im silent nd people r judging me as arrogant but im not!!!?

Question

well the basic problem im facing is.... im very very silent i wont speakup wid people nd all d relatives feels like im very arrogant... i smile very less usually got a serious face... nd even my frnds feels d same way even though i help dem venever dey get into trouble dey feel lyk im arrogant due to my looks nd silence.... i met a girl nd she became my gf nd she also complained dat i dont love her coz im silent.... i ran for her 1000kms jus to look at her face nd if im silent she says dat i dont love her nymore!!!!! i cant lead in dis way!! bcoz of my silence im losing out my frnds relatives and gf.... im very helpful to my frnds nd relatives dey always count on me when ever they want any need nd coz of my serious face nd silence dey tell me im arrogant dont knw how to deal wid this problem!!! can you please gimme suggestions and answers to overcome this?

Answer 1

Interesting.



From what I've gathered, you're quite compassionate about this girl of yours, but my main focus here is the need to find out why you're so silent.



I fully understand that shyness exists and is perfectly okay, but to always be silent? Not the best move. Is this something that is bottling your emotions and not allowing you to express the true you? If look deep inside yourself and find that being silent is who you are, you need to roll with that, and you will be accepted for you. But what you should not do, is be rude about it. What I mean by that is, when someone asks you a question, simply answer it, it doesn't have to be an essay, just give your opinion and end it, you don't have to be the life of the party, but just talking a little is needed.



Also try to be in a good mood. I'm sensing that something is bringing you down and not making you want to be happy. You also need to smile, I know it sounds stupid, but just smiling for the sake of smiling makes you feel a lot better about everything.



I hope this helped you in some way.



*Edit* I'll rephrase this bringing you down part. I'm meaning something other than this issue

Answer 2

lipton is right about small steps in effort.



Basically how u act/speak/react is how people see you. They can't feel what you're feeling. They may only know if u tell them. If you don't, they still have to make some sort of conclusion don't they? it's just human nature. For instance i like a guy who never smiles, hardly ever talks only if its something business related. and in 5 months i heard him pass a small joke only once. He is an extreme..... actually his guy buddies respect him a lot but to me it's a torture. I can't decide whther he is sweet or is he silent cos hes not interested, doesnt care about anything or anyone. i still cant make any conclusions cos we havent spoken. is this the same as your story goes?



however ur girl was too dramatic, or maybe she is not too mature? because your actions proved something big, and actions speak louder than words. Personally i dont like men who talk all the time, neither very talkative women are too attractive. But really, in life to be successfull u must know how to socialise

Answer 3

You know, I'm not the kind of girl who gets along very well with silent people... I'm messy, I like talking and chatting and laughing.... XD

And I always need my boyfriend to show me that he loves me.(i'm kinda spoiled sometimes.but maybe it's because i'm insecure....)

I'm sure that you really love your girlfriend, but if you don't wanna lose her, you have to do some effort and show her your feelings.

You say that you ran 1000kms just so see her, well, just tell her how you feel about it! tell her that you'd run even a million kilomters just to see her, that even if you don't speak that much, you really love her.

Sometimes 3 words can make the difference!

Answer 4

Try a public speaking course or get out and smile when you dont feel like it. Make small steps and say more each time. Make an effort.

Answer 5

Stop being such a drama queen and try acting normal

Answer 6

"Wid" people? Wtf is that?



Learn how to write (and speak) properly, THEN maybe people might not think you're an arrogant prick. Only by actually talking to people will they really know, otherwise they will just guess.

Answer 7

type down for them :)

Answer 8

jalaus

Answer 9

SPEAK!GET URSELF HEARD!HOW WILL THEY KNOW IF YOU DONT *SAY*?