Is it gross that I'm 20 dating a 46 year old man?

Question

So I've been with this guy for a while now and he's actually older than my dad. He acts more my age though. Sometimes I feel like it's weird though because he already has kids and has been married twice with younger women as well. Why is he so interested in younger girls?

Answer 1

The term gross to describe your relationship seems a bit juvenile don't you think? It isn't 'gross' it depends on your level of maturity. It's better to be a mature 20 year old dating a 46 year old than a 46 year old seeking to regain his expired youth by dating a 20 year old. That is a recipe for disaster because he can't escape the responsibility that comes with his age. You'd have to ask yourself if you're mature and responsible enough to take it on. If so you shouldn't care whether or not it's 'gross'.

Answer 2

No you're not a minor or a teenager so it's far from gross. You're definitely over the adult age which is 18 so you being a 20 year old adult woman, dating a 46 year old is not new and it does happen a lot, its pretty common, even younger woman dating men in their 80s is common, so do whatever you want but I wouldn't be saying that to someone who is a minor which you're not.

Answer 3

You're a grown woman so it's not "gross" at all, now if it were with a young girl, then that's a different story, you are not a girl, you're a woman, no such thing as a 20 year old girl, 20 year old woman is what you are, so you and your boyfriend are both mature adults, your mindset may not be of a 20 year old woman though and still of a young girl, which is sad, and his may not be of a 46 year old man, which is also sad.

Answer 4

I can only give you a general answer because I don't know all the ins and outs of your situation. As long as you are an adult, there is nothing wrong with an age gap relationship. It's legal and there aren't any Biblical restrictions (if you are Christian). It's just a societal prejudice we see in today's world. In past generations, age gap marriages were accepted and not unusual. In fact, Grover Cleveland and John Tyler married much younger women while they were President. You may want to go to websites like May December Society for advice and support from people like you in your situation. I prefer older men myself and it's just a preference. Don't lose a good thing because of an age gap. If it makes you happy and productive, it's your life. Judge the appropriateness of your relationship based on your common values, whether the relationship is healthy, if you are putting each other first, you are aren't being used, etc. Not all relationships like these are good, but it's because of the people involved and not the years between them. Don't end a relationship only because of a societal ick factor towards you're being with an older man. Good luck.

Answer 5

Don't date a 46 year old man. You're too young. It's better to get with a man around your age. This 46 year old has ex wives and children. That is too much baggage for a woman your age to have to deal with.

Answer 6

It's not gross. It'd be gross if you were underage. If you feel it's weird.. you shouldn't be with him.

I have an uncle who only dates girls my age (23) he's in his 40s. It passes me off but you need to realize, if a 40 year old only finds interest in a girl half his age, when you're his age he still won't be matter enough for you. You cant take guys like this can't seriously. Enjoy him, he isn't husband material. Hence the divorce & why my uncle has never been married.

Answer 7

No you are legal, but at the same time it might not be the best relationship for you. Not because of the age difference but because it looks like he may leave the women when they get to old. I'm not sure if that is really the case or not, but I'd talk to those other women, if possible and try to figure out why there relationship ended. The guy divorcing twice before doesn't mean your relationship won't last, but learning the reasons for those two divorces should give you a clue on if your age later on could impact the relationship.

For all you know the two divorces were for non-age related reasons, but if so, make sure of that. saves you heartbreak later on.

Answer 8

It doesn't matter what we think. The question is, do YOU think it's "gross" or not? The age gap is significant, but I know people in a relationship with a similar age gap and they clearly love each other and it just seems normal to us now.

It sounds cliched, but if you really like each other then the age difference doesn't matter. As to him being attracted to younger women, well virtually every guy (no matter what age) is attracted to 20 year old women! If you were 16 it might be a bit weird, but you're not. So basically, my advice is forget what others think and wondering why he would be attracted to you, and if you enjoy being in the relationship, there is no problem at all.

Answer 9

Not gross, but not the norm. Dating someone more than 20 years older is rare. And don't plan on having kids with anyone over 40 because it's known that mental birth defects rise dramatically in children born to those over 40.

Answer 10

Younger women dont tend to stay young. Maybe he feels the new to trade up to a new and revised model every few years when the young model he originally has shows signs of wear and tear and age. of course you would have to ask his two ex-wives why they got divorced. Age is but a number. Im 53 but can pass for someone in their 40's. Some 40 year old guys are more fit and active than guys in their 20's (and usually more mature too). As long as you like the guy I dont see a problem with it.

