Engaged, but fiance wont talk about even setting a date! Help!?

Question

He proposed to me August 2006. He still wont set a date. Everytime I ask him about when he says the same thing "soon." I have done as much planning as i can without a date. I even have my dress. My family is getting fustrated with the situation because they are all waiting for us to set a date and afraid to make their own plans. I ask him maybe once a month about the date. So this month I said answer anything except "soon." So he said "sometime." I am going crazy here! Why would he propose if he was going to play games with me? We dont live together, we each live with our own parents. We have been together for 5 and a half years. He owns his own business and is very successful. When we 1st got engaged he said wait for his company to make more money. Within the past 3 months his company has made more then in the last 2 years. But he still wont set the date! Am i being strung along? I dont know what to do... Ive been waiting for a year and a half.

Answer 1

I am so sorry you got stuck with my ex-fiance. (just kidding) He sounds EXACTLY like him. I never could get this guy to commit to anything. He kept saying the same things, wait until I finish this, accomplish that. As if he couldn't accomplish those things as a married man. After a year of this (we had been together for 4), slowly, I came to the realization that it wasn't me that was the problem and that this man had issues. It killed me, but I finally broke it off. I am not saying this is what you should do, but you do need to get an answer from him. His avoidance of the issue is becoming very disrespectful to you. You need to sit him down and ask him what the problem is and why he doesn't feel comfortable with setting a date. In my case, my boyfriend had wanted to propose, that took him over a year...when he finally did, it no longer did anything for me, because he did it out of feeling pressure. There could be any number of things keeping him from this...but you do need to get a SOLID answer from him and he does owe you that. Good luck.

Answer 2

You and your fiance don't have the same values or the same goals. Stop having sex with him, and move out, taking the dog with you. And break off your engagement. And then start to date other men and see if you can find one that is marriage-minded. This one is not and he may ever marry. Tell him though that if you are free in a year's time and he is still interested in you and you in him, you two may resume dating, or you may not. But there will be no more sex (ie. no freebies) outside of marriage. Stick to your guns and get married. Don't let a man use you up until your fertility expires and they move on to a woman who can still have kids. Take care.

Answer 3

Next year you will still be asking him the same question. Stop wearing the ring. When he is ready to set a date, start wearing the ring again. If he really loves you, he will want that ring back on your finger.