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I have a crush in my school and I've talked with her non-stop through text and
phone... I'm really confused with the
situation which is now standing in-front
of me now..! I've proposed her 2 weeks ago through text
and she replied "lets see what happens in future" ; the most awkward feeling of
getting this type of answer instead of
"no" or "yes"...

More :
One day we both were traveling through same bus to our home and one of her guy-friend came and talked with
her.. I stopped talking to her, and when
we all reached home she text-ed me and said
"Sorry, I Talked with him... I
didn't like to talk but what to do, he
came up itself.. There Must not be any Misunderstanding between Us "..

That Scene is over, Lets go to Next :
Okay now lets see this thing :
One Day, I called her to come with
me outside to do some shopping, but she refused,
because she said that she was not
allowed to comeout.. Now we don't message this much because her
Message Card Was over and i asked her does
she need one of it? She said "No"..
"I guees that means that she don't want to message me Because she might be bored...."

One day, she told she was totally confused with me after proposing her.. Maybe 3 weeks before her boyfriend left her and she told me all those things because she finds me as her closest friend among the whole school.. She told me that he(her bf) was too demanded and she will never ever go back to his life again. She told me that she don't want to be in any relationship until and unless she finds out true love now...
I don't know what is going on in her mind..

She can't come out with me | She is sending me mixed signals | I proposed her, and she told lets see |

What actually is going on?

One more thing : One day i asked her what type of bf does she want, she replied
"Tall, cute , caring and lovable like me.." yes, she told LIKE ME.. And she again replied "Your future girlfriend would be very lucky"..
Oh man, i don't know whats going on and it seems like these days she lost interest in me because i keep messaging all the time..

History :
Its been only 4 months since i started talking.. And she tells me I'm so funny and she thinks what i say as a joke...

Update Of this Month :
Okay On July 25th i recharged her Phone with message pack and Now Again we're non-stop in talking... I proposed her again and she said she though it was a joke but now as she knew i was serious about her she told me "Hey, Don't take me too serious, So, Close Your eyes and Remove all the fond of mine from today... If you want you can hate me from today!"
I replied "Was that even possible to do that??" She didn't replied anything and changed that topic and i carried on....
You know guys, My Friend, This World of Internet Confuses me a lot.... My Friends says to carry on, some of them said to move on and

this world of internet tells me to play game(like No-Contact game which i did.. i will tell you now)..

Next Phase:
We carried on our friendship and last week i asked her
"Hey XX, take my Promise and tell me.. Are you actually not interested in me or something else"
She Replied
"Hey YY(my name), You Promise... This year i want to be a single girl.. i don't want any relationship now... I am not interested in Love-Relation now... I Promise"

I told her that 4 girls of different sections Proposed me but i said "no" to them
She Replied "Wow YY, You can become Bf of everyone... great haha! I don't know why but i am feeling really excited about you"
{This Excitement Confused me alot "Was it because i have choosed to love only her?? or Because she is happy because i will leave

her?}
I got a bit angry after getting that message and
For 2 days I Didnt messaged her so she texted me
"hi" "hello?" "oh i am sorry YY, I will not disturb you again.. So Busy life na... Thanks for everyting you gave me, Supporting me in

evry diffucult stage of my life"
I just ignored her in school
And next day she replied
"I am missing you"
Then Again after 4 days has passed i started again And she told me "Hey YY, Please be my Good Friend Forever,, Please don't mind but

sometimes i might treat you as my love"
Then we're continuing till today...
I gave her fav chocolate today (14th feb)

Now i am Confused,,,,
Should i move on?
Should i move on or should i wait ?
Thanks!

Answer 1

Okay, I've read the new details.

That tells she likes you as a best friend but doesn't want to be in a relationship with you.

That's why I said you shouldn't make another try until she does.

You'll freak her out if you talk about that with her again & again. So it's better not to ruin your friendship in any way & wait for her to make a move.

Answer 2

She likes you, and possibly not only as a friend, but, for some reason, she's not willing to commit. Maybe she's not ready, maybe she has feelings for you but they are not passionate enough, and she wants to sort them out before embarking on something. Maybe she was hurt in the past, or has seen someone close to her getting hurt by a relationship, so she's afraid... There may be so many reasons, we never know a person's history.



The best tactic now is stop bugging her with insistence that she becomes your girlfriend because this will irritate her, will put you in a subordinate position (the person who is constantly pleading and is constantly refused) and show you as needy. A big turn off and to be avoided at all costs in the dating game!



So no more talk of love or Valentine gestures (what you did with the chocolates was uncalled for, she's not your gf, and she positively refused to be that).

BUT

There is nothing to stop you from getting close and intimate with her.

Now this cannot be done through messaging. Plus it's tiring, plus it's costly. She's not allowed to go out with you. OK, but don't you guys have Skype? Preferably with a webcam? Where you can talk freely while you see the other person's face? The lowering of the eyes, the silences, the smiles... It's SOOO much better than texting, I wonder why most teens prefer it nowadays. It is understandable if you're outside the house and it's an emergency, but if you can sit comfortably in front of your screen and chat, why bother typing on a cellphone?



Anyway. I said "get close and intimate". Let me expand on that.

You want to pour out your heart to her about everything EXCEPT your feelings for her. But feelings must be exchanged. About things, people, animals, nature, something you love doing, an idea you're passionate about, your goals and dreams about the future... Everything. And listen to hers, and discuss. Find common ground, minimize the uncommon ground, don't insist on it. If you start talking of your passion about baseball, for instance, and you sense a coldness on the other side... drop it! Find something else, that you both like, something that will strengthen your bond. And be a good listener, learn about her own likes, dislikes and passion. Show that you are observant, too, tell her what you have observed about her and liked. Don't shower her with adulation, though. Never adulate, this is debasing yourself, and showing neediness.

And make it playful. It's good if she has a great time with you, if she has fun. This doesn't mean telling jokes, mind you!

This situation will get you at a point where you become indispensable. There will be a complicity between you, something special that you share.

Yes, but we don't want to be her best friend, right? Sooo.... Season the whole thing with a sprinkle of flirting every now and then. Make her understand that you see her as a girl, as a female, not as your buddy. This difference should never be away from your mind. Do it very subtly, it shouldn't be immediately obvious.

Your goal is to achieve a certain point where she will be wondering "What about his proposal? Does he still want me or has he moved on and only sees me as a friend? Yes, but... that look he gave me yesterday? Nah, this could only be me imagining things".

You want to create a little suspense about that, a little mystery. Make it seem like you have taken literally what she asked you, i.e.be friends, and like if she has to win you over again. This will sustain her interest in you, and even create it, if what is there now is just a sparkle but no fire, it will make it a full-fledged flame.

I hope I explained the plan I am proposing in a way that you can understand it's philosophy, the kind of attitude you should have, so that then you can improvise.



Wishing you the best of luck and lots of happiness!

Answer 3

Looks like she is a moody person, but hey, move on. I feel your love is true one!