would you do it????????????????????

Question

Im a white guy in America. Just your ordinary everday white guy who is 18 years old and in the army. My neighbore is a vietnamese guy that I have only spoke to a few times. Completely out of nowhere he asks me to please meet his nephew and see if i would marry her! He says she's poor and the only way to become anyone would be to marry and american and move here. He showed me a picture and.. she is one of the hottest girls i have ever seen. He wants me to marry her, but i dont even know her. I really wouldnt consider it just because she's hot, BUT i was thinking of how it must be to live in a undevolopted country and be so poor and never amount to anything. But I could help her and pretty much save someone.. anyway, would you do it?

Answer 1

No i probably wouldn't do it unless there was some way that you could meet her, because it really would be wierd. She does know english right? If she doesn't than definitely no.

Answer 2

Almost certainly I would NOT- especially not if I didn't know the guy asking very well.



First off it is illegal. If the Immigration and Naturalization Service (INS) somehow discovered this had occurred you could be charged with a crime. (You might want to rent a video of the movie "Green Card" which has a humorous take on this.)



Secondly once you are married to someone they have a claim on you and your stuff. This may not seem important at your age as you may think "I don't really have much anyone would want." but people have gone and petitioned courts years after a divorce for things like alimony or retirement savings. Some states are "community property" meaning you and your spouse own everything 50-50. If you get a divorce then she gets 1/2 of everything you own. You say you're in the Army. A divorce might grant her alimony and they might actually garnish your Army pay to insure you pay it. You could try to get a prenuptial agreement but many people have lost money even though they had these.



Finally imagine someday you meet the girl of your dreams and you want to get married to her. Do you tell her about the fake marriage? Do you hide it? What happens if after that suddenly the first wife comes back and sues you for alimony?



Even if you don't take marriage seriously the courts do and they've been known to make many a man pay long after the fact.

Answer 3

I did. There is a lot of stuff involved, besides just wanting it.

Do you have a job? do you earn over twenty thousand dollars per year?

Have you got three W2's including the one coming up, because it will take awhile.

You will have to go there first. Can you afford tickets? Will he pay for tickets, and passports?

I have done the paper work three times, since 1986. the last two were after 9/11 which made things a little tougher, and actually easier to understand.

The process costs thousands of dollars, and I assume you would want to get her citizenship? I insisted on that with my wife and now the niece. I mean staying as a resident alien is just stupid. Anyway you look at it.

You can not have a negative thought, you must set the goal of becoming a citizen above everything else.

I mean even if your marriage doesn't work seeing her go back to Veit Nam would be a Major failure.

Hey if you want to go through with it, I can help you with details. send a message. The divorce rate among asians and Americans is around 2% way lower then the national average, and the kids are always something special.

Answer 4

Dear friend,

This sounds like a contract to me, without any fine print or guidelines that you should read. I see her situation and I feel for her however, what happens should INS find out this is a fraudulent marriage? What happens if you should meet someone and want to marry? Nowadays, you have to be married for over five years for a type of marriage your considering and this stranger will have to live with you for a while, and your just very, very different.

So sorry however no! Surely they have other friends here that they may ask for such a favor. This is your life we're talking about. Think about a year, two or even five from now.

Also, realize that it is costly.

I know folks who pay thousands of dollars for such an arrangement, still I would not ever consider it.

Answer 5

First just ask your neighbor about either getting a phone number or an e-mail adress, so you can scope out for yourself if she is the real deal.. I mean, like someone you would even want to be friends with. That way you will see if she can be intrested in you for YOU, being hardworking and loyal ect, and not just because you are a citizen.



be clear with your neighbor you need ot get ot know her first, but that you wouldn't turn down a date with her. Often, Viet girls are some of the worlds most beautiful women, and they are incredably loving partners and good mothers. Moreover, after you DO get to know her, you have to ask yourself if you are ready for such a commitment. (Although dating sure can't hurt. Maybe you could ask your neighbor if he plans on having her visit??)



Good luck, btw, and thank you for helping protect our country!!

Answer 6

tell him that she needs help. Help her get a job in America which would pay good money and get to know her a little too. My parents helped my uncle and aunt (btw we're from India) get a job. It was my 2 cousins and my aunt and uncle. We kept them in our house for a few months and helped them find jobs. When they found jobs, we then found a place for them to stay. We let them make a little money so that they could pay the first month's rent and then, we let them off on their own.



You have to help them stand up when they've fallen. Obviously, the hot girl you saw has fallen for a long time. She can't stand up because she's so weak so you have to help. Let her stay in your house or something and then help her get a good job. Get to know her more.



Maybe you do want to marry her because she's attractive and a good person. Think about it. Tell the Vietnamese guy that you have to get to know her and see if you two are compatible.



I would help her get a job anywhere. First at some gas station and then a better one.

Answer 7

Ask to meet her. If you like her and she likes you, and she knows you'll be away sometimes for the army reasons and she's okay with that, then think about it. It does sound pretty strange but think of what you want. By the way this girl is not this man's NEPHEW, she's his NIECE.

Remember, she's not just a pretty face.

GOOD LUCK!

Answer 8

The fact he said to meet his NEPHEW who then turned out to be a HOT GIRL would set alarm bells ringing in my head. But if you are happy with a Lady man as a wife then go for it :-)

Answer 9

I would be cautious if I were you. There's no guarantee that the picture he showed you is really her.



You can't make a decision that directly impacts all of your future on as little information as you have. There's a lot more that goes into a marriage than looks, and you can't even be sure that you even know what she looks like.

Answer 10

I think you should just get to know her first. If you really like her, then you should marry her. But if it dosen't work out, maybe you could let her stay with you or help her find a place in America?

Answer 11

I don't know this person but I would really hate the idea of someone "saving" me. Maybe it's different for her but I wouldn't have any respect for someone trying to save me. Good luck...

Answer 12

No! You have no idea if you will get along with her. Besides, if you marry her and then divorce her, she may be eligible for payments from you. It's nice you want to help her, but you have too much to lose.

Answer 13

You should marry for love. Date her...get to know her. You may fall for her, but don't marry just because someone else asks you too.

Answer 14

meet her first, then decide. you cant go off marrying someone you dont know at all in 2008. it doesnt make sense

Answer 15

first find out soem things about her and talk to he ron the phone if she has on eand date her and then if you like her marry her

Answer 16

yes.u never know u could possibly fall in love with this girl and if not u can help her out.overall ull feel better bout ur self.

Answer 17

I think it would be worth it to at least meet her. But don't make any commitments!

Answer 18

yeah i would do it i mean you cant hate someone for trying to better their life. you know what i mean. like mexicans hopping the border. why arrest someone for trying to make their life better . do the right thing.

Answer 19

do it go for it all the way man she will take care of you like no americanized woman would and if she is hot it is all there total pacage

Answer 20

...his NEPHEW is the hottest GIRL you've ever seen?

dont do it man...

Answer 21

your weird



creepy pervert dude grow up

Answer 22

noooooooooooooo. i can't believe you are considering it.



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Answer 23

uhh... nephew? You mean niece?