I met this army man online...?

Question

He is 34 years old (I'm 20) and he works as a staff sargeant currently residing in California. After talking for a week, he wanted me to be his gf. I was reluctant but after a while i decided to give him a chance. He called me on the phone and I told him that if he wanted a chance, he had to come to my state. He said he'll do all the travelling and that he'll station in kansas first and then go to NY to see me. He even said he'll take me to dinner. That happened three days ago. He hasn't called or e-mail me since. He used to talk to me daily. I even called him and no one picked up.


I doubt he got deployed though he did ask me if I would still love him if he gets deployed. I find his sudden disappearance so strange.

What the heck does a staff sarg do? He said he was in the combat unit but is a staff sarg..
What should I do for the matter of fact? What's up with this?

Answer 1

one thing you got to understand about on-line dating they can be anyone they want to be until it comes down to meeting them. This happened with a friend of mine and he was really hurt over it. He pretended he wasnt but he was ready to settle down and bring her home to meet his family. He even had pictures of her and when up to meet her and she didnt show up. He never heard from her after. So be careful about letting your heart be broken over the internet. There are no answers to this, just be careful

Answer 2

He might be freaking out since things seem to be getting more serious. Some people get so used to being alone that the idea of not being alone can be scary. Just keep trying to get a hold of him. Maybe call the base he is stationed at and ask if anything happened to him.



Sergeants are in combat units. Think of Sergeants and Staff Sergeants as sub-leaders. When a platoon breaks up into squads, or squads break up into teams, the Sergeants lead the smaller sub divisions.

Answer 3

I say let this one go. You've only been speaking a little over a week. A 34 year-old should be mature enough to realize a girlfriend doesn't develop in such a short period of time.



He asked if you would still love him if got deployed??!! This guy is very lonely and very desperate. Please don't waste any more energy on this man.





My boyfriend is in the Marines, but we have an established relationship that began when he was a civilian. And it's really really hard on both of us. There's no need to deal with something like this unless you really love a person anyway.

Answer 4

You need to understand that when dealing with starting a relationship with someone over the internet, that person can be anybody. How do you know he is in the military? Also you are 20, he is 34 ..he obviously just wants someone much younger than him. I would be concerned with the fact that he so readily agreed to visit you and station himself near you. You guys don't even know each other and he is willing to move near you, how desperate can this guy get. I would suggest quitting the whole online-boyfriend scenario and go out and get you a guy you can see face-to-face. Anyone can seem nice through the internet. Also you need to understand that if he is telling the truth, the military is a very busy and time consuming life to dedicate yourself to. Are you prepared to be with a man that you won't get to see very often and that could end up missing in action? Consider your feelings before you involve yourself with a military man, it will be much easier now, than to possibly fall in love with him and realize you can't do it. Men in the military get lonely I'm sure, make sure he is pursuing you for the right reasons.

Answer 5

Sounds fishy to me. Even if he got deployed he would of had time to contact you. He is not in special forces. A staff sarg is just his rank. He can be anything...communications specialist, security, infantry, combat...it's all the same. It shows how many stripes he is wearing & how much respect he is deserving of to the ppl around him in the military. Forget him for now. He lives too far away. You don't even know enough about him to say "you'll love him if he is deployed". Who are his parents? Where do they live? Does he have kids? Ever been married? Things like this should of been addressed before you agreed to be his g/f. Chalk this up to experience. TAke care of yourself...forget him for now. Not much else you can do. My boy leaves for Iraq next month. Believe me, I got notice WAY before he is to leave.

Answer 6

This army guy is probably a phony & can't show up because you'd see him for what he really is... & that could be anyone male or female from the ages of 16 to 60!



Get out & meet someone in person... Hang out w/people your own age & background if you want a forever relationship.



This "army guy" has played w/you long enough and by not answering the phone he's telling you to leave him alone.

Consider yourself lucky. You don't know what kind of creep could have shown up @ your front door!!!

Answer 7

Are YOU out of your mind!?

Come on now. Military personal are usually the most desperate people in the world because they are alone. Why do you think they marry all these foreigners from other countries. Plus the age difference. Think about it, he's 14 years older then you are. You have alot of stuff to go through that he has gone through already.

Look my friend, its all there to me, "He's married"!

Watch the old movie,"Officer & Gentlemen".

THINK!!!

Take care.

Answer 8

it really is a finished scam. militia individuals get 30 days leave a year which could assemble and be truly more effective than 30 days. in addition they might get short passes to flow off base. do no longer deliver all of us funds for holiday or funds any probably phony checks from all of us. maximum militia workers have sufficient funds for holiday nowdays and would truly get free area accessible holiday each so often.

Answer 9

The age difference is unimportant. Although, I am sure it excites him.



How can he decide after a week after talking presumably over the phone that you are the girl/woman for him? You don't have a relationship. He is not your boyfriend. I am not sure why, but it sounds like he is playing you.

Answer 10

He met you on line. He is older than you. He probably was not serious. He just needed something to blow off time.



Or maybe something happened who knows

Answer 11

i dont know if you shouldlike if it gets serious and he gos to war it really hurts to be away from him my uncle is un the army and the lady he is wit6h sufurs a lot(all of us do!)

Answer 12

you should unplug your computer and go take a shower then call your momma and tell her how silly you are...you should know better..he could be anyone..and does he know where you live? he knows your number..can he find you..how smart do you feel right now?

Answer 13

staff seargants are busy as hell

Answer 14

OMG, a military guy?????? Consider yourself PLAYED!!!!!