im worried that man i met on dating site is fake how can i find out?

Question

I have fallen in love with a man on online dating site and am so worried sick that this person is not for real. I have sent him money by western union to help him so he can come to australia as he said he wants to and is still asking for more to pay hospital bills in Maylasia and i am refusing as im so worried that he is not who he says he is. I am so deeply in love with this person and its tearing me apart how can i find out if he is fake as he has a facebook and is on dating site please help me

Answer 1

100% scam, sorry.



Scammers have fake facebook accounts and fake dating site accounts. That is how they find their victims.



Western Union and moneygram do not verify anything on the form the sender fills out, not the name, not the street address, not the country, not even the gender of the receiver, it all means absolutely nothing. The clerk will not bother to check ID and will simply hand off your cash to whomever walks in the door with the MTCN# and question/answer. Neither company will tell the sender who picked up the cash, at what store location or even in what country your money walked out the door. Neither company has any kind of refund policy, money sent is money gone forever.



Now that you have responded to a scammer, you are on his 'potential sucker' list, he will try again to separate you from your cash. He will send you more emails from his other free email addresses using another of his fake names with all kinds of stories of great places to rent, lottery winnings, millions in the bank and desperate, lonely, sexy singles. He will sell your email address to all his scamming buddies who will also send you dozens of fake emails all with the exact same goal, you sending them your cash via Western Union or moneygram.



You could post up the email address and the emails themselves that the scammer is using, it will help make your post more googlable for other suspicious potential victims to find when looking for information.



Do you know how to check the header of a received email? If not, you could google for information. Being able to read the header to determine the geographic location an email originated from will help you weed out the most obvious scams and scammers. Then delete and block that scammer. Don't bother to tell him that you know he is a scammer, it isn't worth your effort. He has one job in life, convincing victims to send him their hard-earned cash.



Whenever suspicious or just plain curious, google everything, website addresses, names used, companies mentioned, phone numbers given, all email addresses, even sentences from the emails as you might be unpleasantly surprised at what you find already posted online. You can also post/ask here and every scam-warner-anti-fraud-busting site you can find before taking a chance and losing money to a scammer.



That scammer has sent you stolen pictures, told you a fake story and is lying to you in every email he sends. He will continue to lie to you, continue to demand cash, continue to make you feel guilty, continue to send you love poems stolen from websites, continue to scam you until you block his emails. He does NOT love you, he loves the cash you send him. He LIES for a living, he has a dozen victims sending him cash to support his lavish lifestyle.



There are several websites where you can verify that he is a scammer who has lied to you from the very first email.

Answer 2

He is fake - there is NO question. I have encountered this same story so many times on dating sites



NO real person would EVER ask a person they had never met to send them money for any reason. This man is probably in his 30s or older - he has NO long time friends, no family, no work buddies, no neighbors, NOBODY he knows IN PERSON who would send him money for hospital bills????? Come on.



Not to mention that Malaysia has UNIVERSAL HEALTHCARE - meaning treatment is free in all public hospitals. You cannot even get into a private hospital if you do not have private health insurance. A foreigner needing emergency treatment is treated for free



I can guarantee you have never Skyped - or you'd know the scammer you are in contact with is NOT the handsome man in the pictures, whose photos were stolen off some stock photo or amateur modeling site



And if this person claims to be a foreigner in Malaysia a call to his embassy will confirm he does not exist. If he was in the hospital his embassy would have been notified immediately. And he would also be registered with his country's embassy if he was on a work or residence visa



Malaysia is one of the capitals of online romance scams

http://www.datingnmore.com/fraud/scam_database.htm

"When we say "Nigerian scam", it doesn't mean it originates from Nigeria only. It may also originate from any other West African country, like Ghana, Ivory Coast, Senegal etc.. But recently Malaysia became a real hotspot for Nigerian scams. There is a huge Nigerian cell operating out of Malaysia...."



http://antifraudintl.org/showthread.php?t=42065

http://improveyoureq.blogspot.com/2011/06/avoid-nigerian-and-malaysian-scam.html

"A sad new scam is becoming very prevalent on the Internet - romance scam. Generally the romance scam artists are from Nigeria - though lately from Malaysia as well. They are operating out of Internet cafes, and often correspond with 10-11 woman at a time, hoping to make the kill."



http://www.asiaone.com/News/Latest+News/Asia/Story/A1Story20100622-223410.html

"Most victims are highly educated women aged between 25 and 55, who frequent social networking sites in search of a relationship, but end up falling prey to Nigerian or Ghanaian swindlers based in Malaysia, Southeast Asia."



The fact he asked you for money in a country where healthcare is free is all the proof you need this person is a scammer. And the fact if he won't Skype when every internet cafe in Malaysia has webcams so he has NO excuse



A single call to his country's embassy in Malaysia will give you more proof



These criminals are good and use psychological manipulation to gain your trust and heart but it's all a cruel scam to steal as much of your money as possible

Answer 3

In love with someone you've never met?! Come on, please get real.



You have sent him money, and he will want more and more.



He is almost certainly not who you think he is and you have sent your money to a confidence trickster who is clever at making people think he cares about you.



I'm sure Australia is full of lovely men!

Answer 4

Ask him to down load skype and then make a video call so you can see him





Edit ....This 100% a scam .....dont send any more money and stop all the contact .



Goggle his name and I bet you will find others who are his victims .

Answer 5

I'm sure he's real and what's not to love?? Except the fact that a guy you've never met keeps asking you for money... Which is completely normal... By the way, I'm sick too, can I have money???

Answer 6

Others can laugh ... but i also know what it means to "love" someone on internet, i've lived a similar thing and you simply can't rationalize about it .. the Skype idea is logical and can help... However, suggest that you would visit him instead of vise-versa... Good luck

Answer 7

Please stop

sending this man money. It has scam written all over it. If he's real offer to visit him where ever he lives. And skype him like that one lady suggested

Answer 8

Omg, dont, i repeat dont send him money!! Alot of people get scammed so easily this way. He could be just using and abusing your kindness.