Answer 11

Im 19 dating a 31 year old man. But he is so amazing. I too have found myself feeling weird about my relationship & sort of wrong in a sense. I thought about it a lot & I've realized that I'm happy with him. It may be hard for others to understand but they're not dating him to know to understand why you feel the way it is you feel about him. You're an adult, what's understood doesn't have to be explained. If your happy go for it because you have to live your life.

Answer 12

No, I don't think it's gross. It's not an age gap, I would choose for myself, but I am not you. You stated that he has already been married 2 other times, and has kids. What I do question is, why does someone his age want to be with someone so much younger? And why has his 2 previous marriages failed? Maybe you need to consider that. Also, is he with you because he "needs" someone? Are you supporting him? It's your life, your an adult, do what makes you happy. But also, don't let someone use you(not saying he is, I don't know the sisuation)

Answer 13

I believe that if you are mature enough to handle dating somebody older it is okay. There will definitely be some obstacles and people that judge you but you just have to let it go and be happy. Do what's best for you and don't have any regrets! If you're happy then everybody you know should be happy for you. As long as your partner is a good person, I don't see anything wrong with it

Answer 14

Gross Old Man

Answer 15

No. But I can tell you both won't last for a long time.

It's weird, but at least you're not some 15 year old with a 30 year old man.

Answer 16

It's not gross but with time after 10 years you'll see more problems becaming by your age differences!

Answer 17

Depends how serious you are in this relationship. If you just want to fool around with him, then it's okay i guess. But if not then you'd have to think abojt your future. Just a guess. His kids might be of your age. How would that make you feel? Do you think they'll accept you? Personally I'd say don't get serious in this.

Answer 18

No it's not gross at all. My sons dad is 15 years older than me. He's turning 39 and im burly turning 24. I mean, if you love him, you love him. Love has no age. I've always liked older men. Maybe the fact they act more mature. Plus my sons dad didn't look his age. Till this year he still looks so young! Good luck with the kids tho. It's so much harder when you get with someone who has kids specially if they are almost your age. Remember you are going to be the STEP MOM, :)

Answer 19

Whenever I hear about or see way older men with young girls, I imagine a 25 year old man going to nursery to pick out the enfant he is going to cradle rob in later years. Honestly, I find it pretty gross. But if you really want a relationship with this guy, you wouldn't care about anyone's opinion.

Answer 20

My dad is 46 and divorced. He's always dating youngers girls in their earlt twenties.

I feel somewhat disturbed and think he oughta be dating someone his own age. These girls are nearly the same age ad my oldest sister. But I know why he chooses to date young girls.

He acts childish himself, but he's growing older. He is depressed about this fact so he dates young girls so that he may feel younger. I think that he may also wish to start over and have children again. I guess its his way of having two lifetimes



Funny.. he mentioned something about having a new girlfriend who was like twenty. He has been with other younger woman. He's had me and my siblings.

Your boyfriend and my dad seems quite suspiciously similar. In fact, I was kinda wondered if you were dating him and I happened to come across your question on yahoo answers.

Answer 21

I am 24yrs old and i am married to a 45yr old man, i have a wonderful 5yr old step-son, and a 2yr old of minr=e by him, and i/we want to try for a girl this year, but he does have kids that are just years younger than me though they are not around which is a plus. So the answer is no, it's not gross, if you truly love each other then why should it matter to you what others think !!??

Answer 22

I think it's gross as a woman myself a little older then yourself who had a simular situation with a 41 year old man chasing me also with kids and two ex wives i find it disturbing. Yes you're an adult but it still falls into the same catagory as pedophilia. He sounds like a creep. Behaving like he's your age also shows high inmaturity.

Answer 23

It's not against the law. However, as a 20 year old girl, I think you can easily find someone who is closer to your own age. My suggestion to you would be, if you aren't in love with the guy, don't get involved with him.The 26 year age gap is too much.

