What does this girl mean?

Question

Its been a while since i asked a question but got woman trouble again (thats not about me ex :D) and any advice/insight would be greatly appriciated (especially from women!):

Basically met this girl recently, a friend of a friend. We all used to go out as a group, and me and this girl (Emily) were hitting it off a bit. After like 3 nights out we eventually snog and exchange numbers, she texts me the next morning and sent me NON-stop texts all that day, and pretty much everyday for the next 2 weeks or so (literally would wake up to a text everyday which followed on from convo the night before as she fell asleep txting me). Ok so after 2 more nights out i get invited back to hers after the group leave the club. However due to a number of things (very respectable/good reasons) i couldent go back home with her. She got a bit angry when i told her twice i couldent go home with her but she would still text me straight away the next day. Ok then i arrange a date with her (go for a drink, and then go to hers and 'watch a film'). So the date is going well, in her room, on the bed, talking and about to 'watch a film', she jumps on me, and we start making out, cloths come off...ect...but halfway through it i told her i dident wanna have sex the first date, she gets a bit annoyed but we still have a nice evening (more foreplay, kissing, cuddling, banter...ect). Next day wake up, we have breakfast and watch tv, kiss goodbye and say we will see each other the next day (as it was the night of my birthday party, which i the night before suggested we should have sex on). However she did not text me or reply to my texts that evening, and litrally ignored me at my own birthday party. Since she has not text me once in 2 weeks, and takes over 24 hours to reply to a text (if she even bothers). I've only text her three times since 2 weeks ago but her replies have all been slow and blunt (as opposed to quick, long and flirty like before). I'm just wondering what could have inspired this change?? Their are a few things i should also point out which i will list below which i think might be relevant,but please help lol, im baffled?!?!

1. Confusing because on the night she was being much more romantic than me, taking me to the kitchen and making out while she made tea, telling me i'm cute, pulled me back for more goodbye kisses in the morning and whilst waking up.

2. Confusing because when she asked me why i dident want to have sex, and i replied "its nicer to wait, it means more, something to look forward to next time i take you out ;) i guss im just a bit old fashioned". She responded positivly, by saying "i dident know nice guys like you actually existed" and when i told her "it also probably means i like you :)" she pretended not to hear that (very cute btw girls) and made me repeat it like 5 times in her ear. Suggesting to me it didn't shock her and scare her away, as if she responded badly i would understand why she is ignoring me.

3. We both planned like 4 dates before we met up

4. When i said we should wait for the sex she said, "this might be your only opertunity" and said that like 3 times. This was the most negative sign i think, this annoys me loads too because shes soooo damn hot, like 5 times nicer than my ex, and i might have bloody missed my only chance (sooo freaking hot), because i dident wanna sleep with her the first date. Quick note: my reason for not wanting this is because last 2 girls i been on date with in last 6 months, i had sex with both o first date, and neither showed interest after that. So because i thought me and Emily had a connection i thought holding off might be nice/right. So my dick hates me lolol

PLEASE ADVISE ME

Answer 1

she only wanted one thing, sex.

Answer 2

Well first off let me say, that I don't view it as wrong to wait until you are in a committed relationship to have sex.



HOWEVER, I do think that if you are involved with someone, and that is how you feel, you should make them aware of your view on the matter, so that the other person knows what to expect. That will prevent any misunderstandings or crossed signals, which is important to prevent the relationship from getting started off on the wrong foot.



If the other person does not wish to delay having sex, but you feel very strongly about your decision to delay it, you should stick to your decision. If the person in question is constantly pressuring you to have sex, despite your objections, they do not respect you, and you should not date them.



If your girlfriend has been personally informed of your attitude and acts in the above mentioned way the advice applies to her too.



And your instincts are correct. A lot of time people do lose interest after they have sex with someone - especially if that was all they were interested in.

Answer 3

Well you denied her which was probably a huge confidence blow especially when it was so obvious she was into you for that. She probably hand't gotten laid in a while, was frustrated, and was hoping you'd do the honors and when you didn't after she spent so much time on you then she decided you were just a waste, probably found someone the next day who would man up, and decided she didn't need you anymore because frankly she doesn't she's probably got some other guy in the saddle as we speak. Next time quit the nice guy routine and satisfy her needs.

Answer 4

maybe she's just angry that you're not down to F*ck when she is, yet you want to do it on a set date...that could be annoying if she doesn't understand where you're coming from. But if you say you want to be respectable, then you have to back it up by waiting longer...because wanting to do it on ur birthday a short time after you said "no" to her because of "respectable reasons", is a little hypocritical.