So he stopped calling,should I e-mail him?

Question

Alright, I was corresponding with this guy, and we made plans (he asked me) to meet up. Then one day, bam,I never got any responses back from him via text, and when I call the number, it says "the subscriber is not availlable''. Now, I get the funny feeling that he may have disconnected his number so he wouldn't have to speak to me...but I want to e-mail him and ask him whats up, just because I think in this day and age, if you aren't into someone, you should let them know, not flake out and ignore them. I mean, as adults is this so hard? Seriously. Forget all the "he's just not that into you crap", am I wrong to e-mail, or does this make me look psycho? I just feel I deserve an answer, and "no answer" still does not justify as an answer.

Answer 1

I would not recommend trying to find someone online in the first place, but there are SOME happy endings to an online romance. It is rare though.



Sounds like this guy lost interest or maybe he did find someone else online?? What a bummer that would be.



I think you do deserve an answer, but if he has not corresponded in a few days, then he may have moved on.



If you still feel like giving him another chance, you could e-mail him a message that says: "I tried to call you and the phone said "subscriber is not available"....Are you still available? Jane Doe 1-555-444-1212 (Put your name and number at the end.)



That's it.....nothing else. If you still do not receive a reply, then you have your answer.



If he does not reply, don't take it personally. It just wasn't meant to be. Really though, would you want to be with someone that ignores you anyways? I would give him the benefit of the doubt still (since you sound like a very trusting person)....maybe he got his phone disconnected or he lost his charger? Maybe he's been in a car accident? Whatever the reason is that you are still trying to hold onto him, just remember that love is a two way street...and if he's not on your side, he's moving away from you.

Answer 2

Just look at it this way, one day down the road when your no longer bitter, you might just find a really cool guy and your both totally into each other and then bam you find out he knows this guy you called out on an email, being a jerk. If you don't care what happens, or think this is highly unlikely, remember the world is small and it could happen. So, let it go!

Answer 3

open a clean e mail account and in basic terms provide the hot handle to friends and family individuals for deepest communicaiton. shop a 2d e mail for issues like on line banking, club memberships, becoming on line identity's for web pages etc. Plus, i've got discovered that Gmail is excelent at filtering unsolicited mail. i'm getting approximately 30 unsolicited mail emails per day yet they never get during the filter out into my inbox. and that i've got not neglected an e mail that grow to be by danger filtered by skill of the unsolicited mail filter out.

Answer 4

oh hun. i havee been in this situation before. it is so hard. you were into him and wanted to see what would develp between you both, but then BAM. he was gone. something could be up. he could have lost his phone or broken it or something genuine like that. i doubt he would have disconnected his phone just to avoid you unless he had tried to get you to leave him alone and you missed then hints. If you are going to send him an email, only send ONE and then leave it up to him. Just say something casual like, "hey, haven't heard from you in a while and was just wondering what is going on? everything ok?" and then leave it up to him. if you keep bothering him you'll come off desperate so just send one email and then leave the ball in his court.

Answer 5

all i can really say is send him one email. ONE. and tell him what you just told us.



if you get no response, well that is a response. unfortunately.



oh, and to save yourself some of the "i wish i had..." write the email, and let it sit in your drafts for a day or 2. then if you think of something to add you can. or re-read it and edit things you'd thought you'd wanted to say that may not have been so smart or reword things. and you could add those after thoughts.

Answer 6

Give up, it sounds like the guy has no coping skills and is a big child. You are way better off without that garbage. It's better it ended before it began. Find someone less damaged.

Answer 7

Woah- calm down.

Lol it could be something as simple as not paying a phone bill.

That could just mean he's Broke ;) Lol.

But doesnt mean he isnt into you.

Yeah go ahead and email him and ask him whats up..

but not more than once.

if he doesnt respond to the first email you pretty much have your answer.

Answer 8

It's not wrong to email him and ask what's going on.



Just be cool with him. Just tell him his phone disconnected.



Don't be so pessimistic about it.



NOT SAYING THIS IS TRUE, but.. If he does say he is not into you (and I'm NOT in any way trying to make you feel bad), just tell him you just would like to be friends if he isn't interested.

Answer 9

Yeah, just email him and ask what's going on, in plain words. If he still doesn't reply, then well...forget about him. Then you'll know that he's obviously not mature enough to be honest.

Answer 10

you're right. if he did attempt to stop all means of communication, i find that silly and immature, and you shouldnt be wasting time with those kind of guys. you deserve some kind of closure or answer. however, it could just be a miscommunication, and so you should email and find out whatsup. =] good luck.

Answer 11

Go for the e-mailing you deserve to know whats going on.

Answer 12

Why would you even want a guy who won't swim through shark infested waters to bring you a lemonade?



Or maybe he couldn't pay his phone bill and he's embarrassed.

Answer 13

If you want an answer, then email him. Who cares what he thinks of it. But theres no guarantee youll get an answer. Good Luck

Answer 14

no defintitley email see whats up if he asked you to do these things i am sure he wants you to talk to him he wouldn't have asked you too if he didn't so give it a try hope all goes well good luck :D

Answer 15

Just leave it alone why e-mail him he wasn't man enough to tell you what happen he's no good! Fall back

Answer 16

well depends if you really really like him. i wouldnt like to email him because that would make me feel desperate.. what i would do is just ignore what happened. and pretend that you dont really care. maybe it might get his attetion.. :)



hope i helped

Answer 17

it won't hurt to email him. go ahead and get it over with. what's the worst thing that could happen - he won't respond? at least then you would know for sure.

Answer 18

if it were me...i would wait maybe a week or two cause you don't want to sound obsessed.



Good Luck!

Answer 19

just do what you wanna do. Listen to your hear when it's callig for u listen to your heart....... haha jk. Just listen to ur heart

Answer 20

email him, dont let your imagination run wild and make you paranoid :)

Answer 21

your answer is his silence. move on with your life

Answer 22

e-mail him.. tell him bout what you feel.

Answer 23

it would make you look desperate...seriously.