never had a girl before, 22 years and really hate it! :-( can anyone help me??

Question

i'm currently 22 and never had a girlfriend of any sort before and i'm scared it won't change for ages! :-/

i know i'd be good for a girl and be nice and look after her but also naughty where needed, but ive just had no luck at all getting anywhere! girls just don't seem to want me!

ive tried online, work, through friends, speed dating, festivals, clubs outside work, bars and nightclubs but still not found anyone who is right for me!

all ive found are girls who blank me and ignorwe before ive even talked to them, and then they get off with someone else and i seem to get nothing!

ive had a few dates so far but nothing came of them. having said that, i got dates so i must have done something right then!

ive rerally tried to imporve my confidence and be happy with myself, and this does show alot more now, but still i seem to get no where!

does anyone know how i could help myself? cause its tearing me apart at the moment! :-(

Answer 1

Well there's definitly nothin wrong with the way you look ;)! maybe its just being nervous on dates and things?



Also, if you're meeting girls in bars and clubs etc. make sure you arent' using any cheesy lines...keep being yourself and try to relax and be confident. You just haven't met anyone decent enough for you yet!

Answer 2

It's not true that girls always go for bad boys. Especially the girls that are keepers. So keep the faith. Are you in school? Are there any clubs you can join? Look up an events calendar (the library might have one) or a local arts paper. If you like art, go to gallery events or openings. Hang out at bookstores like Borders, especially ones that offer live music. Go out in groups with friends. Here's what happened to me. I was working in the cafe at Borders, this guy ordered coffee and we started talking (he was playing a music gig that day at the store). It was a brief encounter, but made an impression on me. Saw him the next week, talked with him again. I made it a point to see his band gig a couple weeks later in a bar then asked to buy him a drink. While we didn't meet up again that night (he had to load equipment from the band and I had to leave early since I worked the next day), we ended up running into each other in the grocery story a few days later. Now we've been together 8 years, married for 6 and have a kid. The moral of the story is: don't give up. It will happen when it happens. I was totally in your place for years. I didn't have a boyfriend until junior year of college. And then had a dry spell. A big one. Then, when I least expected it, BAM! My advice is to take the opportunity to flirt with people (which is basically just being nice). Chat up the coffee house barista. Be super nice and attentive to waitresses, bookstore clerks, etc. It will make them feel good and give you confidence. Plus, it makes people's days. I know it has me. Your confidence will be building, and you'll be putting good vibes out there. Before you know it, the girl of your dreams could be running into your arms. Good luck! And don't worry about it. You're going to do fine.

Answer 3

My advice is to stop trying. If you get on with life and make sure that what you do involves meeting people, then if the right girl turns up things will happen naturally. Seeing girls just as potential girlfriends will make you behave in an off-putting way, possibly a threatening way. Above all be yourself and be honest with anyone you meet. There is nothing wrong with being shy and it won't put off friendships. Vulnerability can be quite attractive.

Answer 4

I haved noticed when I went through my divorce, that when I had to go back to the Dating Game in California that I did not like the personality of the girls on the way they treat men. They seemed to me that it was all about them and what they wanted in life, so it became a one way street. So what I did, is to get on a web site with Asian Girls in the Philippines, Vietnam, Lorea and China and I found this one girl out of 30 that I was talking to her in the Philippines and finding out that the girls here in the Philippines are so down to earth it was unbelievable. They are always thinking of you, not about themselves and sizeing you up as thou you are a pair of book ends to see if you match in looks. They don't care, as long as you are a good guy and you are honest as the day shines long. So check it out. I live here now and I am loving every minute of the day. The ratio her in the Philippines for girls and boys, is 7 girls to 1 guy and it is very cheap to live here, not saying how beautifull the beaches are here as well.

Answer 5

smile more and perhaps join a club where you can meet like minded ladies, it helps if the women you approach have something in common with you, then you both have something to talk about, i'm in my mid twenties and i've never had a boyfriend but unlike you I'm not that bothered about being in a relationship, i make the most of being single, though admittedly I am a very independent individual, don't give up, persevere and someone will come along.

