Question:
i had the most hard experience at bible camp..with a boy?
CuTiE PiE
2008-07-25 19:39:07 UTC
Ok this summer i was a junior counselor at a bible camp. There was this other junior counselor who was a boy. he was smart hot and a jock plus a christian he was like a dream come true he took me canoing tackled me and then held me in his arms when we fell. He taught me how to shoot a bee bee gun by putting his arms around me. He called me special and always sat by me and had a tickle fight with my little sister everyone thought we were goin out and everything like that. We passed notes and he drew me a picture during bible study. Then the next day one of my best friends came down to the lake to visit and he didnt talk to me all day he let her wear his sweater and always sat by her like he did me. I even told her that i liked him and everything. then at the end of the day she said she fell for him. like its not like her.. And i just want to know if he liked me and what i did wrong. I liked him more than my boyfreind last year?? I even cried...

Lots of Love Jaycee
23 answers:
grace
2008-07-25 19:45:18 UTC
he's probably just a very flirtacious guy. He seems like a good guy so he probably doesnt even know he did anything wrong. You werent even going out so its not like you have any more right to him than anyone else. You should have made a move. But if its too late then just be happy for your friend if he really is a good guy....and be ready to jump in when they dont work out
angeleyes52193
2008-07-25 19:44:11 UTC
Wow that boy played the both of you guys but my boyfriend just got back from bible camp and he is a jock, smart, hot and a christian. This makes me wonder

Not cool lol
anonymous
2008-07-25 19:48:57 UTC
It sounds like he knows how to make a girl feel special, but not like he really cares for you. I think he was just playing the field. You didn't do anything wrong. Even at bible camp, guys can just be *****.
Sue C
2008-07-25 19:54:18 UTC
That whole experience is very odd to say the least. For something like that to happen over nite is unexplainable. How could he change his feelings that quickly & act like he did - & all in one day/nite. He had to know her before that one day. You just don't act like a Jekel/Hyde over nite! You did nothing wrong, he's the one who did wrong. If he had feelings for someone else prior to meeting you, then treated you like he did, he was wrong in doing what he did. He purposely led you on to make you think he liked you then did a complete about face. If you want, you could ask him why did he treat you like he did all those days, then all of a sudden act like you meant absolutly nothing to you. I'm sorry, but he was not fair to you at all. I hope you get a chance to discuss this w/him. To me, this is not acting in a Christian like way. Best to you...
Monica K
2008-07-25 20:34:41 UTC
Hello Jaycee,

I am sorry that you have been hurt this summer. You did not do anything wrong, please believe me. It's too bad that this happens a lot, it is all a part of learning about life. It is part of being young. You have a right to feel the way you do. You probably feel hurt, played with and then tossed aside. It is confusing too. Someone relates to you one way, and gets into your heart on purpose, and then changes the way he relates to you suddenly, without you having anything to do with it. He just stopped talking to you out of nowhere. Then one of your best friends is involved with this, to top it off. That is a terrible way for him to behave. Bummer.



I wish life was easier, but life is supposed to be challenging. Please do not despair, that means do not give up on being open to a special person again in the future. Because this can be a learning experience--what have you learned?



Maybe you have learned something about this 'other junior counselor'. If you could have him back, would you want him? If I were you, I would not. He has shown you about who he really is, and it is not a good picture. I am not saying that he is, you know, "evil with a capital E", of course. But he is at the very least too immature to be trusted. I would also wonder about his character and honesty, if I were treated like that.



You are all so young, so I would understand and at the same time, learn, grow, move on. Give yourself some space however you can in this situation so you can heal. Take yourself seriously!



Now you have had a chance to learn something, it will help you tremendously next time you begin to get connected to someone in a special way. It's natural for us to act on our feelings without thinking. Now that you are a 'seasoned young lady' :-) you can remember what you have learned and it will make your next relationship better. When you begin to have feelings for someone, that is the time to remember to use your brain as well!



Start asking yourself if things are clear between you and the boy, for example. At first it is normal to have fun and play with the early excitement, but eventually you have a right to expect some idea of what your relationship means to the boy. Some boys like to keep things as vague as possible all the time so that they do not have to be attached to anyone. They just want to have fun and they do not think about the feelings of the girl. Hopefully they grow out of this--but a lot of adult men have this problem! You must decide, next time, whether or not the boy you like is mature enough to be with you and own it--whether or not the boy is in tune with your feelings and cares about how you feel. My father told me once, "A man who loves you cares if you are happy." It's very simple, but not easy to find a boy who does care for you like that. It's worth waiting for.



