Can a relationship survive, without mutual interest in sex? In other words is love, enough? Some say yes, others say no, but I'm interested, in your opinion. Oh, and take your time.
28 answers:
jessielouise11
2007-08-08 22:26:32 UTC
This is very good question. I have had a relationship that was just about love and no sex. It was a very fun relationship and I enjoyed it very much. After a year though, it started to become an issue to us. This was a mutual decision, but I started to think that maybe since my boyfriend didn't push the issue that maybe he didn't think I was attractive, or that he was gay, and even though he said he was ok with waiting he was having second thoughts too. Eventually the doubts clouded our relationship and we ended it. This wasn't the main reason the relationship ended but I believe it had alot to do with it.
To hurry this answer along, I will have to say that in my experience that sex is an important part of intimacy in a love relationship and one that can certainly make a difference to the couple. There are plenty of relationships out there that make it without sex, they are called friends!
2007-08-02 04:50:16 UTC
I think sex can be important to some and not in others, that is why you get the different opinions.
If two people have strong sex drives, but are not interested in each other physically, then there will be troubles. Love is strong, but sometimes not as strong as the libido, especially in the young.
Now, I personally think that sex becomes awesome when you are with the person you really love, so it becomes a non-factor. Now the little things come into play, little habits that were endearing at the beginning can be annoying later on. This is why so many people encourage you to take relationships slow.
I disagree. Take it fast. Enjoy it while you can. If it was meant to be, then you will stay together. If it wasn't meant to be, at least you had a lot of fun for a time.
David H
2007-08-02 04:50:20 UTC
If you haven't already had sex then yes it is possible, but on the other hand if you have it makes it a lot more difficult. Sex is really important to a relationship once you engage in it because once its gone there is a void. If you love each other enough then there are other means of satisfaction and love is stronger than anything. If on the other hand one is a sex fiend and the other could careless the partner that has the extended need may look else where to satisfy that need. The best choice is just to talk about it and work something out or mutually decide to move on.
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2007-08-02 04:53:49 UTC
Anyone who thinks love is enough is turning a blind eye and I guarantee you they'd be one of the first to get divorced. A relationship based on sex, however, has about as much of a chance as an ice cube in hell.
I'm an advocate of no sex before marriage. Marriage is a commitment. It's two people committing themselves to each other. That also translates to love. A deep love that can not be replaced with anything else. Sex before marriage just causes headaches. Usually one person (or both) are only in it for self gratification. They truly are not thinking of the needs of the other person. Sex is used as a tool at times to get what one wants out of the other person. Is that love? I think not. However, many people have a warped sense of love.
Think about it - How many times (while growing in your teenage years and maybe even beyond) were you hurt in a relationship and continually hurt because neither of you wanted to give up sex, which was more for selfish reasons?
Emily J
2007-08-02 04:51:24 UTC
A REAL relationship is going to last. Sex is secondary. Does that mean that sex is unimportant? No. It's incredibly important, but don't put pressure on yourselves to have sex and/or make it good. You have to learn each other's bodies and how you like sex with each other. If you're in tune with each other emotionally, the sex will always be good. You don't have to have sex to have intimacy. In reality, that's what people are going for when they have sex. It's how we were designed - to long for intimacy.
Sorry for the rant - just sharing my views. Love is enough. It is always enough. Open communication is key, though. You have to make sure that you are both on the same page. Good luck.
Cathrine K
2007-08-02 04:48:14 UTC
I'd say it's pretty important. It isn't the most important, but in most relationships the fights are either about sex or money, or both. Sex is just a way for two people to really connect, and most people have a real physical need for it. I don't think a sexless marriage is ever a good one.
loumamma
2007-08-02 04:51:37 UTC
Sex is no so much important in a relationship. But it is a part of it. Sex in some relationships is another way of showing love. But if you and your partner have a understanding that you don't want to base your relationship on sex than that's alright, but if there isn't a understanding it can and will become a issue.
sunshinegirl802
2007-08-02 04:49:56 UTC
Yes but only as long as both people reach a mutual decision.
I was waiting till marriage for sex and my boyfriend wasn't. you may be able to go awhile however, in any long term relationship, you MUST have similar feelings on the subject.
And while sex doesn't mean everything, i think its an important part of a healthy relationship..
That being said.. is i believe healthy in marriage.. even now my boyfriend pressures me to near the breaking point everytime. And this is the only reason we ever fight.
2007-08-02 04:52:22 UTC
Dear,
Relationship and life both cannot exist without sex. The only process by which your family extends. It is very necessary in life, but noone is forced to get into the act.
It's your life you can do whatever you want, but you can only have sex drive on one person.
Relationship without sex has no self definition. It is not of interest it is of giving a new birth to the world.
I HOPE I WAS HELPFUL
Jet
2007-08-02 04:52:37 UTC
it is not necessary. let me throw you a question, "What do you think is the reason why a couple enters marriage and have sex?"
