Is is alright for a girl to 'text' a guy if they are only friends?

Question

I was told by my pastor that guys can't just be 'friends' with girls, but I have wanted to be friends with some of the girls I have associated with. I would like to be able to text, but I don't want it to be looked at as 'creepy' if I am not interested in the girl sexually. I have moved around alot during my life and have not been able to meet many people for lasting friendships but it seems as if girls tend to think that I want to date them if I start talking to them. I just need some friends, someone to talk to- but my pastor said that guys can't just be friends with girls.

Answer 1

your pastor is wrong, i have friends that are girls that i just chill with and they know were just friends. So yeah go ahead and text them, just don't be flirty and send mixed messages.

Answer 2

As most people don't talk to each other these days, you can be sure that texting is not going to assure you of any lasting relationships. I know what your pastor is saying, but he may not have the inside track on the nature of relationships these days. Most girls I have known either want to get married or only want to be friends....like there is no middle ground. I suggest you rent the movie, "When Harry Met Sally' which is a movie that deals with this issue.

Answer 3

I think your pastor probably didn't mean that in such a literal way.



Of course males and females can be friends with each other. I have several male friends. I'm not saying that I've never been attracted to them or that they have never been attracted to me. That doesn't mean that we're going to have sex, or even pursue a relationship though.



Some people have this idea that guys only want sex, and they assume that if any guy is talking to them it's because he wants something, but that is not true. You certainly can speak to girls without trying to get something from them, and if they assume that you want more, well, that's their problem.



Texting doesn't really mean anything anyway. If you were asking them to get dinner with you then I could understand the assumption that it's a date, but if it's just friendly texting, there's nothing wrong with that.

Answer 4

Your pastor is a dolt. I've heard this line of reasoning before, that a male and a female, given the chance and time alone together, will have sex. Being a man, and having been one for over thirty years, I've met numerous, numerous women whose company and conversation I have enjoyed without feeling the slightest bit of sexual attraction or desire for.



I suspect your pastor is a closet pervert and/or a pedophile, and recommend you find a new one immediately.

Answer 5

Thats bull. . guys can be friends with girls. I have 50 and thats all we are we text 24 7 and were just friends. I dont want anymore out of them. If i like a girl i call and talk to them in person and try to get close.

Answer 6

Your pastor needs to get his head out of the clouds, of course guys can be friends with girls, what does he think happens - that they go straight from strangers to lovers? On the other hand you can be mutual friends for a lifetime.

Answer 7

I think that it is perfectly fine to text a girl if you dont have feelings for them. I have many guy friends that i like to text, but I only text flirty messages to my boyfriend. Just talk to a girl like a friend if you arent interested in her sexually, and if you are, then differentiate beteween those two types of text messages, so you, and the girl, know.

Answer 8

Look, girls can be friends with guys,just not best friends because it is probable one of them to be attracted to the other. I'm sure you can text and find a girl that suits your character and youc an have great fyn togetherr

Answer 9

No offense but your pastor is wrong.

My best friend is a guy, and I've never had feelings for him.

He liked me at the beginning of our friendship, but it eventually faded out.

Guys and girls CAN be just friends :)



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Answer 10

that's soo not true! i have friends that are boys but it doesn't mean there my b/f. i'm not a slut either.. you can text anyone you like and have any friends you like boy or girl :)

Answer 11

Wow! You gotta have a life too!