Sex-related performance problem? Or not?

Question

Recently I had the following sex related experiences. I would like the reader's opinion on whether the problem is some sex performance problem with me, or is it a problem with the situation? Has anyone else faced a similar situation? My age: 31.5yrs:
1) Took a girl to a hotel room. She was moderately attractive but I was slightly worried she may be having some STDs. Tried to penetrate her but my penis was not fully erect and got bent away. Then she took it with her hand and pushed it in(she had big clit!). Yes it did go in this time but I lost erection shortly after that and had to withdraw. Result: No intercourse.
2) Visited another girl at her apartment. Her skin complexion was good but she was short and slightly stout. Her looks were about average. Since I was not getting turned on immediately I told her to do some foreplay. She started stroking my penis but I got only a partial erection. I asked her to continue but she became impatient and didn't want to continue the foreplay and asked me to either f**k her or leave! She also told me very rudely that all the guys she had before got erections immediately upon seeing her and I was the odd one out!
3) Visited another girl in a hotel room. On first sight with her clothes on she looked quite decent. However when she took her clothes off, there was nasty scar on her stomach due to some operation. Also some red rashes on her thighs. Got completely turned off. Result - no erection and no sex.
4) Finally out of desperation, I called up an escort girl. She was quite attractive with a good figure and well maintained body. However, I was feeling a bit uncomfortable and a bit disgusted about lying in bed with this kind of a cheap girl. Also felt a bit disgusted about touching her. Erection was a bit slow to come and came only after direct stimulation. Finally asked her to jerk me off with her hand. Even this was not successful since she did not know the proper technique.

After these experiences I really feel disgusted about seeing any girl.
Dear Readers - I just wanted to know is it the problem with me or with the situation? If the problem is with me can anyone pinpoint exactly what it is? Also has anyone had a similar experience like any of the above experiences, or especially like no. 2) above ?
Thanks a lot and I really appreciate your responses!

Answer 1

YES I WILL GIVE YOU THE BEST ANSWER



1) reason 1 is ANXIETY

2) If you don't get fully attracted to some one this can happen

3) If you are worried or feel disgusted this can happen.



while having sex keep yourself cool and think nothing other than sex. Never focus on the negatives

Answer 2

Were these four experiences the only times you have attempted to engage in sex? If not, have you been successful in the past? Did you have dates with these women, with the exception of the escort? Just my opinon, now, if you just want sex, than an escort girl is the woman for that job. If you want meaningful sex with someone you might like or want to see again, I would say get to know that person a little better, date, find out who they are inside and then it would make the sex much better, if you actually liked the person. Use a condum at all times, no matter how attractive she may be or how in to her you may be! I don't think it is a sexual performance problem, though I am not a doctor, just more of a 'confusion' problem as to what you are wanting to get out of the encounter...Sex isn't the end all to take care of all of your needs. Slow down and get to know your prospective partner (s).

Answer 3

Ur problem is anxiety. Without being properly prepared u tried sex. Next time u do it with a selected girl or woman and do it with a cool mind and take ur own time. Don't do in a hurry.

Answer 4

Consult a good qualified sexologist. He must be a qualified Doctor. Never go to any Hakim type man.

You have psychological problem also. It will soon be OK after proper therapy.

Answer 5

stop chasing dogs. You've described all these woman and not very attractive. Or your grossed out by them, so its not surprising that there not getting you there. Either court woman your attracted to. Or take a pill beforehand

Answer 6

You either have a medical condition and should get it checked out OR maybe you should try and experiment with a man. Maybe you are homosexual. You never know until you try it right?

Answer 7

The simple answer to your problem is ANXIETY!!! Get rid of it and you will get your erection assuming you get normal erection at other times!!!

Answer 8

yes

Answer 9

consult doctor

Answer 10

it's simple, you're probably gay