Answer 24

Well if you are happy well let it be gross it's even better old and dirty i mean gross the question is have you ever had a younger one before compare your self here your are spoilt but there either normal or I don't know just live let him spoil you why not

Answer 25

Before seeking an answer to the question why is he interested in younger girls it is important to know why a girl in her 20 is interested in a man of 46 . It may be that you are getting some special benifits from him or you may be having what is known as father complex . That is to get attracted to older men not necessarily for sex but for some emotional reason . In the case of older men some may have a fatherly feeling towards young girls or it may be they are sexualy attracted to them.Considering his background he is a pleasure seeking individual .His main intention is to enjoy life .If you get involved with this person after enjoying life with you he will drop you in no time . Rather than undergoing that miserable experience dump him and select someone to match your age and social stats .

Answer 26

Not gross but I think it's innappropriate. You aren't physiologically an adult until about 23-25 and he's old enough to be your father. He should know better.

Answer 27

In this world I would think someone who is nearly 50 looking to date a 20 year-old is looking for a hookup to suit a fantasy of some kind. I do think it's gross, but some people can make it work. Just please be careful and make sure you take things slow, just in case this person is taking advantage of the cute, young you. :(

Answer 28

I would never date a man who is old enough to be my father. That grosses me out. So yeah I think it's gross. My opinion!

Answer 29

It's gross that a 20-year old adult would waste other people's time asking such a question.

Answer 30

No,it's not appropriate.

I understand he might be a smart/witty guy but that's a classic example of a middle aged man searching for a younger substitute to make him feel better..

Answer 31

Is it a large age gap? YES! Are you doing anything "wrong"? Nope. You are both legal adults so if it's all consensual you're fine. If you aren't feeling it though or don't like him having kids, end the relationship.

Answer 32

Yeah. I miss almost 20 and I have no interest in men in their 40's

Answer 33

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Answer 34

Yes it's gross and even weirder that's he's older than your own father.He sounds immature so he gets along better with younger females.

Answer 35

Younger girls are often targeted by older men because 1. They have less life experience, so they are a bit more naive. They will often defer to the "wisdom" of the older partner, giving him more control. Because of their lack of experience, they often do not notice "red flags" that older women would notice, such as controllingness and disrespect.



2. they are younger and in the eyes of the older men, sexier than older women.



Bear this in mind- he married two younger women and they both divorced him. Why do you think he has two failed marriages? I honestly don't have the answer, but it's probably not good.

Answer 36

That's alright. My parents have over 20 years age difference with my dad being the oldest.

Answer 37

Yes

Answer 38

Umm youre both adults so it isnt gross. There is a big age difference and he is older than your dad and that is a little weird honestly.

But if youre happy, thsts fine.

If hes too creepy, end it.



Also if he only likes "younger women", fyi youre not going to be youbg FOREVER. that mean he will leave you too once you start to age.

Ahh good luck. Hooe you figure everything out.

Answer 39

Yes

Answer 40

"He acts more my age". So you can't use the "he's more mature" excuse. It is kind of gross. Why a man approaching his 50s wants to date women barely out of their teens is beyond me. He's lived life. You barely have. I doubt this'll last.

Answer 41

Oh you're a grown woman. If he makes you feel like a goddess then go for him. ;) I personally will never date an older man ever again due to...past issues with them in my life but do what makes you happy girl.

Answer 42

There is nothing wrong with it at all. I am 45 and my husband was 31 years older than me. We were married for 24 years and together for 27 years. He passed away last october, from being very sick. So if you re happy then don t worry about what other s think, just go with what you want!

Answer 43

Look, as long as you don't have a problem with this and you're over 18, it's fine.

Answer 44

Not at I'm 26 my man is 42. He is younger than my father by 4yrs and older than my mother by 1yr. He doesn't look old.

Answer 45

Well just think about it, when you're his age he will probably be dead or at least in a retirement home. There is no long term future with an age difference like that. He is just using you for your young tight body

Answer 46

Its not grose love isn't grose if your both adults. Its grose if a 15 year old girl and a 40 year old man love each other. Older guys usually like young girls because it makes them feel younger and they look better

Answer 47

You shouldn't seek others approval for YOUR relationship. But since you asked us for our thoughts about it; I think if he's older than your own Father...it's a bit odd.

Answer 48

Yes, because he's older, if it was like four or five years then it would've been ok but illegal, but this is way worse it's illegal and hes so older. Good Luck!

Answer 49

Love is love I mean it's a little odd but it's alright

Answer 50

No. He's a little old but it's legal.

Answer 51

I think that age is just a number and anything past 20 definitely fair game. However if one is 13 and the other is 17, I feel that is inappropriate.

Answer 52

I wouldn't say gross, but I'd recommend finding someone your own sge.

