How do you get over this?

Question

Ok so i had a previous question relating to this. I broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years. It hurts so much how he can just act like a complete asshole with me and rub it in my face that he likes someone else. I've tried talking to him how he should stop but he spits in back in my face that he doesn't want me back, he's angry and liking someone else. I dont know what he wants from me because it seems like i bug the **** out of him even if im not doing anything or around him. I know i have so much to look forward to but i really love him and to know he'll go to such extremes to make me feel like crap hurts me alot. Any advice for a girl who wants her heart to heal?

Answer 1

Cut your ties with him because trying to be friends just isn't working. The scab just keeps getting ripped off the wound.



Then, just get out and live life. Don't sit around at home crying over him. Go shopping, hang with friends, take a walk, volunteer for a community organization, or find a new hobby. Do whatever interests you; the key isn't *what* you do, but that you get your mind off of *him* and onto more productive things.

Answer 2

Aww girl im sorry. Guys can be such inconsiderate people. The honest truth is that you need to ignore his ***. He doesnt deserve you to care for him atol. Just move on. Dont make any attemps to talk to him, if he wants to hang out or something, maybe just ask to hang out during the day so he doesnt try to use you as a hook up buddy. Think of him as a friend, or not even that. Its really hard to put the past behind you especially if it was 3 years, but it will take time but just get your mind off him, have a girls night or just call a friend to get your mind off him. Dont worry things will get better if you just keep positive!

Answer 3

If he really is acting like such a jerk than i wouldn't give him the time of day, just ignore him. You could try to calmly talk to him about why hes been acting the way he has lately, but it seems you have tried that and hes just been an immature brat about it. I don't know the reasons behind your break up, but its possible that he either still likes you and is upset by it, or that hes just an *** and is trying to make you jealous. Either way, like I said until he grows up and stops being so rude and hurtful then I would ignore him. And sorry, that stinks :-\

Answer 4

Aww I'm going through the same thing. I just really want to be with him, and it completely kills me that I'm not but he wants more to do with his new "friend that's a girl" than me.

It's so hard, but I've been through something like this before and unfortunately, the only thing that really heals it is time. :/ I know, it completely sucks. JUst surround yourself with friends who wont talk bad about him, or tell you you can do better..but surround yourself with friends who are just understanding. & let you cry and be upset. Because when stuff like this happens IT IS OKAY TO BE UPSET. I mean, yea try and live your life..but it's completely normal to be sad.

JUst try and make the best out of everything.

:)

Answer 5

oh i feel bad for you. you just have to be strong , i know your always thinking about him but you have to show him that you don't care about him anymore and that you have better things to do and look forward to and that's starting over brand new . you have to work on loving yourself first and not settling for no bull crap from no man and know that you deserve better just because you have a good heart . and your ex boyfriend will take notice and see that your serious and that your not beat for him, and then he'll feel like ****. I recomend that you start seeing other guys and listen to a few songs to help you get over cause lord knows it help me .stay strong girl!!!

1. alicia keys - lesson learned

2. keyshia cole- let it go

3. mary j . blidge- hurt again and not gonna cry

4. whitney houston- it's not right but it's okay

Answer 6

hmm...to a guy like that, i wouldnt win them back, i would get even. the best thing you can do for now is ignore him. delete his name from your contacts, put away all the pictures you have of him. act like he doesnt exist anymore. if he trys to talk to you, you can talk back. DONT try to talk to him first and if he trys to talk to you, only give short answers back. also MOVE ON, flirt with other guys.



trust me, for some reason guys they get dumped and they try so hard to be asses to you. ohh and he has not moved on. he might tell you he has or even go out with another girl, but if hes trying so hard to rub the other girl in your face, he obviously wants you back.



i went out with this guy for a year and a half. i broke up with him and he went out with a few girls. i ignored him and whatever and one day he just calls me and we had a long *** convo about him telling me tha he hasnt moved on, and that im the only girl for him. we went back out again! :) but sometimes when you break up with someone, its for a good reason. go meet some other guys! maybe you like them more...wait for this guy to come to you, DONT ACT PATHETIC!

Answer 7

i no its easier said than done but dont rise to it, he's probably expecting a reaction, so dont give him one. spend lots of time with people you love, ie friends and family,

but ask yourself, what you do best? and do it, regain confidence and be happy.

Answer 8

eat some good food and listen to bob marley

Answer 9

just forget about him!! go have fun with some friends..meet a new guy!!