Question:
Divorced & Need Dating Advice?
ghostwarriorftw
2009-12-16 13:25:09 UTC
So I am divorced after 4 years of marriage. I am not the most social person as far as going to bars & clubs, & yahoo chat is all bots it seems. So where does a 31 year old male in the city of Chicago meet single women?

OR
are there any online dating sites that are FREE-no credit cards needed. If I wanted to pay to meet people, I would go get a hooker. Every site I find is pay to talk etc. Hell, if there are any single women who read this or anyone who knows any single wome that wanna chat with me, I am totally lost on dating. Nice guys do seem to finish last. Why is it when I was married, every girl in Chicago was flirty, but I stayed faithful, now that I am single, they are nowhere to be found.

Please help somebody? I fear I will never find a date again. lol

GhostWarriorftw if anyone wishes to chat, no bots or pay to chat please. thanks
Five answers:
2009-12-17 16:19:13 UTC
Hey man, sorry to hear about your divorce.



You can find women everywhere. They have to do the exact same things that guys like us do day in and day out. They go grocery shopping. They need to fill up their cars with gas. They get coffee at the coffee house around the corner. They work out at the gym. They pick up a bite to eat at the deli by the office. They grab the new bestseller at the bookstore.



Simply put, the best way to meet girls is to venture out to places where you can meet lots of people. Start by getting a cup of coffee and flipping through the newspaper at a coffee shop in the morning. Maybe you can go out and get lunch a few times each week instead of bringing your lunch to the office. Consider going to local festivals and events. Go on a little walk through your community.



Develop a routine of doing things away from home and getting out in public.



Consider joining some groups. You can join all sorts of groups, not just singles clubs to meet girls. Look for a few organizations that deal with a subject you are interested in. Take painting classes if you're interested in art. Don't just join with groups to meet girls, do it because you are authentically interested with the subject. The women and friends you meet should just be an extra incentive.



You will have an instant conversation topic when you meet women at one of these meetings. Just start with "Hey, I'm new here. What do you think about this club?"
Erika
2016-10-16 12:14:59 UTC
i'm a guy. I basically had my divorce finalized 6 months in the past. each and every thing i'm analyzing says I shouldn't date for 2-3 years. The divorce value on 2d marriages is 60%-70% as a results of fact human beings Rush into relationships too quickly after a divorce without fixing in spite of contributed to their first divorce. i comprehend i've got faith like I certainly have a ton of luggage. I certainly have 0 activity in relationship good now. i propose you to be careful.
waterlily
2009-12-16 13:32:54 UTC
I've had success on www.plentyoffish.com. You can read profiles and actually contact people without ever needing a credit card. Some people have compared that site to an online bar, and you'll probably have to weed through a whole mess of duds to find someone you'd want to email, but it's free. Good luck to you!
2017-02-15 13:02:21 UTC
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Dave
2009-12-16 13:31:27 UTC
get rid of your green mowhawk to start


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