Most probably, it is to bear children. People must have misunderstood that idea, or should i say ethics. Nowadays, people in the world are having sex just because they want to enjoy it. Don't you think that it is funny and pointless? It's just nonsense!
Sex does not testify or prove one's love to another. I believe that a person shows his love to his partner by being a sweet, caring and thoughtful partner. Sex only intensifies the love. Moreover, the world does not revolve just because of sex.
However, i am not saying that love is enough. it is coupled with responsibility and coordination.
2007-08-02 04:52:07 UTC
sex isn't supposed to be the thing that starts out a relationship.
i believe that you can have very good relationships without sex at all.
its that i want to wait till i have a really good relationship with someone and eventually start talking about sex with my partner and make sure we both love each other the same amount.
who ever this is will respect me for waiting till i found real love and it will be so much more better than having sex in just an ordinary relationship, sex is supposed to be passionate
Scrapper
2007-08-02 04:49:50 UTC
If in a relationship, the two people should care enough about each other to be interested in each other completely. Yes love is enough - but love includes complete love - including sharing your body with your significant other. Love includes the making love.
In my opinion, sex (making love) is extremely important to a relationship. If you can't share your body and your soul with the other person, is it really love?
supsarge
2007-08-02 04:49:35 UTC
Of course it can - I take pride in being pure in my beliefs. And if a relationship doesn't survive because of something as silly as sex, then the world would be better off if the relationship had never existed.
hotcocoa
2007-08-09 01:34:44 UTC
SEX is important in a relationship FACT
2007-08-02 04:48:04 UTC
Some people are just too obsessed with sex, which can actually ruin a relationship. Not saying sex isn bad in a relationship, because I'm not, and it's not.
2007-08-02 04:49:59 UTC
Depends on who you're asking. Some feel that sex is essential to a relationship; it shows how far you're willing to go & how much you trust them. Others feel that sex is just an action, & that love is what is truly important.
I for one don't think it is important to a relationship. I feel that personality, happiness, fun, & love is a lot more important to me that how good my partner is in bed.
ceesteris
2007-08-02 04:51:27 UTC
yes love is enough until the first time, then itll make or break your relationship, if you arent already married... i think the christians came up with that. if love is the main thing on your mind, then of course your love is your bond. have sex... it would complicate things up a bit, if its great, she will keep comin back, if its not so great... your love will be put into question. so heres a question, do you want your love to be put in question?
question answered, question... ive never said question so many times in an answer
2007-08-02 04:50:53 UTC
Love has to be backed up by actions... not necessarily sex.
Communication is the key to a good relationship, if you can come to a mutual decision anything.. then your relationship will survive.
Show the love!!!
Lobster
2007-08-02 04:52:25 UTC
It depends on the people in the relationship. It won't work if one person needs it all the time and the other person acts like it is a chore.
2007-08-02 04:48:19 UTC
some relationships are based on mostly sex and some like but no love .
me & my bf are both some wild animals but our relationship
is based on trust and love, its based on passion and communication which is the biggest quality for any relationship. my relationship isnt just based on sex
and it could survive without it anyday!
2007-08-02 04:47:22 UTC
Yes, my sister and her boyfriend were together for 2 1/2 years and they didn't talk about sex once.
♥michele♥
2007-08-02 04:47:44 UTC
We don't need sex in our relationship. But if feels wonderful to make love to someone you love.
shyanne
2007-08-02 04:57:06 UTC
to me, sex and love are entwined. both are necessary and just as important. because sex is a way of expressing love for that other person. it's spiritual (or supposed to be) and is as close physically as you can get to a person.
it's not supposed to be so common and without feeling as it sometimes is.
i'm not saying that if someone was unable to have sex (someone who is handicapped, for example) that they couldn't express their love or you couldn't love them.
is "love" enough? i'm sure it is..but i would need physical intimacy too..i couldn't just have a "pen pal" relationship..i would need to have that person with me and experience physical love too. it's only natural.
2007-08-02 04:49:26 UTC
Simply put.. how important do YOU rank sex in a relationship?
It is a MUST, you dumbass! [ 107 ] [23.41%]
It's very important. [ 114 ] [24.95%]
A nice add-on if I do say so.. [ 116 ] [25.38%]
If it happens it happens *shrug* [ 49 ] [10.72%]
Not too important to me. [ 26 ] [5.69%]
I could be a priest/nun if I wanted to. [ 13 ] [2.84%]
Sex isn't important at all, you pig. It's about love. [ 32 ] [7.00%]
?
2007-08-02 04:48:01 UTC
sex is important ---- yet the relationship can survive without it it depends on the circumstances
2007-08-02 05:42:00 UTC
I think so. If my partner of 20 years could no longer have sex because of some medical reason or whatever...I'd still stay.
2007-08-02 04:48:06 UTC
sex is the most important thing
janicajayne
2007-08-02 04:46:49 UTC
No. If you have different sex drives then one of you will always be unhappy and it will not work out.
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