who thinks having sex under the age of 18 is alright?

Question

i personally don't think so but give me your opinion

Answer 1

UK its 16 legal. So yeah, thats fine..

Answer 2

A lot of people want all women to have Mary (mother of Jesus) as their model.



She was pregnant at 11 or 12.



For over a thousand years, our "western" culture would marry girls as soon as they reached puberty, just to make sure that they would not get pregnant out of wedlock. Obviously, these people (our ancestors) knew that sex begins with puberty.



The idea of abstinence before marriage started when marriages took place at age 13. It was also a time when women were chattel, to be owned by a husband.



Men do not want to have to pay (with energy, with money, whatever) to raise some other man's kid. One sure way is to take possession of a woman while whe is still a virgin, then seclude her from any other contact. Many of our "rules" (religious or otherwise) are based on that manly fear.



There is also the fact that sudden emotions and events (pleasant or unpleasant) release chemicals into the brain, so that we crave pleasure (or try to avoid pain). Orgasms -- especially the first ones -- release a "binding" chemical that prompts us to seek the presence of the person that gave us the pleasure, and to be jealous of anyone or anything that deprived us of that person.



At a time when marriage took place at age 13, this was not a bad thing. However, now that marriages take place at age 20 (or more) -- and puberty is still around age 11 or 12 -- there is a risk that if one of the partners does not understand what is going on inside their own brain, then the whole thing could turn sour if the other person has different aspirations (one wants a life-time committment, the other simply wants to enjoy their youth while they still can).



I would say that in North America, where young people (heck, even most adults) have no idea how their bodies really work, early sex is a bad idea.



However, in civilized countries, where a complete education includes this knowledge, it is OK.

Answer 3

This is a very mutlilayered question. As a biological species, humans aren't supposed to live as long as they do, so their sexual peak is at 18. It seems logical that, in some instances, that humans should be competing for the right to mate. However, whilst our bodies are supposed to be telling adholescents to be having sex beforehand, humanity has evolved into this mess we call society. Humans in society are tought that they should wait. People don't view teenage mothers as very responsible and they don't really command respect, putting it bluntly. They don't see these teenage parents as being experienced or mature enough to raise a child or, on the matter, have sex. This causes a conflict between biology and society. If biology is victorious, then the teenagers will have sex and raise their offspring. If society is victorious, the teenagers won't have sex. Of couse, there is always a stalemate, where the teenagers have sex yet don't raise any possible child, resorting to abortion or adoption.

Of course, both biology and society have slight quandries. In youth society, there is the matter of peer pressure. The age for kids to think it's OK to have sex is slowly lowering and, as mentioned, girls and guys as young as 13 are having sex. It might just be a myth, but supposedly, the world's youngest parents were 8 and 9. I question whether hormones are to blame for this. I'll be frank, I hadn't even noticed girls by that age. In this instance, I think that the peak of hormones is the best time to start having sex, at leat putting some logic into it and not making it just some school kid closet game.

Biology, however, does pose a taboo of society. In humanity's past, males have been challenging other males for the right to mate. Often, the larger, more experienced men would win. Society has now forbidden any such relationship. Society has made people wary of age differences in relationships, and has looked down upon those relationships with large age differences. My question is, would people prefer young teens having sex with older companions? If not, than hopefully teens having sex with other teens is the prefferable compromise.

Sex in a relationship is like the alcohol in a fine wine. Both are minor factors in a brilliant mix, but if you offer either to an adholescent, it will be these carnal elements that cause their wanting.

In my opinion, sex under 18 is OK. It could very wel be inevetible. However, to eradicate the barbaric, carnal element of sex would be to eradicate alcohol and other recereational drugs. Good luck with that.

Answer 4

Nope, not alright. I have a 2 month old at my daycare that is in foster care because mom is 17 and would forget to feed the baby. Sex may sound great but the responsibility of having sex is way more than those under 18 (and some over 18 even) can handle.