Answer 6

well you could smile in ya photos for a start, if you look happy in yourself on a photo then people are much more likely to try and talk to you online, also when you say you havent met anyone who is right for you, it sounds like you may have a few too many expectations and if you dont see any of these expectations on your date then you may be sabotaging your own chances, take things as they come, take time to get to know people and update your profile occasaionally to include new photos, accomplishments, interests, or take the simpler approach and stop looking for one, and what youre looking for will find you, it happens with keys, the TV remote, happend to me when i met my currnet girlfriend, i too was beginning to think like you that it would never happen etc, but then fate dropped her in my lap so to speak, and from a most unexpected source to say the least, my point is stop worrying, enjoy your life and it will all come in time

Answer 7

What type of girls are you approaching - either in person or via dating sites?



Are you selecting super model movie star types? These girls get approached hundreds of guys.



There is only one photo, just a face shot, and no other information about you... so I can only assess you as "average" are you approaching "average" girls, or are you just asking out girls like Jessica Alba?



EDIT comment for the person below me - "Jimbo" -



What, Jimbo, you got divorced and then the girls only cared about what they wanted.



Like probably a guy their age, instead of a dirty old man?



We LIVE in AMERICAN. We aren't going to MOVE to another country.



Can't you see how OUT of it you are? Some girl in the Philipines is PRETENDING to accept you for your AMERICAN MONEY.



The people on here are young people having their first relationships. They aren't "buying" a foreigner.

Answer 8

Dont worry bro am 25 and still havent had a girl yet so you have nothing to worry about just relax and have a good time and things will come (good things take time or are worth the wait)

Answer 9

well i don't think there is anything wrong with you at all!! you are not ugly and you seem like a really nice guy , i know its not what you want to hear but you've just not found the right girl yet but it will happen one day and I know it must be really frustrating having to wait , sorry! but good luck!! :) xxx

Answer 10

I feel the same way and I'm a girl , all like me but that all , most boys I meet only want the one thing and I don't only want the one thing .

But I'm wishing you many luck with the girls and you will find someone I think soon.........Katie from Germany

Answer 11

I don't think there's anything wrong at all, perhaps your best bet is to stop looking and perhaps it will come naturally. I've been on dates and there's been no spark...no want or need to keep contact with the person I've been with, but it helps you understand what you do and don't want in a person and what they can bring to you.

Answer 12

I feel your pain bro, I'm in the same situation too, I turn 21 next year in January and I am in the same boat, all I have done is kiss tongue to tongue.

Answer 13

hmmmmmmm you look good i dont know whats wrong with the girls around you why dont you probably wait for the right person i know you have spent a lot of time alone but do spend a litle more i dont know you personally so i cant say whats the problem with you dear

tc god bless

Answer 14

find a hobby and join a club to meet people, this way if you find a girl you like, you have something to talk about right away....other than "what are you drinking"

Answer 15

Try to be relaxed, cool and confindent, there's most definately nothing wrong with your look, just keep trying.



Good luck :D

Answer 16

well i think ur hot ur and that u seem to be caring and kind ur probably just looking for the wrong type of girl. good luck

Answer 17

well your not ugly so you don't need a make over all i can suggest is to stick at it and keep going on dates.....good luck!!

Answer 18

thats wierd.... u look nice...=) i dont knw what happens then..?

may be u r tooo mushy with girls and girls dont like itt....try to be confident and smart...... dont be so talkitive......try changing ur hairstyle and dressing sense...hopefully that wud work.............NO NEED TO THINK ABOUT BEING A GAY!!!!!!

Answer 19

Your good looking, just try harder, maybe find topics to talk about.

Answer 20

U R A NICE LOOKING GUY,,I THINK U NEED TO START TALKING TO EVERY GIRL U MEET TRY NOT TO B SUCH A NICE GUY,,TALK TO EVERYONE,,TELL JOKES SAY ANYTHING,,,PEACE

Answer 21

You haven't tried with me.

Answer 22

it's unusual but you're not too old..! just give it a time, God is just preparing the best girl for you, so you wait ok

Answer 23

aww you cute! i think u just need confidence!

Answer 24

new treads

Answer 25

Maybe its time to turn gay?

Answer 26

THEN TURN INTO A LESBIAN!