Why does my ex still look at me a year after we ended?

Question

I was seeing a guy before. He’d come out of a long term relationship not too long but he went through the phase of sleeping with loads of girls etc. He then met me and actually liked me but it was confusing for him because he didn’t want a gf until after uni wich is in 2 yrs so we were never official . I found out I was pregnant and he really wanted me to have an abortion and I did. I’m still very upset over this and regret it. The guy still liked after this and would always look at me and then I slept with him again a few months later. A week later he said he didn’t want to sleep with me again and his friends told me too much had happened for us to be friends with benefits which I understand. He would always look at me when he saw me out and his best female friend said he spoke about me SO much. He was seeing other people after me but would always look at me still. It’s 9 months on now and he still looks at me. Of course he still gets with other girls because we aren’t together but why does he still want to look at me? Before he would get jelous when he saw me with other guys and he said he wanted to be friends before but we obviously aren’t at that stage - for me because I still like him and him I don’t know. The other week he was checking me out wich I don’t understand if we’re ment to be ‘friends.’ I try to ignore him but even if he gets with other girls he still looks at me. Why would he still want to look at me nearly a year on?

Answer 1

First off, this guy managed to get you pregnant and insisted you have an abortion? He's a jerk. A super jerk. All men are pigs, but.. I mean, he's a super jerk pig man. He's worse than average guys, and that takes a lot of suckitude.



Back to the point: All men are pigs, just not super jerk pig men. We look at girls. Always and forever, even - no, ESPECIALLY - ones we've been with. It doesn't mean Jack-diddly-squat. If you yourself haven't moved on yet, then just keep on keeping on until you have. I'm guessing you haven't, or else you wouldn't give a flying flip if he's looking at you. But please, PLEASE don't fall for this guy again. Let him be some other girl's burden and you find yourself a man worth having. If he looks at you, don't give him the satisfaction of looking back; not even the satisfaction of you noticing him noticing you.



I hope everything works out for you in the end. :D

Answer 2

well by the sound of it he may still like you but i think he is stupid for telling you to abort a lil baby :( and i know you regret it but the thing is if he still stares at you and checks you then he still likes you or maybe he still into you but one advice dont let him get into your pants cause thats what some guys want :( but maybe he still likes you :) hope it goes all right Good Luck :) GBU but also i dont think you should go for him i mean telling you to abort is wrong! shows how big of a ***** he is D: i mean if i was you i would find someone else someone that will LOVE me try to forget about him and move on find someone elso who will love you for who you are and not use you :)

Answer 3

It's either a game he's playing to try to get in your head so you still like him or he just is still attracted to you physically. That's possible. Doesn't mean you should be in a relationship with him though.