You seem like a sensitive young lady, worth getting to know, who is concerned with the right values, and likes to have fun. Protect yourself from any more hurt with this boy, keep your distance, and keep some distance from your girl friend too. Let them know that you are a person with self-respect--and find some other people to associate with who can be supportive and honest friends. There's no reason to hold on to resentment for a long time--but that doesn't mean you have to pretend this never happened. The way you have been treated does mean something--and in this case, it's unacceptable. You are worth so much.



Take care of yourself, sweetie. You have your whole life in front of you, and if you remember to take care of, listen to, protect and respect your whole emotional self when you have relationships, you will have a happy life. Blessings, best of everything to you. ;-)
Line
2008-07-25 19:42:31 UTC
Played?
anonymous
2008-07-25 19:44:02 UTC
He definately liked you...alot.

But, when you're friend came, he just fell hard for her.

He also could of been (sorry for the harsh word) tired of you if it had been a while. I mean, if you two weren't dating, he also didn't feel the need to commit to you. He's just experiencing, but he liked for sure. He just saw something new or different in your friend, that's all.

Sorry for what happened.

I've had something similar happen to me.

And good luck :)
quire
2016-12-13 08:25:40 UTC
nicely the female who's saving is for marriage for sure has diverse values to the experienced boy. for sure he will opt for intercourse and could look eles the place. Saving it for marriage is a huge theory you in basic terms ought to ascertain your companion feels a similar way as nicely
Marcella V
2008-07-25 19:45:24 UTC
no its not wrong that you fell for him but u did see what tipe of guy he turned out to be hugh. u dont need him if hes going to bee like that no girl should be made feel like that buy a guy. and it might hurt but u have to deal with it and just for get about that lozer k ^-^
anonymous
2008-07-25 19:45:45 UTC
Uhh oh. i think you might have just been played. sounds like he's a player and moves on to a lot of different girls. Try to move on, or make him jealous, or just flat out ask him why he did that.



OR he was trying to make you jealous, but i think he's just a player.
anonymous
2008-07-25 19:43:40 UTC
If that person is one of your best friends then she should have reacted much more mature than that. Get her back somehow.... even though thats bad thats really the only thing
Nina M
2008-07-25 19:44:33 UTC
Maybe your friend kinda got jealous and peeped a little lies about you? Its happened to me or maybe he just liked her better. Its kinda hard to understand guys but I try to understand them.
I am, I said
2008-07-25 19:48:30 UTC
I say he is well on his way to becoming a "Player".



Smart, self-respecting females do not fall for this game.
*Jade Innle of Nature*
2008-07-25 19:43:14 UTC
he could just be a really nice guy with a big heart and finds it easy to get close to girls, just try and spend time with him still, but let him choose who he likes!
Danni P
2008-07-25 19:42:52 UTC
aww thats sadd talk 2 himm and ask himm if theres sumthing wrong anf talk to ur "frend" and tel lher u liked him first
Jaclyn
2008-07-25 19:52:41 UTC
That is super cute, but for him not to talk to you because your cousin was there and flirting with her is wrong.

He's a player and that's for real.
anonymous
2008-07-25 19:44:25 UTC
this is called a 'player', 'cheater', 'scum'.

he was just charming you! forget about him, there will be plenty more guys like him, so at least now you know how to spot them.
anonymous
2008-07-25 19:43:54 UTC
he's probably a player :D um...sounds like a jerk to me. he's a christian??? lol my a55...4get about the bastard! and your friend should have told him 2 leave her alone..some kind of friend that is..they're both jerks...they can go to hell for all you should care...
eurofreak
2008-07-25 19:42:55 UTC
WHATS THE POINT OF THIS QUESTION?
anonymous
2008-07-25 19:43:37 UTC
he's a jerk who played you.
Jason M.
2008-07-25 19:42:05 UTC
hehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehe
anonymous
2008-07-25 19:43:07 UTC
well he's an a hole
Now is the time for Hope
2008-07-25 19:42:23 UTC
wow, idk what the hell was going through his head.


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