do you think that i am a slut/hoe?

Question

I'm friends with a lot of guys at school. i just feel more comfortable around guys. i don't have a current boyfriend and i honestly do not "like" anyone. At my lunch table 2 of my ex-boyfriends sit with me...well it's more like i sit with them but still. My two ex's are J and R. 3 other friends are M, T, and Z. For the last 5 months i've sat in the same seat at the lunch table and i'm the only girl. (there was another girl but she moved and i just kept sitting there cuz still friends w/ guys) T came up to me and patted my butt. i turned and glared at him but didn't say anything. it didn't happen again for a while so i didn't really think anything of it. About a week later R calls me a slut. and J starts laughing. I literally HATE J so i just laughed and shook it off. T and Z are constantly hitting my chest (never grabbing) and slapping my *** and they always put their hands on my legs (keep in mind i'm sitting) and basically feeling me up. Every single time i shake my head no, glare at them, or say no. even if i don't say the word no, i ALWAYS move their hand away. it's not sexual harassment (if you're going to tell me to report them, your waisting your breath cuz i'm not going to), they aren't attracted to me, don't like me, they are just kidding and messing around with me. you might not believe it but they do this kind of thing as a joke. i don't hate it, but i don't like it, i don't encorage them ever. i always try to DIScourage it. i don't wear skimpy clothes. acutally i'm almost always in jeans and a t-shirt or a long sleve shirt. i honestly don't see what i'm doing wrong besides not reporting them but i won't because i don't want them to get mad at me because like i said they are just messing around. my friends have a cruel sense of humor. none of them have done anything more than feel me up, i've never touched them, i try to stop it. in all honesty am i a slut or a hoe? if so why?

Answer 1

I don't think you are a "slut or a hoe" I think that these guys are. They do not have any respect for you. They may be mad because they want you and can't have you, so sometimes even though it makes no sense, guys will treat a woman like crap espeicially around other guys. Don't allow yourself to be treated that way. Don't "deal with it', you do not deserve that kind of treatment. If they are really your friend and have respect for you they will realize and regret how they treated you when you quit hanging around them. Hopefully they will apologize to you, if not, stay away from them. I also find that I would rather be around males than females. I have 4 best friends, all male. You should be around friends (male and female) that respect you. But first you have to respect yourself. Take Care

Answer 2

It is sexual harassment but you don't want to report it because you are scared what they will say or think of you if you do report it.



I would suggest you stop sitting with them. Go and sit with the girls instead and if those guys ask why you stopped sitting with them tell them. I'm sorry but if they were your real friends they wouldn't so that - it is sexual harassment and it's very disrespectful.



You're not a hoe - they are disgusting sleazes. Stop making excuses for them - really good guys don't do that. Just because they are nice to you the other half of the time when they are not sexually harassing you it doesnt make them good guys.

Answer 3

You're not the slag, those f*cking lamers are. Hang around in a better crowd, people like those are nothing but trouble, trust me. I'd actually say this is sexual harassment, they're touching you for the pleasure and thrill, it turns them on and you let them do it so you're encouraging them; even if you look at them in a way which suggest you don't like it you're still not physically doing anything about it so they will continue to do it. Next time one of them does it just punch him in the balls and he won't do it again. If you don't start hanging around with different people you will soon get the reputation of being a slag because not everyone will know that you don't like them touching you so they'll think you let people touch you up because you're a slag when really, you aren't.

Answer 4

I don't think that you are a slut/hoe. When I was in high school I have 2 friends that always did that to me. One day I just got so mad at them that I said do that to me one more time I will kick you in the balls. AND THEY HONESTLY STOPPED. LOL. But then everything was cool. I think that since it has been happening for a while that they are just reacting to that all the time. But when you come back at them then they will understand.

Answer 5

Well in my mind, a slut/hoe is someone that has sexual relations with many different people in a short period of time. Since you didn't mention anything like that, then I would say no. Really though, they shouldn't be touching you like they do.

Answer 6

I do not think you are what you are asking but I do think you are being a bit naive you need to stop them touching you up, maybe if you respond by repeating the action on them and see if they like it if it does not stop tell the guys you do like that you are sorry but you will not sit with them while their friends are behaving like animals

Answer 7

i definitly don't think your a slut but i do think you should be stricter with them and tell them to knock it off. Your letting then take avantage of you even though your not meaning to. Its not that big of a deal but you should still try to be a little more strict if you ask me.

Answer 8

No, you're just stupid for letting them perve on you like this.

Why don't you make some other friends, girls preferably, and hang with them? You don't deserve to be treated so disrespectfully by these guys.