I REALLY need help. Please! I beg you help me!?

Question

Ok, this is very long, please read it and help me.

I was with this girl for a year and 3 months. We had a lot of great memories. I loved her with all my heart and soul. We were engaged and we lost our virginity to eachother. In our relationship I didn't talk to other girls and she didn't talk to other guys. Everything was fine until we started breaking up and getting back together repeatedly about 2 months ago. Well last Monday we broke up for good. I found out she had been together with a freshman for a week. (I'm a junior, she is a sophmore). This girl always talked to guys behind my back and lied to me about it. And then she two times me with a freshman. I told myself to get over her cause I was done with it because every time we broke up and got back together she always promised that it would never happen again but it always did and I was just over it. Anyways so Tuesday I start talking to one of her good friends, (me and this girl used to be enemys because of things that happened between me her and my ex, i got jealous she always wanted to walk with her and not me so we called eachother names, but we made up) I told her I was sorry and we started talking and it turns out we have a lot in common. And she makes me so happy. Since she is really good friends with my ex she told me a lot of stuff that my ex did behind my back and it's just crazy. So me and her started dating yesterday and today went well (we were just really shy). And this girl tells me how much she hates cheaters and that she would never cheat on me and I feel like I can trust her. Well today at home I'm sitting there and I get a text from my ex saying "Are you dating Sky?!" and I didn't reply so she called and begged me to tell her if I was, I didn't call her back so she called again and I answered and she was balling, she was crying so hard. It almost made me cry, she was begging me to break up with Sky. She said that she's so sorry and she made a big mistake and that it will never happen again. She said she's lost without me and she can't live without me. And I realized I do miss her. I still love her. As I'm typing this she just sent me this text, "No, i don't. I don't need anyone but you please take me back!!". She said she doesn't want anything to do with that little freshman anymore. But the problem is, I really like Sky... I'm falling for her fast. But I'm kinda worried cause my ex said not to trust her because she's always all over guys, she said that she would just break my heart. But Sky told me in a message yesterday that she would never cheat on me and stuff. And she's still a virgin. She told me she has a lot of guy friends and I'm fine with that. She hasn't betrayed my trust yet. I want my ex back, cause I love her to death. But I'm REALLY falling for Sky, and I don't want to hurt her. Please. I beg you, help me.

Answer 1

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Sky is a hot name.



Anyway, your ex had her chance. Think of it this way, if she didn't call you crying or wanting you back, you would've just moved on. In fact, if she didn't do anything at all, you probably wouldn't have cared. She's your ex, of course you're going to have feelings left. But remember the reason you broke up in the first place.



It's not like she did it once. You said you both were on and off and she kept lying. If nothing stopped her before, what will this time? Next time? What if you get back with her? You'll mess up your chances with Sky, and all for the risk that she may just cheat on you again. Why is it that this is a big deal now that you're dating her? What about before? Did she just not care before? You have to think about these things.



Anyway, I can see how you're still attached, losing your virginity to each other. Sometimes you gotta move on though. Even if it hurts, you never know where Sky is going to take you. If anything, see how far you go with Sky and see if you get over your Ex. Personally I wouldn't stand for all those things if my girl kept making promises and leaving me.



Also, she may just be lying so you'll break up with her. There's two options here:



1. You keep dating Sky and see where you end up. (She hasn't betrayed you yet, so you have no reason to be against her.)



2. You break up with Sky, hurt her, and get back with your ex who may end up doing the same thing again.



At least one way you'll win. The second choice will have you risking everything. But this is all logics here. I can give you advice, but in the end, it's your heart that decides what you want. If you want both... like I said, go with the girl that hasn't hurt you. Maybe your ex will learn to not take things for granted. It's good for you, good for her.



Tough decisions. But you wouldn't fall for Sky fast if she wasn't an amazing girl.



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Since you added more details, I guess I'll add more. Still, you don't know if what she's saying would be true. It's pretty awesome that you can go out and party with your girl. But I can see how stressful that really is... I think you're getting sucked back in because you feel really bad for her. Not just for that reason, I know you have feelings for her, but even I would be seriously stressed if she threatened to kill herself. If you don't think she will, then it'd be best not to get sucked back in. It may just be a desperate attempt to get you back. But you sound pretty definite about Sky. Like I said, it'd be better to go with Sky and see where it goes.



Good luck man, I know this is really stressful on you.

Answer 2

I would take a chance with the Sky girl. You're ex already did wrong to you. And even if you love her, she's already broken your trust too many times. If you take your ex, you hurt Sky, AND you run the risk of your ex cheating on you again. If that happens then your left with no one. Then no one would be happy. I'm telling you that Sky is the way to go. Hope it all turns out alright.

Answer 3

I think you need to really take a step back and look at the situation...you could look at it from this angle: Sky could be something new...you would have to put yourself in a new position and go for a relationship...I say that if you go with sky, you need to wait and see what happens...find out for yourself if she doesnt like you you know? on the other hand you have this girl you like so much who you wen"t out for a long time and you love, you have made bonds with her that you thought could never break...You could give her a second chance and decide to trust her again, but if shes cheated on you for a while theres a chance that won't change...hope this helped...

Answer 4

Friend, You posted the Question under R & S India. Religiously , as per Bhagavat Geeta Four types of persons go to God and BEG(Pray for their needs) They are; arthee, Artharthee, Gnaanee and Jignaasu. So People go to temple and Pray for (BEG GOD0 for their needs, it may be money or Health or wealth or Gnaanam) Whatever a devotee does in front of GOD is NOT BEGGING AT ALL. asking mother or Father for some Money or some thing IS NOT BEGGING. God IS BOTH MOTHER AND FATHER. So Whatever you ask HIM is NOT BEGGING THOUGH IT LOOKS LIKE BEGGING.

Answer 5

Wow this is really complicated.

Sky you ex, Your ex sky...the choice seems to be yours.

Think towards the future. who will be heart broken who will care...

where will you be? Can you spend the rest of your life with sky?

Can you spend the rest of your life without your ex?

I really want to help you but this is your life, your decision.

What is your desire the future? of the past?

Follow your heart and be lead to happiness.

good luck man

Answer 6

all i can say is fellow your heart, once a cheater is always a cheater, go for sky she seems nice.