Why do us guys almost all the time have to be the ones to start talking to the girl and starting a conversation, keeping it going and so on. It pisses me off because often times when I try to initiate a conversation with a girl, I feel like I am doing most of the talking, like when I ask a question or say something to break the ice, girls don't enage in the conversation or at least it takes a while for them to engage in it, for example, like if I say "Hi how's it going?" the girl will just say "good" and thats all. Also if I ask "how was your weekend?", she will just say "good, it was ok". Also for a while already, even recently and last year, I always seem to ask the same type of questions to get a conversation going with a girl, well not with the same girl over and over, but every new girl I talk to. It is like I have only one transcript in my mind for talking and initiating a conversation to girls, like when I meet a girl at school for the first time and talk to her, I ask questions like "is this your first semester here?", "what's your major?", "how many classes are you taking?", "what classes are you taking?" "summer went by so fast didn't it?" "have you seen this movie yet?" "what did you think of it?" questions like that, etc. It seems like almost all the time I am only able to just talk to people, well mainly girls, but just asking questions, and I know that talking and having a conversation is not only just asking questions. Pretty much almost every girl I have talking to for the first time is asking those type of questions. I also know you can initiate conversations other than about eachother, like I said to girls in my classes in order to break ice and start a conversation by saying things like "did you do the homework or read the chapter?" "are you ready for the test?" "how do you think you did on the test?" "our teacher is so hilarious huh?", stuff like that, etc. So why does the guy almost all the time have to be the one to initiate a conversation and be the one to hold it when talking and getting to know a girl? I was diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome in middle school, but maybe I could have been misdiagnosed, maybe it is just social anxiety, but I don't want to let that from stopping me. When I am trying to initiate a conversation with a girl and she doesn't engage in the conversation, ask me questions back in return, or at least takes a while to do so, do you think it is because the girls were not interested in me or are they shy? How can you tell if a girl is shy or not interested? If the girl is not interested, is it most of the time because I came on too strong?, asked the wrong type of questions? or was she just not interested in the first place? Sometimes I have been able to successfully initiate conversations with girls with the type of questions that I mentioned above and that was because the girls engaged in the conversation with me and asked me questions back in return, but pretty much they would only ask me questions that I asked them already, they were just asking me back in return to know about me, but the major hardest thing for me is approaching the girl again for the second time and beyond and initiating a conversation again, like I don't know what else to talk about, and I don't want her to think I am being desperate or clingy. Well even if I am appearing desperate or clingy, I sort of have a right to complain because I am almost 21 and I am still single, been single my whole life.