Should I learn to cook for my boyfriend.?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half.

To give you a bit of background to why I'm asking this question here it goes...

So my bf is 25 and I'm 21. He was raised as a mamas boy where his my fed him and spoiled him majority of his life. He doesn't know how to cook and doesn't want to learn.

As for me I was spoiled all my life and my mom and older brother taught me the "why buy the cow if you can have the milk for free" mentality. So b/c I never had to cook for myself and I always happen to come across a plate I feel I don't need to cook until I'm married.

My boyfriend and I don't live together but he feels I should cook for him all the time. I have many him meals just to see him happy. and he looks for a meal everyday.

we both work full time jobs and I come home just as tired as he is.

Also, I know many females who do everything for their man and they are yet to get a ring. I don't want to live that lifestyle and be "hopelessly devoted."

My guy is used to females feeding him anytime he likes. But I'm not used to feeding other ppl on the norm at all.

I've asked him to learn to cook w/ me but that hasn''t been too effective.

What should I do?

Answer 1

Discuss this with your boyfriend. Tell him how you are not use to cooking for others. (You probably have already done this) The best route would be to learn together. I know you mentioned its not working that well, but you can MAKE it work well. If he doesn't at first, learn to cook for yourself, you are going to have to one day anyways. And when you do, ONLY cook for yourself. Make him learn to cook on his own if he doesn't want to learn with you. If this causes your relationship to get rocky and go to the deep end, then is the relationship worth it? If he can't learn to cook with you, what else is he not going to be able to learn with you?



Me, I love women that can cook. But I also love cooking. Having a meal set up when you arrive home from work, or making a meal ready for when your bf/gf gets home is awesome. But it needs to work both ways since both of you are working.

Answer 2

Just flat out, dont cook for him one night or a few, and see what he does. If he freaks out on you and asks why you aren't cooking anymore, tell him i'll cook for you once we can cook together, or you cook for me once in a while. See what he says with that. Maybe suprise him one night and take him to a cooking class sort of thing, where you can do it together but as a date.

Answer 3

You can't teach an old dog new tricks. If he's never learned how to cook and doesn't have a DESIRE to want to LEARN how to he aint EVER going to cook. I say dump him! You guys don't balance eachother out.

Answer 4

Don't only do it for him, do it for yourself. Otherwise you might be getting takeout every night. And by the time your 30 you will both be obese and not attracted to each other anymore. My girlfriend wants to cook for me, it should be something you want to do for your boyfriend.

Answer 5

HELL no send him back to mama or hire her for a cook B.S

He will turn out nice and huge if you do sex will not be good once he has a huge stomach ,,trust me I KNOW divorced a lazy bum for that

Answer 6

He's just being too god damn lazy. Yu need to tell him to grow up, and that u will only cook for him if he helps and sometimes cooks for u

Answer 7

i way to a man's heart is through his stomach. But dont do it if its only to make him happy. Don't make yourself miserable.

Answer 8

YES!!!!!!!!!

A girl that does not know how to cook is nothing!!!!!