Should I get revenge and make her pay?

Question

My ex-girlfriend cheated on me with another guy and she lied about it. We broke up and moved on. Now she wants to be with me again but doesn't know how. She has been flirting with me via e-mail and text messages. Yesterday, I found out she got married to the new guy and didn't tell me about it. She lied again. I am a nice person and don't believe in revenge but she is upsetting the heck out of me and turning my life to a complete mess again. She is begging me not to send the proof of her flirting with me to the new guy. Should I get a revenge and send the new guy the proof? how can I get revenge? Have any ideas for revenge? I am mad and hurt with all the stuff. Please this is serious so if you don't have serious advise and just want to be judgmental don't post. Thanks.

Answer 1

Its actually best you show the texts to the guy, to let him know that she is a cheater, not as a matter of revenge but just more like warning him about her.

Answer 2

Well, she obviously sounds a little messed up to be honest. The first time, it didn't work and she cheated on you, so you should of just moved on then, and not kept each-others emails. Now she wants you back, and is STILL cheating it, seems she hasn't learned her lesson, and really isn't a nice person. On the other hand you are, as you state. She might be using your niceness to cheat on you, and she may think that you wont do anything. She has hurt you, twice now should of learned her lesson by now. Now, like you, I am nice and doesn't like revenge but if a girl has been that nasty and hasn't learned her lesson, the only way she is going to learn it is if you send the pic. If I was you, I would send it. Don't be shy, she has hurt, a nice honest guy and is lying to you. That's really not nice....Hope this helps, and you move on with your life and find a nicer girl . Ben

Answer 3

I wouldn't send the proof. Getting revenge rarely satisfies anyone because it sets a weight on our conscience. Honestly, I would just completely cut off all communication with her. Do not text/email her. Definitely don't go back out with her. It may sound mean, but just ignore her. Believe me, that's revenge enough in a girl's eyes. And by doing so, she'll get what she deserves and you won't feel like a jerk for being malicious.

Answer 4

She is a part of the mistakes of your past and I would leave her there too. Putting any more emotional pain, effort or energy into her will only fuel her drama and issues that she CLEARLY has. You getting more involved, trying to get revenge, trying to screw up her life like she has yours - will only bring you down to her disgusting level. You need to be better than that.



Be mad, be hurt but then at the end of the day SHE is the one who has issues and relationship problems NOT you so don't bring yourself down to her pathetic level. Be happy that you realized and saw WHO she really is and got OUT before it was too late. I just don't think getting even or taking revenge ever HELPS the person inflicting it...

Just chalk this up to life experience.

Answer 5

I'd be better if you sent her text because the new guy needs to know that she is cheating on him. It would be worse if he found out later and he probably would be mad and upset like you. So just think of the new guy. You don't want him to be hurt do you?

Answer 6

Wow thats something. First thing ur upset and u know who is to blame....tough ...its U!!!



Ok heres the deal....burn all evidence that u ever knew this girl ever. Ur not going to have anyhting to do with her again in this life. Move on with ur life. Next time a gal behaves funny, put her immediately on ur blacklist...no excuses. Start seeing other gals that way u keep ur self respect.

Answer 7

Don't. Seriously, it is no longer any of your business what goes on in her life. You'd just be interfering in another person's life. Instead, ignore her. And if she keeps bugging you, tell her to leave you alone, that you don't care anymore. And then just shut her out of your life. That'll be much healthier for you. Don't turn yourself into a bad person just because things didn't turn out the way you wanted them to.

Answer 8

Don't bother with revenge. It's not going to make you feel better.



You want to avoid dealing with her. If she's out of your life, that WILL make you feel better.



Tell her that if she ever talks to you again, you will send the new guy the proof.



Hopefully then she will leave you alone.



Don't worry about the new guy. Worry about yourself.

Answer 9

Normally, I would say get her interrested, pound the crap out of her, then leave right after... but since there is this other guy involved, that would be hypocritical.



So I think Track X Love got it right. Flirt with her a bit, get all the emails and text you can, then send them all to the guy. The rest will take care of itself and she will be screwed.

Answer 10

I don't think revenge is ever the right way of handling a situation.

but it feels oh so good. lol



she deserves it. send it to him, you are doing him a favor by letting him know what his wife is doing behind his back.

in the long run.. you don't need these kind of women in your life.



good luck!.

Answer 11

send the new guy the texts. if shes a flirt and a cheater the new guy should know, its gonna hurt him now, but it will be better in the long run

Answer 12

ahh that sounds awful. but you should probably send him the texts. he needs to know that she was flirting with you and it wouldnt be fair to him if he didnt know he was being cheated on and looked like a fool. like you, you probably didnt like being cheated on and taken for granted. so you should tell him, he would thank you in the long run. and she needs to know she can't get away with stuff like that!

Answer 13

black mailing her, tell her that you will show the text messages to her man if she don't see you then bang with her and set up a video, then send the copy to her new man.

make her life more misserable, cheaters don't deserve to be love... =(

Answer 14

Revenge is sweet...

Keep the messages and blackmail her to do whatever you want her to do...if she says she isn't going to do what you say, tell her you'll show her new guy the texts.

Have fun with it, this is your golden chance to get her back!

:)

Answer 15

ALL I CAN SAY IS IT IS A GOOD THING YOU DIDN'T MARRY HER. I WOULDN'T WORRY ABOUT IT, HE WILL FIGURE HER OUT ON HIS OWN JUST LIKE YOU DID AND SHE WILL BE PAYING ANYWAYS. THE TRUTH ALWAYS COMES OUT, IF IT ISN'T WITH YOU , IT WILL BE SOMEONE ELSE. SHE SOUNDS LIKE SHE WASN'T READY FOR MARRIAGE...JUST CUT YOUR TIES AND FORGET SHE EVER EXISTED..SHE ISN'T WORTH THE PROBLEMS SHE IS CAUSING

Answer 16

SEND THE TEXT MESSAGES

Answer 17

Yeah dude send him all of it.

Answer 18

yeah go for it what gos around comes around, no ideas but dont get violent though

Answer 19

show him the proof!

Answer 20

MAKE HER LIFE MISERABLE!