriend thinks im cheating on him......?

Question

because I text another guy! I admit the other guy is very flirty and we have a past but that's it! my boyfriends best friend is the 1 who told him because he had been talking to the other guy and he asked who he likes and he said me! is my boyfriend being stupid? I didn't cheat on him!!

Answer 1

well how would you feel if he was texting girls and they were flirty with him?

Answer 2

Aight, let's just correct something here. When you wrote "Is my boyfriend being stupid", you made a mistake. What you shoulda wrote is "Am I being stupid" and yes is the answer.



You are with a guy who has low confidence right now, since you are texting with a guy with who (A) you have a past, (B) ADMITTED TO HAVE FEELINGS FOR YOU.



Go ahead, report my answer if you don't like it. But that'd only show that YOU can't handle the truth when someone is slapping it in you face.



I believe you when you say you didn't cheat on him. But that's acting stupid. If you don't want this type of situation, go get a jerk who could care less of what you're doing at the moment.



That guy is not trying to control WHO you're texting. Hell, he's all shaken up about who you are talking to but he didn't tell you. He OBVIOUSLY cares about you and is right now hurt. And, here you are, on YAHOO asking if your boyfriend is stupid?



Seriously, it's true men don't understand women. But it's FAR worse when it comes to women trying to understand men.

Answer 3

This is what I do I always put myself in my boyfriends shoes would i like this if he was doing this to me so any males that come my way i always think of him cause how would you feel if it was ur boyfriend was texting a gurl from the past that's flrity u would be mad right so he's not stupid he is just hurt and he cares for u so don't get mad at him it was ur fault accept it and take it as a woman just don't do it again u might lose him do u wanna do that treat him like u want to be treated ok...

Answer 4

maybe you could say sorry to making him in a position to feel paranoid and that this man is just a friend, prob not the best move if your boyfriends insecure to have a flirty bloke that you have a past with in your boyfriends face...id be annoyed with you tbh. Just be a bit understanding and talk to your boyf or you guys will just argue n break up hun x

Answer 5

the FACT that you are NOT cheating on him .... is NOT important.



FIRSTLY ... IF your boy-friend was texting an ex-girlfriend or another girl who you did NOT know, would you be OK with that situation?



NEXT ... Only you KNOW the answer, that you WANT to be with your boy-friend or maybe you are bored and ready for a change.



BE HONEST with YOURSELF ... you are your number one FAN and you know how you truly feel ... and what YOU truly want. If you want to keep this boy-friend then stop this behaviour and focus on BOTH of you.



If you in truth WANT a change, fancy the HUNT, love the CHASE or anything, then there is NOTHING wrong with that either, since you owe NO ONE anything. As a young person, you are supposed to try out new experiences and different things, but remember to be HONEST with him, and take him out of his misery.



Lastly, be fair, and be HONEST with him, and be good to yourself.

Enjoy Life

Answer 6

Why are you sending flirty texts to another guy if you have a boyfriend? Would you be okay with your boyfriend if he was sending flirtatious texts to another woman?



No, he's not being stupid, but you're being disrespectful.

Answer 7

Make more time for your boyfriend. If you love him, then you won't mind letting your friend go. Sorry, i know it sounds sad but some men are very possessive of their woman and get jealous easily. Some men also have self confidence issues and believe that a woman will always try to cheat on them. You must give as much time as possible to your boyfriend to reassure him and boost his ego.

Answer 8

Well, I wouldnt talk to another guy even if your friend is being flirty to you if you have deep feelings for your boyfriend. Dont. You're causing problems!

Answer 9

No I don't think he is. I think considering the circumstances he has a right to feel insecure. I think you should stop texting your boy's best friend to show him you're serious about him and are not cheating...it's going to take a lot to gain his trust back...if you want to salvage your relationship it's a sacrifice you are going to have to make.

Answer 10

You need to just reassure him and let him know that he is the only one for you. Tell him if you felt the need to cheat, you wouldn't be with him in the first place.

He also needs to have trust in you, otherwise your relationship is worth nothing now. However try not to flirt with this other guy. Would you like it if your boyfriend flirted with other girls?

Answer 11

So, your question is "Is my bf stupid?".



I'm gonna say no. His best friend told him you were available. Yes, that's what your buddy thinks of you because you flirt with him. Of course your boyfriend would think you are cheating since his best friend told him you came on to him!!



Silly girl.

Answer 12

if i were in your postion heres what i would do. i would talk to the guy your boyfriend thinks your cheating on and make sure noone sees you. tell him your gunna be all mean to him and your not meaning it or whatever. then infront of your boyfriend make something that would make him VERY happy. mayby diss the other boy or something. there you go... i hope i helped. i had to do this with my girlfriend and it worked very well. hope i helped!

Answer 13

Well, sweetie, you are cheating on him. You may not be physically cheating on him, but you are talking to another guy behind his back, and leading the other guy to believe he has a chance with you.



So yeah, you're cheating.

Answer 14

your boyfreind is just acting on impluse he is probably insecure about something and that needs to be figured out and dealt with before anythign else i went through the same thing with my husband and it ended up that he was insecure about haveing a wife that had the past tha i did and once he got over that and knew i wasnt that person anymore it was fine and he doesnt get so jealous anymore hope this helps

Answer 15

What is he supposed to think? Just stop talking to the other guy. Do you love your boyfriend or do you love playing the field?

Answer 16

yeah i agree they need to meet i used to really be annoyed at my now fiance talking to an ex of his coz he is stil great friends wit her and the family then i met her properly and we get on great now, so if your boyfriend met this other fella he will see he has nothing to worry about

Answer 17

well i would feel the same if i found out that my girl had a thing for a guy way back when and is flirting with him now or he is flirting with her and im the type who dont get mad and just break up if i were your man i wuld kick that fools as* but im not so idk what to tell you

Answer 18

YOU REALLY SHOULDN'T BE TEXTING WITH OTHER GUYS ABOUT WHO LIKE WHO YOUR BOY FRIEND HAS A RIGHT TO BE JEALOUS

Answer 19

let them meet, im always paranoid about my boyfriends girl mates til iv met them

Answer 20

yes, but you might want to wtach out.. when i guy thinks your cheating on him and accuses you of it then that could be a sign of him cheating on you!

Answer 21

may as well to the crime since you're doing the time

Answer 22

he's being how any guy would be...you should be worried if he wasnt suspicious

Answer 23

you must think your bf owns you. I buy my gfs stuff so they know that I own them. has he bought you anyting?

Answer 24

wat wer u texting him tho..?

maybe hes gay for the other guy and reliii jealous- it happens!