did i do the right thing in ignoring her? what should i do next? help plz!?

Question

this girl i really liked (kim) had been giving me signs that she may liked me and wanted to get together with me. we'd always run into each other out friday nights and she ccome over and say hit. shed tell me we need to hang out more and that she wanted to get dinner with me. she invite me to her friends 80s party and at the end of that night she told me shes been talkin me up to her friends and gave me a kiss on the lips as we both parted ways that night. from may through first week of june i called her twice and texted her 3 or 4 times but no answer... sooooo

i ran into her thurs night at the local bar i live right near by. shes with her posse & im by myself talkin to this girl i just met. her name was sarah & we were about 7 mins into the convo then kim spots me sees & comes over 2 me & gives me a big kiss on the cheek. i immediately turn to sarah & keep talkin kinda givin the evil eye @ kim.

sarah then goes well arent you a pimp. & i tell her what was up with kim. what do uthink

Answer 1

I think Kim is a "dog in the manger"......she doesn't really want a relationship with you, but she wants to keep you guessing so you won't pursue a relationship with anyone else, either.



I think what you did was "mild" compared to what Kim's action actually deserved. It was obvious that Sarah felt Kim was out of line, too. Kim isn't even a friend if she won't even respond to a message you've sent her; in fact, she doesn't even have common courtesy. She has no right to approach you with anything more than a casual "hi". Anything more than that is simply a "show" she puts on for her "posse" and anyone else she wants to impress.



Ignore her, and if she tries a stunt like that in public again, give her more than the "evil eye".....tell her to keep her lips to herself.

Answer 2

As a guy that's 26, I've been there before. You absolutely did the right thing. She's only into you when she's around her friends.....She's playing games with you.



I would just walk up to her next time you see her and ask her what the deal is between the two of you. Ask her why she never answered your calls or texts. Put her on the spot and see what her reaction is. She obviously likes you, but she needs to let you know what her intentions are.



Make sure to let her know that you aren't into playing games and if she wants a relationship, then communication is a very important part of that.

Answer 3

I think you were a little ruff on her, you might have just said hi and then introduced Sarah, and then excused yourself to her. But then again, it was a little forward of her to kiss you in front of another girl. However, too late for advise on that encounter. I think you should call her and be very honest with her. I wouldn't expect this relationship to go anywhere after what's happened but I think you owe her and explanation. In the future, don't play games even if you think you're being played. Be cool and show some class.

Answer 4

i think you did piss kim off a little bit. when she didn't answer you at first there was probably a reason for that.



so yeah i think you hurt her feelings. what was the point in ignoring her and giving her the evil eye? she didn't really do anything to you, and you don't know for sure if she was ignoring you. thats sure to make her jealous and not in a good way. she was probably embarrassed because she probably knew you were telling sarah about her. i understand youre not a mean person, but that wasn't very nice of you to do and i wouldn't be surprised if shes mad at you.

Answer 5

you did the wrong thing. first of all why do you have 2 girls?second Sarah is a jerk because she said aren't you a pimp any decent girl would have just blushed. Sarah problem hates you. just leave Sarah alone for a while and do not say anything to her until she makes the first move. call Kim ASAP and tell her everything and ask if we could still hang out and date. promise to have no More girls while with her.

Answer 6

Well, to be honest with you, I wouldn't have ignored her, I don't know what her problem is, but I would have asked her right there... as soon as she kissed me on the cheek, I would have said to her how you felt "What, Kim, you can walk up to me out of the blue but you don't answer my calls or texts? What's up with that???"

Answer 7

She seems like the complicated teaser. She needs to mature in her tactics to get a mans attention. I have a friend like that who will give a man her number and then when he calls goes "i'ma let him sweat!' But that's mixed signals. Man I am so very glad i'm not a man-- they have it rough because women know that ball is in our courts and some of us do too much playin around with the power and leave men confused and angry sometimes. Good luck bruh!!

Answer 8

Life is too short to play games. I think that she's enjoying herself by proving that she can have you anytimes she wants when she's in public and then not give you the time of day by returning your calls. Don't give it a second thought. Go out with someone else, not Sarah, and make her come to you. She's got ego problems.

Answer 9

You're working a little too hard to let your feelings be known. If she hurt your feelings by not answering you don't need to demonstrate it by being mean. Just don't give her anymore energy. If she's really interested, she'll eventually show it. No girl likes to be ignored, especially by a guy that they like. Just don't be rude. If you see her greet her like normal and leave it at that. If she really wants you, she'll get her act together.



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Answer 10

well i think that you shouldn't have acted that way with her. I'm a girl and i wouldn't have liked for anyone to treat me that way, but i understand how you felt but i would suggest that next time you just be honest and tell her how you feel. You could never go wrong with honesty, it's a good quality. Good Luck! : )

Answer 11

i think you did the right thing by ignoring her. Yeah, she's definately just toying around with you and only wants you when she can't have you. and that's not right. So just tell her how you feel and say that you like her but you're just not cool with the crap that she's doing.



Keep it going with Sarah:)



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Answer 12

That was perfect, but if oyu run into Kim again tell her what you told Sarah, about her never calling you back, she'll bug off!

Answer 13

I read the whole thing...and you did a really good "job" if she really liked you, she would do whatever it takes(maybe) to be with you and hang around you...so i think she doesn't like you that much....

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Answer 14

how could you!!! you are and idiot no offence!! she will dump you. nice job. that is the stupidest thing ive ever heard someone do. you shoulda talked to kim about not answering. you so pissed her off.

Answer 15

imo it was rather rude and immature for her to come up to you while you were sitting with another girl and do that.



that wouldnt fly with me.



i think you did just fine.

Answer 16

hey , i Think that u treated her so bad , u need to know that girls get so bored too quickly , and if u kept doing this to her , she might breakup with you .. it seems that she loves you so much , don't be crewl to her , try to act nicely and don't piss her too much . believe me , i'm a girl and i know how girls think !!

Answer 17

I think you handeled it perfectly. If she doesn't want you, she shouldn't be "cock" blocking you. Bravo!

Answer 18

perfect!



she only wants it when she cant have it so u are better off!!

Answer 19

go to da movies wit her make her feel special den she might appriecate u more.....but idk dont take my advice