Answer 5

WAIT...WAIT...WAIT. Sex is meant to be a way to show affection and between two people who love each other. How can 2 people really know they love each other? Especially children? Wow!!! We think we know what love is when we are young, but that is such a fleeting emotion...more of an infatuation. Love involves a lifetime committment to someone, which, as someone else mentioned, is not honored well these days with the high rates of divorce. However, if someone is willing to wait for you, isn't that love?



The other thing people forget is that sex is not a uni-faceted thing! Of course were given physical pleasure so we can enjoy our lover, but there is MORE than that. Sex is also an emotional AND a spiritual connection. Spiritually, it is a divine gift from God so that we can have children and, emotionally, there is no deeper connection to another person.



Taking that step in life is so important. In an ideal world, people would look deeper than the immediate physical pleasure and realize that there are so many long-term consequences AND benefits of waiting.

Answer 6

The legal age of sexual consent in the UK is 16.



I think an age cap at 18 is wrong, I don't see a problem with 17 year olds, in a loving, mature relationship, having safe sex, possibly even 16 year olds. (Hey, you're old enough to get *married* in Scotland at 16, if you can make a decision like *that*, then you should be able to make an informed decision about sex.)



Anything before 16 is, in my opinion, too young. (And classed as statutory rape anyway.)

Answer 7

It is best left to individual decision and choice.



It depends on emotional maturity and body's readiness to have sex; and more than anything else, it is the mental age that matters here more than the physical age.



And, most girls are not emotionally or physically mature under the age of 16 to have sex; although many girls under the 16 would hardly be a virgin!



So, as I said, it is left to individual choice (to have sex under the age of 18, or not!).

Answer 8

Well if the age limit is 18 in a country then a person has every right to believe underage sex is wrong, but in the UK it is 16+ so it is fine.

Answer 9

i think it depends on the individual, but if you tell a teenager that they can't have sex under a certain age, they are going to do it, just because you said that they couldn't. that's what i done when i was 15, coz i thought i was really ready for it, but thinking back now, i only done it coz i was told not too. i wasn't ready, and that's one mistake that can never be put right. i don't think there should be an age limit on things like having sex, or drinking, because that just begs kids to do it before they are ready to. if there wasn't any age limits, i don't think there would be so many kids having sex, or drinking.

Answer 10

I think in the world today if you pressure kids not to have sex before 18 they are going to do it behind your back. You need to be open with your kids and if they are going to have sex before the age of 18 then you need to be the responsible parent and make sure they have the proper protection to aviod young teenage pregnancy. It is a fact of life and people need to realize that they are going to do it whether you want them to or not even if your religion frowns on it. We need to be a responsible community and provide them with the protection they need instead of just denying they are doing it. Look at the facts how many teenage pregnancy there are today

Answer 11

I think its wrong,when your 16 your still a kid...ppl dont think so but u really are a kid at 16,having sex at 16 or under 18 seems strange...even if you are in love,u dont know if it will work out! well i think ppl in england and america growup to quick! they forget what being a kid is like,then some girls fall pregnant,thats it,no life for them at all even if they say they have one! i think u should do it when your ready! i was almost 19 when i slept with my bf,still together after 2years,also if i met him at 16,i know we wouldnt of worked out,personal experience i couldnt handle having sex at 16,not as mature,am not saying i was stupid at 16 but its dif if you give it copule years to realise what u really want from life! getting pregnant would of not been what i wanted at 16...am glad i waited and for the right guy aswell!

Answer 12

Most of girls' sex organs fully develop at 15 only. In hot places many girls mature even earlier. Mentally all girls are not prepared to have sex so early but most of them feel like having the same at 16 badly. It is said that it is most enjoyable for them in that age. 18 is a little bit higher actually but the lack of proper knowledge may disturb the expected pleasure , maximum satisfaction & a lot of expected thrilling. True, girls badly like to have sex at 16 b coz their organs have sweet sensations at peak but they're afraid of other members of their family, particularly parents & elder brothers.



Do not mix the so called legal laws made by politicians with human health & natural physical requirements of the body & mind. politicians are not deciders of one's health requirements.

