He broke my heart, should I give him another chance?

Question

He broke my heart into a thousand pieces. I love him, but I 'm scared and our situation is less than ideal because he got another woman pregnant. He's trying to stay in my life, but I've pulled away. How do I know if I should let him back in? I love him, I do. But I feel disrespected and I'm extraordinarily hurt and scared of being hurt again.

Answer 1

The details you've given to us are really about the bad stuff he's done. We therefore shouldn't feel like he's worth anyone giving him a second chance and that includes you. Kick him to the curb

Answer 2

Well from my experience..I think yu should let him go is a done deal (if he actually had a relationship with the girl) there's noo getting bak cuz if they had a relatioship and there r feelingss involved between him n da girl they gonna keep seeing each other and messing around...im sorry to burst yur bubble but yes that's jus how it is a guy will always mess a round with his babymomma whether he says no they ****** believe dat....he'll prolly stop jus to show how much he luvs yu or jus 2 prove a point but as soon as ya get into an argument or if he goes see the kid there will be flirting n ******..TRUST ME I HAVE 2 KIDS WIT 2 DIFFERENT GUYS N DATS HOW THEY ALL R....is really up 2 the girl if she's willin 2 let him go then oka but if she's not she's always gonna be #1......

Answer 3

A thousand pieces? That's a lot of pieces! Being hurt by someone you truly love can be the worst feeling to have. No one can honestly tell you what to do. I know that's not what you want to hear. But it is the truth. It all depends on not only IF he says he loves you, but HOW he shows it. If he truly shows you that he loves you and cares for you, you should forgive him, no matter what he has done. EVERYONE makes mistakes. Always remember, "Love" is an action, not just a feeling. Good luck! :]

Answer 4

Noone can decide that except for yourself... we could all sit here all day typing and pleading with you to leave the LOSER alone... but its your heart/mind/soul/body....

Listen to what your head tells you... Your heart can sometimes lead you astray.. Is this the type of relationship that you want to be in..?. Is it the type of relationship you would want for your daughter..? (even if you dont have one it works for an example.... Do you honestly see yourself investing your time, energy, money, loyalty, trust completly in this man...? If reading this upsets you... honey that means the answer is no..... He is not the person for you... read your own words.... if he truely loved you the way he says he does you wouldnt know what its like to have your heart shattered.... he as your man should be the one protecting you from this... not inflicting it.....You deserve a man that wants to and will give you the world... I promise you he is out there... you just have to be patient and not settle and you will find him when the time is right....

You deserve sooooooo much better...!!!

Answer 5

There's your answer...you said you feel disrespected. How can you go back to a man who has no respect for you? Everyone says "But I love him!" Doesn't anyone respect themselves to move on and know they deserve better. Just because you get used of someone for a few months or years doesn' mean you have to be with that one peroson. Everyone needs to respect the person their with than love will never be a question.

Ask yourself this question. If a friend of yours was going through the same situation as you, what advice would you give her?

Answer 6

You're right to pull away. What he did to you is unforgivable, moreso because he got someone else pregnant. You need to tell yourself you did all you could. You gave this relationship all you could, he didn't. He made his choice, but don't let that hold you back from moving on. There is definitely someone else out there for you, someone that won't do things so harmful, someone that respects you, your feelings, your heart - everything that is important in a loving relationship.

I know it's hard to hear, but you need to distance yourself from him & keep it that way. Time really does heal the pain. Not that you will forget.

Answer 7

he could just be lying about the pregnancy just to get you upset for some reason but you should try to work it out with him if it doesn't it's okay girl........leave him do what your heart tells you to do....you'll be okay finding someone better trust me i have been abused to , i have been cheated on more that NINE times and i still took the bastard back even after what he did to me. Yet this is your choice you know you love him but he cheated on you he messed up not you save yourself before its too late to make a change take it from my experience. this man is nothing but a player and will keep playing his cards until he has ran out of his game......don't let him do this to you let him see how selfish and how degenerated and manwhored he is let him see his own errors of his own ways......he needs to learn the hard way not the easy basically i'm saying if you don't want to get hurt again then be my guest and leave him for the fraud that he his.

Answer 8

If he hurt you this bad, he dosen't deserve a second chance. It's okay if you love him and want to stay in touch with him, but don't get back together with him. Give yourself some credit here. You don't deserve to have to go through that again so don't put yourself in that situation. Sometimes it's best to just start over new.

Answer 9

Well, it's not right that he got another woman pregnant & disrespected you like that. I understand you love him, but when someone hurts you, it's hard to let them back in. I went through hearbreak recently, & it's really hard to get through, but you'll be okay with or without him. I really hope this helped & feel better soon.

Answer 10

what is there to even think about?!?! he got another girl pregnant!!! if you get back with him, he is still gonna have that other girl in his life because hes gonna have to take care of HIS KID if he wants to be a good father. and of course the mother is gonna want to try and work things out and blah blah blah.... theres just so much that can go wrong with this guy... dont give him another chance... not worth the pain...

