I'm still deeply in love with him?

Question

And I don't know what to do, i'm still in love with a person who's now dead... I cry almost every night and I think about him before I go to sleep so i'll dream about him... How do I get through this? It hurts and i'm depressed over it.... I loved him and only him now I feel so incomplete.... I did have a dream about him the other night he told me he'll be in my dreams. Is he trying to tell me something? He was in a gang and got shot. He was mean to me. Threatin to kill me beat me up but never did. He liked me for a few days then quit... I guess he was trying to protect me. He called me the day I gave him my number but I didn't answer.. I think he did want a relationship with me. Then He started hating me because he said I was a stalker when I was just checking on him. I loved him. Do you think he is trying to tell me something? Like he is trying to tell me he's sorry?

He was black and i'm white.. He'd always stare at me. At one time while at school he hid behind a wall and watched me walk to class.... I saw him though.. And the way he stared I knew he cared.

Answer 1

you can be in love with someone even after theyre dead. love is neverending.



he probably loved you too

Answer 2

Your question is kinda confusing. I can't really tell which parts were the dream and which were the past. But it sounds like you are really hurting. You can't make the pain go away just like that. It will take time and self control. You have to control your sadness. When you start thinking about him and feeling sad, cry for a minute or two and really try to get a hold of yourself. Lock it up. Dry your tears and think of something good or funny that will cheer you up a bit. And tell yourself, "Okay, I've felt this emotion for a while, now it's time to think about something else."



You have to accept that he is dead, he's not coming back, and all you have are the memories you have of him. Death is a part of life, and you can't let it kill you, too.

Answer 3

You can get through it best by talking about it first :)

With a family member, with your best friend...definitely someone who will not judge you.

Also try writing in a journal about your feelings.



And then...



Accept that he's dead.



From the sounds of it, you should accept the reality that the relationship would have gone nowhere.

The guy was involved with a bad crowd. If he got you in that mess, you'd most likely be the one dead or hurt.



Besides, Why would you love someone who wanted to hurt you, even if he 'threatened' you?



The dreams sound like you're trying to tell yourself to let go.

I'd listen.



The best thing you can do is let him go and let your feelings go too.

You will find someone else. Just let it go.

Answer 4

Honey, if he wasn't treating you very well, what kind of relationship would you have had? I don't mean to sound cruel but it doesn't sound like it would have been a healthy one and I think he knew that. So, yes, I think he was sending you a message in your dreams. Maybe he knew in the end that he would do you only harm and even in death he hurts you and because of this he's reaching out to you to make you understand that you need to let go. Don't let people tell you to just move on because its useless advice. You will always love him, but you have to let him go, let his soul rest and keep his memory alive, but as a memory and that is all. Don't morn him as a martyr.

Answer 5

wow umm i cant say i know how you feel but i think you should start realizing that this person is no longer here and that you cant spend the rest of your life thinking about what could have been...i hope you are not in a gang but if you are u should start thinking about your future and about what you want in life get acquainted with people who will be a good influence in your life make new friends go out and live life to the fullest who knows maybe you will find prince charming. you should also consider not getting involved with people who are in gangs honestly all you will get out of that is risking your life and stressing out about what might happen. remember that things happen for a reason.

Answer 6

I think it would be a good idea for you to get into some sort of grief counseling. There will be trained people there who can help you work through this. Call your local funeral home and ask them about grief support groups you can attend.



((hugs))

Answer 7

i reallyy think that this is his way of saying he is sorry and u will get over him in your own time, u willknoww when u are ready to move on, and u can all so try to do or create something to honour his memory that could also put things at ease for u

Answer 8

Meet a new guy, it's your only chance, this sounds like the problem i had with a close friend/almost girlfriend, couldn't get her off my mind met a new girl BOOM, problem solved.

Answer 9

THE IMAGINATION OF LOVE IS SO SWEET BUT THE OUT PUT ( IF FAILED ) IS TO BITTER..



TAKE DEEP BREATH AND FORGET ALL ABOUT HIM,, HE WAS NOTHING ONLY A GOOD AND FUNNY DREAM,,



AWAKE UP MY DEAR ,, LIFE IS SO SWEET AND BEAUTIFUL,, SEE SOME ADULT MOVIES ,, READ SOME EROTIC STORIES,,

AND FRESH URSELF

Answer 10

try some body else, do not waste your time in worrying

Answer 11

find another guyy.