Friend zone and how to get out? (specific scenario)?

Question

So I've recently moved to college and I met a girl who I really like the first night while hanging out with a floormate. Over the past two weeks, I tried to be subtly flirty and subtly hint at my romantic interest in her.

Well yesterday, after I hadn't seen her for like a week, she invited me to go to a party with her and a few of her friends, which I did. We all had some drinks and what not, but one of her friends had too much to drink so I had to help the girl I'm interested in and the guy who was dancing with her friend walk the friend to her dorm. She brought her friend up to take care of her on her own (I asked several times and she insisted that she could) and I waited downstairs for about 20 minutes. Finally, she came back down and said she still wanted to dance and wanted to go back to the party. She had been getting sort of close with wrapping her arm around me while we were helping her friend, so I thought this was code for wanting to hook up with me or something. Well we went back, and then a guy started dancing with her and they were both pretty into it. Naturally I wasn't gonna let some fratty jerk steal this girl, so I gestured for her to come back and she did very willingly. Then I tried to dance with her, to which she insisted that she would only dance with strangers, not friends (=/) and then when I still tried, she asked "is that the only reason you waited for me." So went to a room where the music was much quieter and talked about it, I reassured that I waited because I wanted to make sure she and her friend were okay (this is true; I'm not a douche) and we walked back from the party. We talked about *stuff* the whole time, during which she talked about how upset she was for dancing with that frat guy like she did because she is a self-avowed prude (she was really worried, like asking if she should stop going out and if she was actually a whore, which of course I assured her she wasn't), she said she didn't wanna go on dates or anything like that yet with anyone because she didn't want a boyfriend 2 weeks into freshman year (very reasonable), and I did tell her that I really like her, find her really pretty, and think that she's just a cool and awesome girl.

She didn't get freaked out or anything and said that she actually owes me dinner or something ("*but not a date, just as friends* haha") for helping her out with her friend's (and her own) drunkenness (although she was nearly sober by the time we walked back).

So how can I get out of this friend zone? I still think there is a great deal of hope because she wasn't freaked out when I told her that I liked her and what not. What do y'all think?

PS sorry for this really long question haha just wanted to be thorough

And oh yes to clarify I told her how I felt before she said she didn't want a boyfriend right now.

Answer 1

Man up, buddy..



You should not go for appearances first because appearances change..eventually. . I would look for a girl that has common sense first because having her as a girlfriend in the future would make sense in everything



Ok, you really need this:



Friendship -> Closeness in Friendship -> Dating -> Relationship -> Commitment -> Marriage



If you ever skip openness at first time, you will be in this loop for an eternity



Friendship -> Dating -> Relationship -> Break up -> No*Contact & No Friendship AT ALL



Sh*thole repeats for you all your life until you learn a lesson - NOT to skip this important step..



Closeness in friendship can tell 85% how future relationship would look because... if you got to be friend with her, she WON’T say "lets take a time off" because all girls say "time off" always during relationship when things go bad..



If they ever say that they need time off - assume that they confuse their feelings for you and someone else. Just let them go and don’t let them get back to you. I will explain this next paragraph.



By the way, no ex-girlfriend deserves a second chance when she gets back to you if she keep giving out signs of relationship trouble "its not you, its me" blah blah blah "I feel its not going to work out" blah blah blah or like "check this other girl's shirt out, its cute" blah blah blah



She shouldnt deserve a second chance when she gets back to you after breakup because. . she already had a plan to leave you in the end ( during the whole time while in relationship with you)



What WAS the reason for breakup IS going to be same reason for breakup next time with same girl..





Hey..do you know how boys become men? They dont give a **** whether to keep the ex-girl or not.



I would care for the one that never gave me relationship trouble because they or whoever has true and sincere love NEVER MEANT to harm another. Only girls call it love for calling the break first “time off” I call this love -> bull-****



If she wants back then she needs to prove it like being friends for another year or something. I wanna to see her proof. If she gave you no-contact scenario (you call this f*cking friendship? NOT!, you know she is not supposed to deserve your second chance. If she did receive your second chance, you're no more a man. You're just a boy until you learn to dominate yourself.





All girls do this to test guys' domination. But not all girls meant to be bad girls ;) They do this sometimes to test their own doubt to see if their doubt is true. Keep that in mind.



When your ex’s back, show her you dominate your sh*t like a damn man (meaning you keep your cool)



Be friends and open yourselve(s) (you and other new girl) up for a while and become close friends then you will be just fine (closeness in friendship bring you closer to each other with developing feelings and interests towards each other) Best results : minimum a year of friendship



Ah, NEVER tell a girl you like her very much or love her.



Just show her your actions that you love her when you get in relationship - ENOUGH SAID.

Like cuddling, buy something or a drink for her, etc.. (not too often, ok?)



Ok, if she ever gives you a sign of relationship trouble, you need to dominate yourself 100% and tell her that you think you guys should date other people



The girls would say that all the times to make sure if you can get another one. If you can find another, they would be scared to let you go. If you couldnt get another one, its that they can easily fall back on your net if their next guy failed.



Oh, never tell a girl (new girl and/or girlfriend) your schedule or whatever. Cuz if you tell her your availability then she will usually get herself busy during that time to bail you longer. Make this mistake NO MORE. You got it? If she ever ask you for your schedule or availability then say that " I will let you know whenever Im free" OR “I’ll let you know”





If you wanna to learn how to masterfinger your girl -> go research online for orgasm spots and. . .wait for the right time when she open herself up to you way. . .se*xually ;)



Enjoy.



But hey, never let yourself open up more than new girl does - you understand? Good, it’s just. . you don’t want her to run her defense up immediately…



Now you know 80% more than other dudes know ;)



Go date girls like a champ



Oh, change your lifestyle a little bit, go shopping for few new clothes and find new interests (new genuine hairstyle too)



Oh, research alot on relationship tips and se*xual tips too



And, the reason girls dont find you attractive because they cant see you se*xually attractive (How do you find girls se*xual attractive? They act like it. You know?)





Now, you should go out there with courage and dignity in you

Answer 2

Have you ever been in relationship before? Sounds like this girl is interested in you but she wants to see what else it out there... That is fair on her end as long as shes not leading you on. Stick around but dont wait forever. She will keep you in mind thats how girls are haha

Answer 3

usually when girls say that they are not interested in being in a relationship, it means that they don't want to be seem easy. I'm pretty sure that if you limit yourself from meeting her a bit, it would attract her. (sounds weird, I know.. but it works) Try buying her things like candies and stuff so that she knows that you are interested but not desperate. Attractive guys are always the one who can wait. Best of luck!



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