I need help like HELP badly right now, PLEASE PLEASE help me ! I don't know what to do ! PLEASE HELP ! Thanks?

Question

Hey everyone

Well, me and my girlfriend have been together for about 3 months now and we are in love and so on, And we are in a long distance relationship and i was suppose to go to see her last month for a few days but then couldn't go for a certain reason, So i told her and we were both upset that i couldn't go and then she said she would come see me, and im very happy that she is and everything. and as she doesn't have enough money for a hotel i said she could stay with me and my mam and dad, For the few days she is here, and she said that would be great (we are both teenagers but not like 12 or anything) And this is were things get messed up, I have told her that my mam and dad know of her/about her, And that they know she is coming to stay with us, And my mam and dad really have no clue that i have a girlfriend at all, And have no idea of her, And my girlfriends mam told me on msn that she wants to speak to my mam on the phone to make sure she knows that my girlfriend is coming over, which is doesn't at all, (cause yeah i know i lied) And my girlfriend booked a flight TODAY for monday that she is coming to stay with me, And i have no clue at all what to do, I have really ran myself into a dead end. And i am too embarresed and nervous/shy to tell my mam and dad that i have a girlfriend and ask if she can come over and stay if when they had not even met her yet, And i have no clue what to do :-(

PLEASE PLEASE help me !
I have no clue what to do,
What do you think of my situation ?
And what should i do ?

So please please help me !

Thanks in advance :-)

Answer 1

You need to come clean with your folks a.s.a.p. and see if you can remedy the situation. Just say, "I did something and you're going to be mad at me, but I hope you'll help me out. I've been seeing this girl and she's coming and I did something stupid and told her she can stay here."

That's really the only thing you can do.

They will most likely not tell her she has to sleep at the airport, they will probably find a place far away from where you're sleeping in the house and let her stay. They'll be mad. They'll get over it.

If they absolutely say no, you're screwed, but you have to try. Aside from the fact that you feel you love this person, even if you didn't, it would be pretty cruel to have her fly out with false plans.

Answer 2

I've never met any guys dad who didn't agree with his son having his girlfriend sleep over, You should have told your parents that you had a girlfriend, if you lie any further it could get bad, just tell your parents that you've had a girlfriend for a while if they ask why you haven't said anything, just tell them that you didn't think it was going to be anything big but she wants to spend some time with you while your gone, then make arrangements with your parents like she wont sleep in the same room as me, etc. Just try to keep your parents from thinking they will become grandparents at an early age. Then tell your mom that her mom wants to talk to her, if you can play it off as a friend from school if you insist on lying.



Its either do that or pitch a tent outside for her somewhere secluded, and tell her not to talk to anyone. Or cut the plans and just tell her that you don't want her spending the money because she could buy something nice with it instead, and that she needs to save her money

Answer 3

You have really put yourself in a terrible situation. You should have thought this through before telling your girlfriend or her mother anything. Never forget that a relationship built on lies will always fail.



In any case, regarding what to do. The best thing to do at this point is to be very open and frank with your parents. Just tell them everything you posted. Be HONEST, no white lies, no hiding certain facts. Be sure to tell them that you were too shy to tell them about your girlfriend, even though you lied to your girlfriend and her mother.



By doing this, I believe your parents will understand the situation you have put yourself into, and therefore, be more receptive when your girlfriend arrives. Although I doubt they will be happy and cheerful about the situation.



After you talk to your parents, you should talk to your girlfriend and tell her the TRUTH. If at that point your parents want to talk to her parents, then you have found your solution.



I can guarantee that if you continue to lie to people, you will never be successful in any of your relationships. It's better to solve the problem and overcome your weaknesses now, while you're young.

Answer 4

Its only going to get worse. She will DUMP YOU. YOU WILL HAVE NO GIRLFRIEND IF SHE HAS PAYED HUNDREDS OF POUNDS/DOLLARS FOR A FLIGHT AND THEN HAS NOWHERE TO STAY! you already disapointed her, whether it was your fault or not, by not seeing her, and if you then have lied to her AND then gotten her to take a flight to you only to be turned away on the doorstep, then your parents will scream and shout at you, your girlfriend will hate you, her parents will be disapointed, not trust, and be very angry with you too.