Answer 11

Does he love you? If I loved this guy that much I would probably give him another chance if I thought it was over between him and that other girl. He would also have to prove he loves me. Be careful because if you love him and he hurts you again, it could be really traumatic for you.

Answer 12

If you legitimately feel it will be worth it in the end, take it slow. He has alot of trust and respect to earn back. He made alot of mistakes and doesn't deserve to just have you back with the snap of a finger. But chances are, he will break your heart again. He did it once, he can do it again. :)

Answer 13

hes a father now! this situation is way to complicated for you to involve yourself with. and if you do involve yourself,you will inevitably be hurt because he will always be the father to someone elses baby.

DONT give him a second chance, there are so many other guys out there better than this one. it will be hard to let go, because it always is, but its for the best.

Answer 14

To be honest. i wouldn't, if he has hurt you so bad it wont be the best idea, becuase he might do it again. I know it seems hard at the moment and all you want is to be happy, but to be honest, you deserve better and should wait for someone better.

I think you shouldnt trust him unless you have reason too (:

good luck x x x

Answer 15

No; I don't think you should give him another chance. He got another woman pregnant, what if he gets you pregnant and leaves you?



I know you love him but you have to get over him x



Sorry and good Luck x

Answer 16

Oh hell no, don't give him the time of day. He's a player and he's just looking for more sex. Don't fall into his clutches. You need to move on. There are a lot better guys out there and one of the,m has your name tattooed on his heart you just need to find him but don't give up until you do find him.



Hope this helps, good luck.

Answer 17

he got another woman pregnant



he tryin to play you



watch "baby boy" the movie



then make your decision



if he truly loved you wold he want to put you threw this, and if you have to ask other people their opinions then is it really worth taking him back based on what people think?



Its your decision



Pray about it



Pray to be enlightened



to make the right choice



or to forgive



and to forget

Answer 18

if he is so willing to hurt you so badly once.. then what's to say that he won't do it again?.. if he was willing to lose you.. then don't you think that you deserve better?



ps.. i do understand how you feel.. and yes i am being a hypocrit.. it's really difficult to do the "right" thing when your heart is on the line and already hurting.

Answer 19

there are millions of possiblitys that you can do but the best is the one you choose ppl on here dont know who you are as a person or him if i was you i would talk it out between him and the girl and go from there but remember if he did it once he might do it again

Answer 20

Yeah, give him another chance to break your heart again. Go ahead if you like that feeling.

Answer 21

noo!!!! if i were you, i'd immeditely stop seeing him forever!! if you don't ,yes, you will be hurt again!!! you'll be more than hurt, just think of all he did to that "other woman"!!! i can't beleive you're still thinking of giving him another chance!! love can be found again but that baby's and its mom's lives?? what about yours??? get him out of your life, you'll thank me later. it might be hard at first,but it's what's best for you.

Answer 22

Gawd. Men like that should have WANTED FOR KILLING posters put up. Seriously, block him out.

My heart has been broken, too. Not so seriously, however. I blocked him out & tried to be strong. Guess what? It worked.

Answer 23

You haven't disrespected him. He disrespected you. Let him know that by staying away. And it sounds like lust not love To me.

Answer 24

If he hurts you, then he will hurt you again (especially when you make another girl pregnant).



It's time to move on.

Answer 25

STAY AWAY FROM HIM! you can do better, he is now connected to this other woman for life, she would always be there like. get away from him

Answer 26

havent u ever heard trash u trow away u never get back





but yeah is up to u

=D



hope i help

Answer 27

men this guy its a jurk leave his *** alone he would triple break your heart next time i know for a fact guys like that are not worth it

Answer 28

He got another girl pregnt. Girl LET HIM GO! You will regret it later if you dont!

Answer 29

If you love him and you know he loves you then give him another chance. If not then "NO"!

Answer 30

no- he hurt you- and he needs to be responsible for his baby-he chose the other girl-so hes not worth it

Answer 31

ok are you ready to be a step mom? that has to be your first question. and if he cheated on you then no you don't need to go back to him

Answer 32

What is there to love? ASk yourself that questin, is it worth it really?

Answer 33

Would you want him to take you back? If your answer is yes, then take him back, espcially if you love him.

Answer 34

dont give him another chance if he broke your heart he doesnt derisive you

Answer 35

i think you should leave him if hes having a baby with someone else

Answer 36

pepole dont learn

dont give him another chance he sounds like shi**ead

Answer 37

if you asked him if he still loves you, and he says yes and you believe him, then I'd say yes. everybody makes mistakes

Answer 38

NOOOO! Don't go back!!! It will just hurt even more!

Answer 39

no u shouldnt cause that was me too hell keep breaking it and once its broken hell stomp on it

Answer 40

no cause hes gonna be a father unless......

Answer 41

NO!!! He just wants sex & attention.



He's messed up.

Answer 42

two words for your problem.

Hell no

Answer 43

nope dont

Answer 44

this site will tell you what to do



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Answer 45

its up to you

Answer 46

nope. your too good for him.

Answer 47

no

Answer 48

no

Answer 49

no

Answer 50

never.

Answer 51

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