shes avoiding me isnt she?

Question

i went out with this girl 2 days ago. we were cool through texts, she was into me from what i absorbed (she was flirting, she wanted me to come over and cuddle with her), but i wasnt as much, and she kept hinting for a date, and eventually i made plans with her. come time the day of the date, i meet up with her and just completley fell for her (she looked increadibly gorgeous, i was just stunned) and of course my "i dont really care" mentality switched to "oh my god, i dont want to screw this up with you at all". told her that she looked great, we continued with a whole bunch of small talk, got tickets, and went in. awkward tensions sorta happened, she wouldnt put her arm on the rest to avoid touch, she was twiddling her fingers, bitting her nails, etc. eventually she did put her arm on the rest, and i just went ahead and put my arm around her. she scooted closer, and id say things got a bit better because she stopped fidgeting and became more giggly at the movie. mind you we kept making remarks about the movie and whatnot. she eventually said she needed to goto the bathroom, and by instinct i assumed she didnt want to be held any longer, so i didnt bother putting my arm around her again when she got back. movie ended, we continued talking as we walked about stuff, drove her home, and walked her to her door. she said she had a great night, hugged me, and said for me to have fun at university (i go to university while shes a year younger and still a senior in highschool).

so anyway, my phone dies when i get home and lucky me i left my charger at school. i send her a message on fb saying id text her the following day when i get my charger.

so yesterday, i head over to school, pick my charger up, and then text her asking her wats up around 6ish. she said on the date that she has soccer and dance around that time, so she didnt respond naturally. around 11 or so i go see her fb status saying something that indicated something sh*tty happened, and from what i absorbed from all the messages telling her to get better, and to keep her leg elevated, i assumed she broke her leg. i then texted her asking if she broke broke her leg, with no response...

is she really just blowing me off with the lack of response? imo i think she is. i feel i kinda screwed up the date because i just felt more awkward as things progressed. but really, i want to show her how great of a guy i am, that night was just a test run, and really i can open up way more than that, and im just a lot of fun to be around.

like the fact that she may have broken her leg, would that be a reason shes not responding to me? i only want to console her, b/c i know what its like to go through an injury like that.

I even had the balls to give her a call her today, when neither of us have spoken to eachother over the phone before (only talked through texts). And of course this failed too, the phone rang a couple of times, then it cut off (went to the call waiting tone). So my assumptions are only just adding up, that i messed up, she doesnt want anything to do with me anymore, and is just her way of letting me go because she doesnt want to tell me to my face that she doesnt want to see me anymore...

do i continue to try text her? Ask her why she isnt repsonding? Tell her how i feel? Maybe apoloigze if i made the night awkward, that a 2nd date would be better? Or just wait it out for a week with me no longer trying to contact her, and see if she ever gets back to me? Like to go from talking all week nonstop, to non responsive, i find it weird, like at least a response to whether shes feeling alright.

and now i feel that i also scared her off with all the atempts of contact, regardless if she had a reason to not get back to me. god i just want to talk to her like we used to.

like she shows activity of fb, commenting on her status about her leg. this again only adds to my suspicion

someone help me out, i like her, a lot. And from what i felt, she liked me back.

sorry for the long drawn out qestion. this is my 1st actual date with a girl (yea pathetic i know)

Answer 1

You are taking it WAY to hard on yourself. First, i think you might be a little to 'clingy.' I think you should just give her some time and when she feels like talking to you, she will... Dont worry everything will work out.

Answer 2

I would go with this option: "just wait it out for a week with me no longer trying to contact her, and see if she ever gets back to me"



Give her space/time. She is probably just stressed out about her leg, and it has nothing to do with you. I wouldn't worry that you did anything wrong on the date, it sounds like it went fine/well! I think the best thing for you to do since you've already contacted her a few times, is to just let go and give it some time and don't contact her again 'til you hear from her.



I know how ya feel though, it's easy to worry about and over analyze dates. It's easy to do, but just remember to try to have fun and not worry so much :) Who knows, maybe things will work out with this girl, maybe they won't. The best thing you can do is just not worry about it! Hope that helped...

Answer 3

If she's taking section in complicated to get, then you definately could play an similar sport! in elementary words textual content her at the same time as she texts you and make it look like you're not from now on stricken and she will manage to need you more beneficial, and then at the same time as she's texting you lots and assembly up with you, ask her out