Im sorry that this seems harsh, but it WILL HAPPEN and the only way for you to solve it is to tell your parents what has happened.

Say: "look mum, dad, I have a girlfriend. I was too shy too tell you, but its a long distance relationship, and I couldnt go to see her last time, so she offered to come here. I was working up the courage to tell you and ask you if she can stay here, but she's already booked the flight. So Im really sorry, but I'm in such a horrible and frightening situation, I need you to be Ok with this, otherwise I am going to have you angry at me, her left on the street, her family very angry at me and rightly so, and all because i was too nervous to tell you. So please would you..." then ask them what you need.



Good Luck, but next time, please, your life will never have these problems if you defeat nerves. Imagine them like a little squirrel trying to get away from you. You need to keep a firm, firm hand on your nerves, otherwise you will lose them, never get them back and be in a bad situation like this one.



Good Luck



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Answer 5

You should first tell your parents that you have a gf keep them in the loop of things that way it doesn't get this far for the next time. If your parents don't agree with you on letting ur gf stay at there house look for other alternatives. Is there a spare bedroom she can stay? A close family member or friends house that will let her stay? good luck.

Answer 6

You have to come clean with your parents and be sure to include an apology for not mentioning it sooner. If you can't get them to go for it you need to call the gf and let her know so she can cancel. She will probably loose the money on the flight so the decent thing to do would be to cover whatever her expenses are for that. Good luck:)

Answer 7

omg are you serious???



All I can think of is telling your mom you went out with a girl you really liked and that she's a nice girl but she had to go somewhere. And now she has some days off (from schoo or work or whatever) and she wants to stay over so you guys can go out to restaurants or (mention many historic places) and just have a great time again.



After that you moms can call each other so they know it's true.

Answer 8

Hi! You need to sit down with your parents and to explain the whole situation to them. Let them know that you really care for her and that you two will stay in separate rooms and all. This will give them a chance to get to know her and to see you two together. Tell them you were scared of how they would react. I'm sure that they will understand. Hope this helps!

Answer 9

u guys are mean. Plain and simple hun. Just tell the truth. U should start with ur GF to make sure she knows she might have to cancel or something. I don't think ur parents would just tell u no after all that trouble but ur gonna have some trust issues. <3

Answer 10

WOW. talk to the parent you are closest first and find more understanding . Tell them "Parent, I'm ___ yrs old and wanted to let you know that I have a girlfriend named___ and we've been dating for ___. I feel she might really be the one because___. My dilemma is that i want you to meet her so bad but she lives far away, so she's flying in ____ and i told her she could stay with us so we can spend time together and you guys can meet the woman in my life" =) *smile and knod.*

Answer 11

Well first of all you need to sit your parents down and explain yourself...tell them that you've met someone and that you have been seeing each other for months, but you didn't know how to tell them (your parents) that you were too shy to let them know, because you didn't know how they (your parents) would take it. tell them that this girl means a lot to you and that she is coming to meet the family. to prepare them let them know what she's like...and that her mom would like to speak to them (your parents) too.



It will be OK just be honest...if its hard to speak to the both of them talk to your mom 1st she might understand more and might help you talk to your dad.



Most important be up front with your parents and be honest...



Good Luck!

Answer 12

dude u need to talk to ur parents. if u really love the grl u'll go through the humiliation just to see her. long distance relationships can be tough, but if i was the girls mother, (and i know my mother would do the same if she wouuld even let me go) i wud deffff want to know what my daughter is up to. anyways, what r u gonna do when she gets here? what if u dont tell them and she mentions something? ur screweed if u dont talk to ur parents. trust me, it sucks to live a lie and the only thing u can do to make things better is to tell the truth before things get worse.





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Answer 13

ok so I understand the whole embarrassed thing, but you have t tell them. Say something like she can sleep in a different room. You have to come clean with them and then have them talk to her mom. You obviously like her enough to want her to come over then don't be embarrassed with your parents because they were kids once too. Tell them tonight so they can have time to prepare or whatever they need to do.

P.S. stop stressing! be calm and think before you speak.

