I have a question about interracial dating....please help...?

Question

Hay everyone...this is plagued me for sometime now. Now consider myself to be an extremely liberal person in that I don't have a problem with interracial dating, sexual preferences or race issues. I am a very open and sweet person. I live in a neighborhood that is predominately African American and I go to a college that is predominately Caucasian, now for some reason in my neighborhood finding a good black man is hard (not that there is not good options but some there are many factors)
they are already taken
they are consumed with their work so they don't want to date
some are out for sex only (but that's will all people lol)
or for one reason or another I am not a focus for them
Now I am a very attractive female so for me confidence is not the issue. But what I have been noticing is that more and more people are dating interracial and I was thinking about doing the same. I find some of the Caucasian men on my campus very attractive but the question I involves preference because everyone has one:
how do you know if they are into African American women? (if there is even a way to tell)
and how do I flirt with them or send signals that I'm into them??
also what is it like to be in an interracial relationship or dating scene??
I think more or less I am just shy about crossing racial borders, but to me a person is a person, but I just want to know as much as I can about interracial dating before I jump in.

PS>> I am also on a dating website and wonder how to hit up guys on there???

thanks so much in advance for the advice...please no hateful comments ((love))

Answer 1

I personally really don't care about skin color if he is good to you, loves you ant treats you with respect then he is good for you. the only thing is that you have different skin color. just look for the person who is right for you mentally, physically, and spiritually. Don't worry about skin color

Answer 2

I personally wouldn't date an African American (but that's me), but I understand your view in this situation, and I don't have a problem with other people doing it. I would date a latino, and caucasians. You have to surround yourself with the right people. You must get to know this person first before you try to commit to going into a interracial relationship. Make a lot of guy friends and hang around them. Ask them over time what their goals are and how they feel about the issue with interracial dating. Most guys really don't care about race...however some will be worried about what other people would think of them and that's a big issue for SOME of them...

Talking things over with them will help you get an idea if they are into that kind of thing. Also, you can flirt with them by giving them a nicknames... giving them your phone number, and asking for a night out just to "get to know each other some more"... there are tons of things you can do to flirt! Have fun! Good Luck with your dating!

Answer 3

I have also been verrry attracted to african american women, much more then my own race ( caucasian) i was also wondering about the same things as you. I think everyone has pretty much the same insecurities as others.

I think showing the people your true side and what you are truly feeling about things is more then enough when it comes to dating white men.

As for dating websites,,,, how about me and you trying it out. I am very handsome and successful as well. I'm 25 with very big light blue eyes, athletic, 6', with a mild muscular body. I am a little tanned but i bet its not as much as you. j/k lol.

I don't know worth a try you never know, seems like an opportunity to me. we seem to have some in common. except the color (lol) but it works out awesome for the both of us i think.

Answer 4

White males are usually open to interracial dating more than other races, which is a plus, unless you mean asians/indians/natives/mexicans also.

All males are the same no matter the race ... It is pretty easy to tell if they are interested into you.



Dating services are no good. Try to hook up with someone at school. Befriend them and start hanging out with them and see where things go.



Make sure your neighbor hood is open to interracial relationships also, family and friends should support relationships not suppress them.



Good luck.

Answer 5

my first and only interracial relationship went well and most likley would have gone better if it was for certain situations. i'm black and he's white and our races had nothing to do with anything. he treated me like he would anyone else he likes. and i did the same. as a matter of fact the thought didnt cross my mind that i was dating a "white boy" untill after the relationship but still that means nothing to me. i say you go for it! theres no harm in trying. and for those of you saying that u dont approve of interrracial relationships for a childs sake. thats bs! everybodys mixed with something somewhere along the lines and plus were all the same color when the lights are out. =]

Answer 6

There is nothing wrong with inter racial dating, I am currentely dating a nice caucasian lad.

I sometimes have trouble finding a decent black man, I have ended up dating useless black men who are not up for commitment.

The best inter racial dating website you should join is swirlbop or swirlpop? (don't quite get the word).

Good luck in finding your nice caucasian boy.

Answer 7

To be honest with you im not a racist person but i am against interracial dating only because if a couple should have children those children may have to deal with discrimination from black and white cultures. As a white male i would be willing to have a fling with a black girl but it would never get serious. However if you really want to attract a white man, just go up to him and introduce yourself. See if the two of you share any common interests.

Answer 8

Well,I am a white male(50) and I am just wondering why you think flirting with a white man is any different than with one of African-American descent. We all all the same as people. Some of us are good,some are bad and all of us need love and acceptance. Good luck and happy hunting!

Answer 9

wow, and i thought guys were easy to read, guess not, erm well tbh it's a very difficult subject and i wouldn't be able to give any decent advice so all i can say is, don't be bothered about the interracial thing, if anybody else doesn't like it it's they're problem, just do with the white guys what u would do with the black guys

Answer 10

my husband is Mexican and i'm white.... and honestly i never think about him being a different race... i don't think, i love my Mexican husband, i think, i love my husband. when i first met him i treated him and flirted with him just like every other guy i had been interested in before him.



we've been fortunate that our friends and family feel the same way. but of course there are ignorant people who are going to judge. bottom line, if you're feelin someone then go for it. black, white, yellow, brown, whatever. you fall in love with the person not the color.

Answer 11

I love all types of women. I date all types. I got so bored just dating white girls. Go with your heart and look past race. I personally love latinas and blacks the most. Just make sure you really are NOT being racist.

Answer 12

I hate questions that are so bloody long so I didn't bother reading it. Women are women skin color only goes so deep. When you think about we are the same color on the inside, bloody rojo.

Answer 13

We should learn to live in racial harmony. Follow your heart.

Answer 14

When you race mix you are effectively destroying tens of thousands of years of genealogical heritage, you are also raising a mixed child who will be raised without a proper racial identity.