Went on a date with the girl I really like. Went well but we didn't kiss. Did I blow it?

Question

So finally got to go on date with the girl I really like! She happens to be the sister of a friend of mine which he doesn't see as an issue btw. The date went great - she is an architect so took her to a bar on the 31st floor of arguably the most amazing structural building in London which she loved! Conversation went great and she looked stunning! She was intrigued when we would go next so told her we are going for dinner - tool a taxi there and she loved it too! Following dinner we went for a walk together and stopped in a bar along the way which she liked - stayed there for a drink until it closed. Walked with her a little more and before she got into the taxi home she hugged me and we kissed on the cheek (she is Spanish so normal
Kiss). Gutted I didn't kiss her to at least show I really liked her more. Made a massive effort for this date and she loved it. She is here for another day then goes back home in Spain just for a week before returning here. Questions: 1) did I blow it by not kissing her? 2) Should I message her/call today (day after date) to ask her out on a second date or wait till she gets back?

Answer 1

no no call her later in the week



do not text



just call her but not immediately



see if she's interested doing something together

but don't make it too extravagant this time

that is if she accepts





if she calls YOU that is a bonus

Answer 2

It sounds like you both had a great time, I don't think you blew it at all! I've been dating this girl and I felt the same after the first date as we only kissed on the cheek. The second date was the same although I she smiled and you could tell it was more than a peck. The third and forth dates ended with a proper kiss. I think you should maybe hang fire on texting her till later on, if you do t here from her then say you enjoyed it and would like do do something when she gets back if she fancies it.

Answer 3

Don't worry about it. Call and tell her you had a great time and would like to go out again. Don;t leave it vague, though, have something in mind for the actual date, and make a specific day/time for it with her (for after when she gets back). Let her know you understand she's busy at the moment with her trip, and that you just wanted to let her know you had fun and make a date for after her return, too. That you want to go out again and have put some thought into it should tell her quite well that you enjoyed being with her. :) That you are telling her without playing any waiting games, and yet are respecting her situation too at the moment, should tell her you;re a class act yourself.

Answer 4

1) No, if you'd blown it you wouldn't have got even a cheek kiss. The hug is a good sign.



2) Call her, don't message her. Tell her you had a great time and would like to see her again when she gets back from Spain. At this point agree to call her to arrange something once she's back, don't interrupt her trip home unless she calls you.

Answer 5

No you didn't blow it, it's the first date and some girls don't like kissing on the first date as its too forward.

I'd say wait until the second anyway so you made a good choice. Definitely wait till she gets back to ask her out again as its too forward and she'll probably be busy anyway with packing etc

Good luck

Answer 6

You didnt blow it! Just call her and tell her you had lots of fun and that you should go on another date before she leaves. Dont wait to long to call her

girls get insecure and try to forget you because they feel bad about themselves just saying. If you wait to long you might lose the opportunity for her to develop feelings for you. Good luck!

Answer 7

1. I don't think you blew it.

2. I would wait til she gets back but keep in touch to stay mutual and know what's going on.