Ex bf is talking to a girl who was the reason for our break up?

Question

he used to like her a lot before we went out but she rejected him and she was his best female friend. they weren't talking when we went out but recently something happened and they started talking again. it was initially on facebook..then she commented on his pic, he liked her status, liked her pic (nothing flirty) but i was jealous. he used to reassure me that nothing was wrong but i hated her and he knew it. he still did it. and the other day he commented again (it was a normal one) but i got mad and accused him of seeing her profile and pictures everytime he logged in.he got mad at me and said that he didn't owe me an explanation. later i texted him saying i was breaking up. i apologised after 2 days and i've been trying to make things right but he just made up his mind to move on cuz he couldn't be with someone who doesn't trust him. and he said if i knew him, i would have trusted him blindly. and now he wouldn't change his mind even though i've told him i'm ready to change. but he tells me to stick to my decision and says i was the one who left him and said i acted like i didn't give a **** so why should he give a ****.

i know its time to move on but it was one year and that girl is still posting on his wall etc and it hurts. it feels like he was cheating on me even when we were together.

i don't know what to think. i need your opinions. i know you'll tell me that he's an ex so why are you bothered but it's just that i feel he didn't love me at all and left me when she came back into his life :(

thanks in advance and please don't be rude!

Answer 1

"He left me when she came back into his life".. You left him, for having a friendship with someone he used to care deeply about. I hope you don't mistake my being blunt for being rude, but I do think you're in the wrong here. For most guys- actually, for most people in general- trust is the biggest factor in a relationship, and he obviously didn't have yours, so I can see why he'd be upset. I also see why you could be jealous over their friendship, considering that they used to be more than just friends, but you shouldn't have to force conditions onto someone's love. If you loved him as much as you say you did, why did you let your insecurities get the best of you? :( I understand why he didn't let you take back your rash decision- I personally wouldn't be able to stay in a relationship that dictated who I could be friends with, or where I felt like I wasn't trusted, either. If what you two had was really love, what he said is true: you never should have doubted him, and maybe you didn't know him that well if you did. Besides, likes and wall posts mean close to nothing; doesn't he do the same for other guy and girl friends? It's just a way of staying in touch, and what it meant, if you could have seen it, is that his relationship with her isn't strong or natural enough again to talk face to face. Maybe that would've been questionable, but not this.



She wasn't the reason for the breakup, your insecurities were. Sorry to be so blunt but I think an honest answer is better than just hearing what you want to hear. Good luck, anyway.

Answer 2

No, your insecurity is why you broke up.

Over text no less.



It doesn't matter what she's "famous" for, you let your insecurity get the best of you and broke up with him over text. If you couldn't trust him to be faithful around another girl, that's your problem, not his.

Answer 3

What he is saying are just excuses.

He thought you made him a favor by leaving first. Sorry.

You deserve more. He seems a low man.

Answer 4

Sorry but he like her got feels for her u was his rebound girl

Answer 5

Its to get back at you. He is being spiteful. Forget about him, focus on you