Answer 14

Her mom just wants to make sure her daughter is going to be supervised and taken care of, she doesn't know your family. Tell your mom right now the truth and tell her that you really like this girl and just want to be honest about it so she can come visit. If you don't, you won't get to see her dude. Give your mom her number so she can call her mom. No big deal, stop freakin out. Its immature.

Answer 15

first of all not being mean but that was rlly dumb

but what i would do is work ur *** of and get enough money for a hotel if u want this relationship to last cuz when she gets there and has no where to stay shes gonna be pissed



? have u met her b4 this

Answer 16

TELL YOUR MAM AND DAD!!!! You will get in SOOO MUCH trouble if you don't! tell them in a note! $#&*#% TELL THEM!!!!!!!!!!!!!



If I was in your situation......I would freak out and I would be jumping out of my skin. you have to tell your parents. Take a deep breath and tell your parents the whole truth and run to room. Or give them a note and go to your room or stay there. I like the note idea because you don't have to 'tell' them.

Answer 17

ok well i know that you are definitely scared nervous what eve but just tell your parents you like this girl you now Just started going out and so now her parents are upset with her and so she needs to like i guess stay with you for a lil bit for how ever long she is staying and then make up to her by doing something Really sweet for her. try this and tell how it goes...

Answer 18

Go right now to your parents and tell them everything before this poor girl ends up at your door in a place she doesn't know with no where to go. That would be really messed up.

Answer 19

This is why it's not good to tell lies..



You should tell your mom & dad the story. Don't bother telling your girlfriend.. she'll just get pissed, along with her mom. Tell your parents hope that they understand and be sure to include that her flight it already booked.



That wasn't smart of you though..

lesson learned. right?



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Answer 20

ok dude, look ur gonna get in trouble either way so it really dont matter much what you do just dont try to hide her. tell ur parents NOW that u have a girlfriend and that u kno u messed up and she is on her way to ur house monday, tell them that they can punish u after she leaves but to please not make her leave, thats wat i would do, tell them she can sleep on the couch or somthing and promise them nothing will happen that they wouldnt approve of! whatever u do DONT try to hide her or avoid telling ur parents, u better tell them now and not the day she shows up!

Answer 21

Tell your parents about your girlfriend. They wont mind. Tell them why you didnt tell them in the first place. Tell them what you have done so they can help you out. Tell your girlfriend. Im sure she'll understand.

Answer 22

You have only one option. Tell the truth, admit you screwed up and apologize. Not only to your parents but to your girlfriends and her parents.



Also, learn to spell.

Answer 23

I agree with seekn2kn. poor kids you should never lied to your parent and dont keep secrets if you would have been honest in the begaining your parent could help her

Answer 24

Tell your parents. If you're mature enough to have a relationship you should be mature enough to tell your parents the situation.

End of story.

Answer 25

if u really love ur grl, then u need to tell ur mam and and dad. bite the bullet.

Answer 26

OMG- This is one of those situations where your in DEEP CRAP!..



No getting out of this one. Gatta face the music. Next time . use that thing above your eyes and in your head.. Its called a brain.

Answer 27

Just tell your parents the truth! Maybe they will let her stay there?

Answer 28

I think you're a dumb as s and this whole thing is going to blow up in your face! HOW can you be so stupid? LOL Guess they'll know about her NOW HUH?

Answer 29

just tell your parents.. Crying usually softens their hearts tell them you didn't mean to keep it a secret from them everything just unraveled so fast.. Make sure they know she already bought her ticket

Answer 30

Why didnt you tell them that you were dating?If someone is serious they will tell their parents,their relatives,even the dog.I mean really...go tell them..how could you.

Answer 31

so heres wat u NEED to do! tell ur parents now!!!! y didn't u tell them earlier! nd how could u lie to ur girlfriend like that?!??!

tell them that this is their chance to meet her! u need to do it ASAP!!!

if she gets there nd finds out u lied to her, which odds are she will, shes not going to be happy! TELL THEM NOW...AS SOON A YOU READ THIS!!!!

Answer 32

Tell your parents...Last thing u need iz for her to b on the STREET!

Answer 33

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Answer 34

i think u shud just let her spk to ur mum and how old r u ?

Answer 35

there is nothing to do but to tell your parents, good luck with that one :)

Answer 36

LIKE OMG no!

Answer 37

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