Girlfriend doesn't believe me, what should I do?

Question

Hi.

So, I was doing something for my girlfriend on her laptop (she needed help, and I'm rather tech savvy) using a Remote Desktop program. We were chatting whilst doing so.

Anyway, early on while doing this I was looking at some files of her laptop and noticed it had a webcam, so I mentioned "Your laptop has a webcam?" and she said "Yeah, but it's broken," and I just went "Oh, okay" and forgot about it, believing her.

Soon after while we were chatting, I opened up a calculator to do something, and then Cam software opened up unexpectedly (there was a shortcut to it on her desktop). I didn't notice it, because I guess it ran in the background, or I shrunk shrunk the Remote Desktop software to do something else. Then she asked this, and it went along the lines of..

Her: "Why did you open that?"
Me: "Open what?"
Her: "Manycam, why did you open it?"
Me: "I didn't?"
Her: "I told you my cam doesn't work."
Me: "I know it doesn't work? .."
Her: "Then why did you open manycam?"
Me: "I didn't.."
Her: "Well, I didn't open it."

And then it went off from there. I explained to her that my computer is rather slow, and it could've lagged and clicked somewhere else than I intended, like on the manycam shortcut. She did not believe that. She thinks that I did not trust/believe her when she told me that her cam doesn't work, and I opened manycam to find out if it were really true. She said she was hurt from this, and that she is disappointed. Her mood was completely ruined by that, and I think she lost trust in me.

I went on telling her that I trust her, and I wouldn't do that. I promised, and told her I love her. I basically said/did all I could think of, trying to get her to fix her fallacies. But none of that worked, she still doesn't believe me, and has lost trust it seems, and is disappointed in me.

I'm really scared, I do not want her to think I don't trust her or love her, because I do.. I just don't understand what I can do? She doesn't seem to want to believe me..

This all happened today, not too long ago.

Our relationship is long distance, at the moment.

Lol, sorry if this is ridiculously long. Skimming through it should be good enough.

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Answer 1

Ignore her.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

how old is she!!

seriously sounds like a 2nd grade student trying to sound like mum with the ' I'm disappointed' line



it's not your fault she doesn't believe you there isn't much you can do because this is over something stupid you have told her the truth and really she is making a big deal out of nothing.



i say this as a female and also noticing that the relationship is long distance.. we seem to find or create problems with our partners if we have become interested in someone else and will react to the slightest thing just to have an excuse. i hope i helped

Answer 4

Sounds like she hasn't trusted you. The webcam thing was just concrete proof for her to use as ammo for all the other doubts she has.



Ask her if there's anything else in your past that has made her suspicious. I'm betting this has been building up. A lot of people really struggle with LDRs. Maybe she hasn't been completely upfront about how insecure it makes her.



If she's a Taurus...YIKES! They are stubborn and don't trust easily b/c once they're attached....they're in it for a LOOOONG time. Might take a lot of work to get her to believe you.



Good Luck!!

Answer 5

You probably should have just told her it was not intentional and that it opened on its own possibly because some of the files where linked to another program which caused the issue.



Now that you have opened it you can fix it for her.



That way if it wasn't broken and she lied she is on the spot and will stop accusing you of lying.

Answer 6

If she can't believe you that is childish. If she's getting mad and not trusting you over something that little what else is she gonna do in the future? Stop talking to her until she comes to her senses.

Answer 7

Ask yourself this: what is a relationship with out trust?

Answer 8

ignore her dude... the more attention you give to womens hissy fits.. the more women will think we will toelrate it.



dont pay her any attention... just procede as if it didnt happen.

Answer 9

She's the one with the problem, not you! You've done nothing wrong so don't sweat about it.

Answer 10

just forget thinking that it was in dreem

Answer 11

All you can do is be honest. If she can't except that then it's not your problem.