Answer 13

I think it is up to the individuals....you can't tell someone that they can't have sex.......just about that time is when they will.

Just because someone is under 18 does not mean that they are not mature enough to have sex.......there are people who are over 18 that still aren't mature enough.

I just hope that they are prepared for the possible consequences....

Answer 14

I think it depends o the situation..



If 2 people are in a couple and have been datin for a good while its ok.But only if there sensible about it.



But if its just about th sex between 2 people who barely no eachother and who dont reli giv a **** its wrong..



Personally i tink its important to be in a relationship and that both people are ready for it..

Answer 15

it really does depend on the persons involved, some are ready way earlier than 18 and some way after, i think for the maturity end, younger than 16 is difficult

Answer 16

I don't think girls should do it. I did it right before I turned 18.. like a month or 2. i understand sex after marriage now. but marriage anymore isn't as committing as it used to be so sex and marriage have almost lost it's meaning...



i think you should have to pass a financial stability test before you can have sex.... i know it's so far fetched but come on. no one should be having sex until they can support a baby and not get on yahoo asking home abortion methods or how to keep their bf because she just got pregnant by him....

Answer 17

I think it's fine to have sex under 18 and before you're married. It would be hard to wait really long, with teenagers and their hormones and whatever. I think you should be at least 16, though, as long as you have protection of some sort so you don't get pregnant.

Answer 18

I don't think so either. I personally think sex should be saved for marriage and if people don't want to wait they should AT LEAST be 21.

Answer 19

I didn't have sex till i was 18 years old... about 3 days after my 18th birthday party if i remember right...



That's just me, i would have had it earlier if I could have...



Thinking back on it though, I agree with you...

Answer 20

I think u shld wait until marriage call me old fashioned but hey i salute the virgins and thier ability to stand behind thier moral values

Answer 21

What people do with themselves is up to them. I'm 17 and me and my gf have done everything but the actual sex part.



It's a dangerous sport. A lot of my friends are having sex, and me and my gf don't want to risk it.

Answer 22

with the stds and teen pregnancy i don't recommend it. i don't recommend it, and i'm 21. i don't have sex before marriage. i believe there is something very wrong with it. you can love someone without having sex with them. i think sex should be with a married couple.

Answer 23

you can't stop it most people have sex before 18. it sucks when the girl gets pregnant though

Answer 24

If you know you love the person and it feels right then i see nothing wrong with it. but if its just for sex like all these sluts and man sluts do these days then its wrong... stupid 13 year olds who've had sex and its ment nothing to them.. its ment to be a special thing done with the one you love. As i said if you know you love them then theres nothing wrong with it at all

Answer 25

i think people should wait untill marriage but it's difficult though ,so 18 is nice

Answer 26

No I dont think its right...even gay sex under 18 isnt right as far as im concerned.

Answer 27

depends on how aware you are of the consequences of your actions and how prepared you are for them. baby, sickness, cheating and so on. my momma always said 18 don't make you mature it just means we can kick your butt out the house.

Answer 28

No it's not alright but society will never be able to control it.

Answer 29

Nah, I think it should be raised to 21.

Answer 30

i think that if 16 is the legal age, and if there ready go for it

Answer 31

And then they expect everyone else to care for their unwanted child.



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Answer 32

i think its wrong, but at my school (7th an 8th school) theres quite a bit of "active" couples walking round. and their 13,14,&15. a who was in my 6th grade class got it done and we were all discusted. but crazy **** 8th graders, we dont have no brains

Answer 33

sex... sex... sex... we all love sex! LOL joking. no i think that it's ok to have sex over 18.

Answer 34

also i don think so, as sex is a good relatioship

between man and woman.

Answer 35

As long as you know how to use protection properly it shouldn't be a problem

Answer 36

It depends who with, but your vulnerable at that age, and can be abused.

Answer 37

it depends on the individual,their maturity and relationship

Answer 38

i reckon the law is just about right, 16+ is ok