Please answer seriously... I'm scared of girls... what can I do?

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Hello, answerers. You may have read a question I posted over again because I wanted to broaden my answers... I'm sorry about that. My insecurity has just suddenly hit an all-time high, and I'm feeling very depressed. I've been feeling sad, angry, lost and confused all the time. Sad because I'm having a personal trouble that's been bugging me for ages. Angry because I don't really think I have any reason to be upset, and feel powerless to do anything about my problem. Lost because I can't seem to find it in me to ask for help, and feel like I shouldn't be asking for help because I do so too often. Confused because my problem is so simple, and yet so complicated.

I don't know how else I can say this, so I'll just say it the basic way...

I really really want a girlfriend. I always have.

I'm sure many of you hear this all the time from someone you know. I would expect a lot of rolled eyes and sneers if I said that a girlfriend is the only thing that could make me happy, but the truth is, it is the one thing. I want to experience having somebody to hold, kiss, talk to and comfort. I want somebody that can depend on me, and who'll allow me to depend on them. I don't really have that high standards when it comes to looks, but if they happen to be gorgeous, then why not?

Sorry for veering off-topic. I don't really know what else I can say about what I want. So, I'll tell you what my big problem is. I have tried on and off to get a girlfriend, all times to no avail. Sometimes, I would actively pursue a particular girl as a girlfriend. Most of the time, I'll go months without actually asking one out. At the end of my senior year, I resolved to find one in college. I figured that it would be easier to tell which girls are single and which ones aren't in college, but it hasn't gotten any easier by a long shot. And, even if it had, I still wouldn't be able to tell how many would actually be interested in going out with someone like me.

I'm too scared to ask any girls out now, because I'm afraid of rejection. I've had to many rejections in my life to have any hopes of acceptance. My overall lack of a lovelife has affected everything in my life. My ability to concentrate, my sleep, my work, my studies, my extra-curricular activities, everything. I can't find it in me to do anything. Sometimes, I get so depressed that everything in my body just shuts down. I went to a counselor on campus to try and talk about my problems, but as soon as I reached the staircase leading up to the waiting room, I couldn't move. I started to cry that day because of how powerless I felt about everything. I'm just so scared now. I can't talk to girls except for casual conversation, I can't write anymore, I can't do my homework, I can't watch TV, I can't play a video game, I can't sleep, I can't even go up the stairs to a friggin' counselor. I feel so powerless, but also really pathetic. I get the feeling like I don't have any reason to be upset, and that I should be ashamed of myself. My brain is in a constant tizzy trying to figure out what I'm doing wrong, why any girl would want to go out with me, and why I even bother with anything anymore.

But despite all of this, I can't help but think, why not me? Why don't any girls want to date me? What have I done to deserve getting turned down? I actually sometimes wonder if the female population is set against me, even though I know it isn't. I just want to be normal, get a girlfriend, cherish her, and stop being such a heartbroken wreck all the time.

And sure, I could wait to get a girlfriend, but a girlfriend won't just walk into my life, and I can't wait until I'm 35 for her to do so. It's already been three years since my last date. But, at the same time, I can't find a girlfriend when I'm looking for one.

Could somebody tell me what's wrong with me? Maybe tell me how I can get a girlfriend?

Answer 1

Ok well first I think that u are stressing out to much. Just relax and take a breather. The one thing you have to understand about women is that we respond to confidence not *********. When a man is sure of himself and knows what he wants it a huge turn on. That is why they say you have to love yourself before someone can love you. I know that your not going to like this but no one can really help you get a girlfriend its something you have to do for yourself. And I know right now in your life you are lonely and down in the dumps but the only thing you can do is pick yourself up and think positively. Maybe its not you maybe the girls you go to school with that are immature and don’t realize what a great guy you are. There is a girl out there that I am sure is just looking for a guy like you whether you find that person in 10 days a month or a year she will come. And when she does she will blow your mind. just keep searching and don’t give up because once you give up on yourself everyone else will to. maybe try online dating . Just relax shes out there and I bet she cant wait to met you. I hope I helped best wishes in ur search for love.

Answer 2

Alright first of all you are thinking all the wrong things....



relax chill take a deep breath and learn to liek yourself, if you dont even like yourself how do you expect someone else to like you?



your selfestemm, well you seem to have none so first of start working out...then do some activities that will get your head of this depression



then as you do these activites you enjoy if you find a girl in these place make a move



BUT if she rejects you then guess what? its OK its doesnt matter there are over 3 billion women in the world man so when i say this i do mean it there are plenty of fish in the sea.



and listen to thins song :)

Bobby McFerrin - Don't worry Be happy

Answer 3

Listen to this song and pay attention to the lyrics.



http://www.lyricsmania.com/the_nerve_lyrics_republic_tigers_the.html



This song's lyrics kinda helped me get a new perspective on asking a girl out.



"Get up the nerve,

Cause really what's the worst thing,

That could happen?

Go make your move."



Don't live your life wondering "What if?".



Good luck

Answer 4

im sorry! pick yourself up, brush your shoulders off, buy some nice clothes, buy some Axe, go to a club or go to a meet and greet and meet some girls. :D you got it man! there will be a girl in your life, i promise.



ps. eharmony, ect. dating sources online ps ps! :D

Answer 5

Be a better one

Answer 6

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