I am 28 years old and I'm intimate with a guy who's 20. I wanted to know if this is OK. he does make me happy

Question

He keeps my laughing he eases my mind from the pain that i have been going through and he ask me to have his baby i just want to know if I'm doing the right thing.

Answer 1

Well since a woman reaches her sexual peak when she is 30, and a guy when he is 18, theoretically you two should be the perfect match.

Answer 2

Sure it's OK. Compatibility is what matters in any relationship, and this guy's clearly doing you a whole lot of good, as I'm sure you are to him. Besides, so many guys out there of your age and older have an emotional maturity that's much less than a 20-year-old's.



The baby issue is a huge decision to make that may need more time, but don't worry about this insignificant age gap. He makes you happy, and nobody is being exploited or hurt. And as the years pass, the age gap will become less and less apparent anyway, and you'll be glad you stayed with him. Good luck and best wishes.

Answer 3

A lot of it depends on how long you've been together. I wouldn't go jumping into having a baby if you've only been together 6 months or so. And there's nothing wrong with being with a younger guy. Guys date younger women all the time and it's considered cool. It's just one of those flip-flop subjects where it's weird for a woman to do it. If he makes you happy, that's great. Take the relationship further first to decide if you two want to be together forever. If you decide you do, then go for it. If not, you learned something and don't have to worry about raising a child alone if something happens, especially during the prime of your life.

Answer 4

Is there a reason he only wants you to be the mother of his child and not his wife??? At 20, he is still going thru many growth and development changes that will determine what type of man he will become. 8 years is not that much difference when you look at it as a number. But, 28 and 20 are almost a world apart developmentally. Unfortunately, I doubt it will stand the test of time.....enjoy it for what it is.....a good time, laughter, and hopefully amazing sex. And DON'T add a baby to this.....if your asking advice about starting a family on Yahoo....your not ready to be a mom.

Answer 5

Age is not a problem , forget that .!



there is no reason why you two ,may not be an item



He sounds great , go easy on the "baby " thoughts for a while , till you are, sure of his maturity and sense of responsibility .



I hope you will continue to find happiness, together, for a very long time .

Good luck

:)

Answer 6

First off you not an inmate in Jail as the first person responded to your question.



My answer to this is yes its good to go for it IF your both really in love and the time being together does not matter for I am married for the last 10 great years and I knew her for only 3 months, we just really felt a great connection to us.



And that was the end of that WE are still very happily married.



It sounds like true love to me.........So best of luck with that decision.

Answer 7

let's see,, not that these individuals are role models, but you have Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher, Kevin Kline and Phoebe Cates, there once was Barbara Streisand with Andre Agassi, before he convinced the world that Steffi Graff wasn't a lesbian! oh yeah, what about that teacher and student who had sex and recently married. It's been done before so what's the big deal about age>?

Answer 8

I'm 32 and my Fiancee is 27. Who cares how old you are as long as he's over 18 you have nothing to worry about.

Answer 9

you sound to me like you are a very immature 28 yrs old!. The he/said she said my god woman!! Having a baby...ARE you NUTS ....certifiable i do believe!



sounds to me like you're using the 20/yr old as your sexual therapist to ease whatever this pain you say you're having.



LIke get a life, get a grip, and wisen up to the 28 years you say you are!

Answer 10

sure but in the long run if your looking for love remember you can mold a 20 year old a 40 year old is already taught

Answer 11

You are both adults. If he is good to you and you love him, go for it. Men do it all the time. If the 2 of you are happy, that's what matters.

Answer 12

If he makes you happy and you both are ready for a baby then go for it. I think that it's completely ok.

Answer 13

its great that you found someone that you can love like that. good for you. age is just a number as long as you are happy then there is nothing wrong with it. good for you. couger. lol good luck and don't care what others say about this. you are allowed to live life how you want it.

Answer 14

Hot young *** or old Pu**y, HHmmm? By the time hes 30 your gonna be hitting 40. You will be passing your expiration date. and young girls are gonna want him cause hes older, unless hes ugly as hell with no money.

Answer 15

if he makes you as happy as you say he does it shouldnt even be a question.. if your asking this because of him asking to have his child then maybe your not ready for that, and only you can decide if you are, not any of us.. if your askin because of the age difference, well that should even be an issue, its only a number and your not that much older..

Answer 16

You are fine with him - but do not have his baby -- till you have been togeather for say 2 years and you have got married first -- it is ridiculous to talk of babies in courting -- enjoy life togeather first without burdoning yourselves..

Answer 17

If he makes u happy and hes happy then go for it, u shouldnt worry about wot any one else thinks its just about u and him no one's getting hurt in the process r they. Just go for it. Good luck hope it wrks out for u.

Answer 18

What does your local laws dictate? Some states say under 21 is underaged and would consider your relationship statutory rape.

Answer 19

follow your heart girl... i f he makes you happy then stay with him. when someone makes you happy and feels like nothing else matters then stay with him.... age don't really mean that much. but remember that he is still young and he might want to have fun, being the guy that he is.... trust your feelings and your heart.

Answer 20

Men generally grow up real slow....I would wait with the baby....go ahead and date, but family decision is a serious decision. You don't want to end up bringing your baby up all by yourself....

Answer 21

if this guy makes you happy, then make the mest of your intimacy and be sure not to hurt his feelings by telling him that you are not sure you feel ok with your relationship. keep yourself happy and try to help him to be happy also good luck.

Answer 22

Sure its ok if you're in love with someone younger than you. My mom is 7 years older than my dad.

Answer 23

HE HAS MANY YEARS YET TO MATURE TO CATCH UP WITH YOUR 28 YEARS. ENJOY THE SEX AND HOLD OFF ON THE REST FOR A FEW YEARS TO SEE IF HE CATCHES UP WITH YOU.

Answer 24

I say go for it. If he's happy and you are too then who can stand in your way? May your home be blessed.

Answer 25

Yes because both of you are of age so go for it.

Answer 26

I don't see a problem! If he makes you happy, then thats fine, plus, he's REALLY close to your age group!

Answer 27

hey most girls want an older guy 'cause they are more mature than the ones their age you are the opposite.... just so long as he's not half your age

Answer 28

I see no problem. If your ok with the relationship, more power to you girl.



Good Luck!

Answer 29

a little r kelly half on a baby maybe hell p on u

Answer 30

If you found a diamond, would you throw it back because it had one tiny flaw

Answer 31

age is just a number. do what makes you happy.

Answer 32

You know best.

The two of you should make the decision. Nobody can do it for you.

Answer 33

no babies, that's my rule of thumb, but if he makes you happy, then more power to you

Answer 34

Don't have his baby until he's married you.

Answer 35

no it is not ok you are to old

Answer 36

YOUR IN JAIL............. I HAVE NO IDEA! WHATS U IN 4.

Answer 37

its fine !!!!!?!?!?!?

Answer 38

why not...........................