Question:
My boyfriend is ONLY friends with women he's banged, this is bad, right?
anonymous
2011-12-13 10:17:12 UTC
My boyfriend seems to only be friends with women who he has slept with. At first I thought I was ok with it. It seemed a man who didn't piss off an ex might be a nice guy. But after he made a point to introduce me to his exes almost like it was a "meet the parents" kind of thing, I started to see some red flags. One time, when he had me go out and meet his ex "Susan", he started bringing up some sex session they had a while back right there at the table. She seemed horrified. Now, almost a year into our relationship...I realize that not only does he not have many friends...the ones he does have he seems to have slept with. I challenged him to introduce me to a woman he hasn't slept with or didn't try to...and he came up empty handed. For the Holidays I am going home to the midwest to spend Christmas with my family. I invited my boyfriend who seemed excited to spend Christmas with me...and equally excited to meet his friend "Jenny" and her boyfriend Clint while we were out there. She seemed familiar to me...and that is because for the first 6 months of knowing my boyfriend, he was painting her nude. When I asked if he painted all his friends nude he responded. "Well, i used to have a thing for her, it almost happened but didnt. She is in an open relationship with her boyfriend". I was pretty mad that i almost spent half of my Christmas vacation meeting some chick he used to want to bang.

This is bad, isnt it?
Seven answers:
jenny
2011-12-13 10:19:07 UTC
yes it is bad then you will become one of his exs and you'll met his next GF
BigLovingā¤SmilešŸ˜˜
2011-12-13 10:22:58 UTC
Yes, it is bad. Some people can handle "open relationships" and things of this nature. Others, like you and I, can't. To be honest, it just doesn't sound like you two are on the same "moral" page in life. That doesn't make either one of you WRONG, just DIFFERENT. Try talking to him in a CALM way, people are capable of growing together, in a relationship and in life, but sometimes people can't. Pick your battle. I completely understand where you are coming fom though. And the nerve of him to discuss their sex? Ugh..... You are one hell of a woman to even meet an ex if you ask me, I wouldn't dare. They are all the enemy in my book. :)
anonymous
2011-12-14 08:04:09 UTC
I'd bang Erin
anonymous
2011-12-13 10:22:51 UTC
Yah...i would have to say this is bad...or weird...he's very inconsiderate to be openly talking about his past sexlife with other girls other than you.
anonymous
2011-12-13 10:18:32 UTC
Seriously? You really need to ask?
anonymous
2011-12-13 10:21:22 UTC
I'm sorry but this is wrong... Leave him.
anonymous
2011-12-13 10:24:29 UTC
i banged him


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