How do I/does he tell her that he's not interested?

Question

Right, basically..a girl called Melissa is totally in love with a boy called Jack. They are okay friends, but Melissa really wants it to go further.

A couple of weeks ago, i started talking to and hanging out with Jack loads, and he was telling me how she had become really obsessive and how he would never go out with her. He's made it really clear to me that he has no interest in her. He also made it clear that he likes me.

Over these past few weeks, i think i'm beginning to like him. So i talked to Melissa and asked her if she would mind if anything happened between me and Jack. She said that she would be annoyed, and i should give her a chance with him first.

The thing is, he's too nice to tell her that he's not interested, so she'll end up thinking he wants her too, and she really really likes him. I'm worried that when one of us eventually tells her, she'll get really pissed and then it'll be awkward for me and Jack to get together?

Basically help me! Do i tell her that he's not interested? She keeps reeling off how she loves him so much when i know he doesn't love her back! What do i do?!

Thanks! :)

Answer 1

I would let Jack handle it. In this situation, if you told her, so many problems could arise. She would probably think you were being possessive, or selfish. And Jack, being the nice guy he is, would look like a pushover, like a toy you and Melissa were both fighting over. Then she would be even less likely to let go of him.

It could be that if Melissa were to date Jack for even a week or two, she might find there's no appeal in having what she wanted. Some girls just want what they can't have, for that reason. It's a delicate situation, to be sure... But in the end, Melissa needs to know that she cannot be with Jack.



Good luck.

Answer 2

Well i dont think you should tell her. She wont believe you and will get really pissed at you. She will think you are just telling her that to get her out of the way.



If you and Jack really want to go out then you should but he really needs to tell her he has no feelings for her. So she can move on to other guys she might actually have a chance with.



He can tell her that its not going to work out but he wishes it would. That shes amazing, pretty, cute, and that they can be really good friends and if it doesnt work out with you and him that maybe they can give it a chance.



It will only be awkward between you and Jack if Melissa hangs around with you guys non stop. And if you and her are really good friends.



Hope i helped! :)

Answer 3

You need to stay out of it. He needs to man up and tell her himself; otherwise, she'll just keep doing this. If you tell her, she'll call you a liar and hate you, and that's never good. Let him handle it -- and make sure he does before you two get together.

Answer 4

Speaking from experience it will do you no good to be the messenger. She will not believe you or accuse you of telling him stuff so that he doesn't like her. Have him talk to her and explain things. Be prepared though to have a strained friendship. She may get mad at you.

Answer 5

Well..If youu were a true friend youu would tell her.I mean how would youu feel if that happen to youu?Not so good ,Right. Just invited her over and give it to her slowwly.