The Ex- GF wants to have lunch?

Question

Ok, here is the deal.

I was with this girl for about a year and 1/2 . Everything seemed seamless and amazing until it got to the summer of 08 it was mid June when she started working 40+ hours a week and soon chose to spend time with her friends instead of me. After a strain of our relationship during July she broke up with me in August 3 days before my birthday over the phone. She gave me the flat out reasons at the time. It was because we couldn’t spend time with one another like we use too. Then there was not much phone conversation between us. Yet, she still wanted to be “friends” though I was hurt at the time I didn’t really want to hear anything of it. Yet, she knew that I loved her and still love her pretty hardcore to this very day.

Well the months past to this current stage. There have been conversations mainly texting, online, with little phone calls, because she’s super busy, oh me telling her I still care about her. She only acts coy to me and well she can never be flat out honest how she feels. This December rolled around and I wished her a happy Birthday. Next day she texts me telling me she wants to have lunch to give me back like 2 DVD’s I left at her house and old college notes I let her have last spring. I don’t know why she wants to really talk to me again since our communication has been lacking on and off for a good long while now. I’m suspecting really that this lunch she’s proposing is more than about giving back notes she could have just thrown away and DVDs that I didn’t remember off the bat I left there. I’ve talked to many of my friends about this whole situation. Some say she wants to keep her foot in the door. Others say she wants to be friends. Others say she’s looking for a romp in the hay. All awhile I hear another angle of she’s just trying to get the last bits of you out of her life. Personally, I honestly think Id take her back even if she was as bad to me. .. But What do you guys/girls think? If you have more questions just messenger me.

Answer 1

Ex wants to have lunch ...

-Code For- "I'm bored and want to toy with your feelings and I know you don't have the strength to say no"



Remember this time your a volunteer ... not a victim.

Answer 2

Baby, you need to let go a bit. I know it's hard, but I can tell you that you're holding on too tight. She obviously wants to talk about something else, but she's just not saying what. Go to the lunch and be prepared for something that she couldn't tell you over the phone or a message. Chances are that it's about something you don't wanna hear, since she wouldn't even hint at it.



You shouldn't say things like you would take her back even if she was mean to you. That's just looking like you're having a real hard time letting go. I really can't tell you what to do, but I can wish you luck.



Good Luck, bud! Try not to sell yourself short, either.

Answer 3

I think she wants to get back together with you. That the faint communication brought back memories or something. That she is finally realizing how she wants you back and that is why she wants to meet with you because I think she is going to ask for you back. If it is not that then the only thing i can think of is to agree with the friends who wants to get you out of her life but i doubt that because she has been talking to you. Especially if she started talking to you first. Also like you said she could have thrown the notes away and given the DVD's to someone else if she really wanted you out her life.

Answer 4

Are you sure this is the first contact they have had? Well it's obvious that he needs to decline her invitation, and let her know that he has moved on with his life and is happily married. Make him be the one to do this to her, it will mean more coming from him instead of you. He can do this via email or however he was contacted from her. I would stand over his shoulder to make sure it's done in a manner that is stern enough for her not to think she can drop a friendly email here and there.

Answer 5

She wants to have lunch. Maybe she's worried about you and wants to see you again. She saw the DVD's and thought, "Hey, I can go talk to this cool guy I dated. I'll give him a call." Nothing sinister about it.

Answer 6

If you want to dine with her--go ahead...nothing more. Take it from there-depending on how you feel about her after the lunch.

Answer 7

Tell her to get lost. Have you ever heard of the STD revenge? What if she has aids?

Answer 8

really are u a chick now u really typed all that out holy **** I didnt read it but tell ur ex to **** off or just **** and leave

Answer 9

if its love then you'll be back together again





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