I need advice about this, please?

Question

My girlfriend broke up with me because she is depressed (tried to commit suicide) and has other issues along with it due to her pretty ****** up past. We were literally fine like two days before the breakup (we spent like the whole day together, about seven hours) and everything seemed perfect. Then something happened and she became severely upset, then two days later she ends it. She claims she doesn't want to push her problems onto me and she shouldn't have a boyfriend with her being messed up mentally. Now you have no idea how much I care about her, and the suddenness of this completely broke me. I have NO PROBLEM being by her side when she feels down (actually kind of nice to have someone to care for that loves you), but she doesn't believe me. I've put everything i've had into this relationship, and kind of ****** up my family life in the process. Now heres my question. Should I use my energy trying to fix things with people and myself that I messed up during the relationship? Or expend my energy trying to get her back? If you love something let it go, but at the same time you shouldn't let love slip away like this. I feel like this was too sudden to be a thought out breakup, but don't know if I should give it some time, just forget this portion of my life, or pull a lloyd dobbler type of deal and show up at her house to talk and "refuse" to let her break up with me because of her mental state. Idk if this is over over or if its just a bump in our relationship. Sorry for the long description just i'm completely ****** up over this.

Answer 1

I think you should tell the girl that you really care about her and even if you are not together you'll always be there for her and hope she knows she can talk to you etc, you think shes really awesome and don't want to lose her from your life.



She probably does need time away from a relationship, and this way she knows you still care about her, and youll still be there if she is ready to start things up again. I would wait atleast a week or two before considering getting back in the relationship.



Some girls never meet a guy that cares about them like that. She may not fully know it, but she won't want to lose you.

Answer 2

I understand the way how you feel. But I think it will be better if you try not to talk to her for just a few days. In that way her mind will be peaceful and calm. Just give her time and when your ready, try to confess her how much you care for her. She might not notice it at first, but sooner or later she will realise how much you care for her deeply. Sometimes loving someone is not very easy because having problem in a relationship is never absent. But as time passes by when you have overcome all of these the relationship between you and your girlfriend will be stronger. Like my answer if you think that it helps you on the problem your carrying right now. I have a tip: just be yourself;)....

Answer 3

if only i knew about her past.



try to get her to talk to you. I mean, perhaps she just needs space but at the same time if she tried to commit suicide, (sh*t she really wants to get out of life) then you shouldn't leave her alone. Dont annoy her but try to get her out there again and talk with her, maybe she'll eventually open up. IF you can, let me know a little about her past so i can try to understand a little. Even if it's slight signs.



But with the knowledge i have now, i think that you should just hang in there, give her a few days then, talk about it with her. Try to understand her and in a way make her feel that she oesn't have to deal with it on her own.



I think communication is the best, oh and i think you should do both, fix things with other people, if they're against you two being together just tell them that they have to accept it and get her back.

Answer 4

you should do both. and try to be a better person for her. if you care for her so much you must give her some space to think about what has been going on. support her. make her feel she's not alone even though you're relationship has ended...

don't rush back to the relationship issue. you have a "delicate" love care and patience is a must. >(=3)

Answer 5

Do NOT give up on her. During a depressing time people need even more attention and love.

Answer 6

send her flowers. be romantic. try make her smile. show her that you really care about her, and if you love her this much, don't let her go. tell her how you feel and try your best to make her happy. she just needs someone to show her a lot of love and affection.