Answer 53

Are you sexually attracted to the guy, or are you just with him because of some perk or another? That's a serious question you need to ask yourself, because a woman who is not sexually attracted to a guy, but dates him anyway reduces herself to a prostitute. Be "shallow". Only date guys you actually feel for. To Hell with the guys and gold diggers who shame women for only going with guys they're truly attracted to.

Answer 54

That is just the way

some people are

some like them younger

then they are.

or should I say anyone who

will go out young or not young

it don't matter at all

relax and injoy the

free stuff.

Answer 55

Yes it is you should date a person who is 18-27

Answer 56

Men almost always like younger girls, probably cos they see younger girls as sexy - and I'm guessing their middle aged wives aren't.

It's a big age gap and he has baggage, so better off finding someone your own age

Answer 57

I am completely not sure if you are gonna survive three dates before declaring love for each other, because that's the way life does it.

Answer 58

It's not "gross" but it's anything to be proud of either... Just sayin..

Answer 59

For the 46 year old man, yes. You youngsters dont know how to take care of yourself down there and still smells and tastes like pee.



Older women are where its at. Women over 30 know how to use it and take care of it. It smells and tastes delicious after 30.

Answer 60

You don't want a 46 year old kid.

Answer 61

He has serious mental issues if he is with a girl this young. It's actually sick. He is with you for your youth, not because of who you are. Run for your life before it is too late.

Answer 62

Nah. When I was 20, my then boyfriend was 33. We are now 31 and 44 and still best friends.

Answer 63

If you really do love him then it s okay. But l agree with Grandpa. You re going to be widowed earlier. I recommend you choose a mate with almost the same age as you. You love this man but will you bear losing him after a short period of time? Will you bear the loneliness after losing him? Do you think the both of you are really meant to be as lovers? You might have confused love with infatuation or really close friendship. Please ponder about your feelings more. Good luck. :)

Answer 64

Is not gross ur both adults u both humans so it really doesn't matter only if u were a minor then it would matter but in ur case its kool u see lots of young ppl dating older ppl





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Answer 65

why are you so interested in older men..

ugh how can u date someone older than you dad?



As a man, why wouldnt i want to date a younger women? if i had already been married twice, im going younger and younger. The older a women the more combat she has seen,

the younger the women the less baggage and miles put on her. just saying

Answer 66

When you are 40 he'll be 66.

Answer 67

Yes

Answer 68

My friends is also 20 and dating a guy that age..i dont like him and he knows it but at the end of the day they love each other and thats all that matters

Answer 69

Yes

Answer 70

I do not think is gross. I once in love with a man who is 18 yrs older than me. Caring and loving man.. no doubt..However are you ready to be alone if he is not around? Do you want his babies? Are you ready to be responsible?

Answer 71

Well, you must have some serious daddy issues. He is also probably only interested in sex. I really can't imagine what you two may have in common? Pretty ridiculous.

Answer 72

Yaaaassssss

Answer 73

B*tch you're gross and your mentality is also gross. Yuck!

Answer 74

It depends..If sex is ur main priority and u are enjoying the relation its ok.But if u are planning to settle down and have kids with that men u may think twice because after few years his priority in life will changes as he gets more odler and ur tastes wont match each other.

Answer 75

That's disgusting. Let me guess, he's loaded?

Answer 76

not gross at all i currently am 24 years old and my husband is 42.

Answer 77

Yes it is because 26 years is too much of an age gap. Try to find someone nearer your own age...

Answer 78

Yuk. You need to find yourself someone closer to your age. That age gap is way too much. Plus his dick will be really wrinkly soon. Not good when your 20 darling.

Answer 79

Its not "gross" if you are both mature and care about eachother your an adult and about to make your own decisions. However if you are having any doubt as to your relationship i would reckon you really think about it properly

Answer 80

This is gross I bet your with him for his money like a gold digger.you nasy find a man your own age

Answer 81

yes when u were 14 he was 40

Answer 82

He could be your father, honey

my dad has such a younger wife.

He met her after the divorce

I think that it is because that most women in his age already had husbands.

the younger is free

but it still pedophilia

Answer 83

If you really like each other then the age difference doesn't matter.

Answer 84

Yes, he will probably dump you in a couple years when he finds a younger woman

Answer 85

the same reason i like younger women..smooth soft skin all over

youthful appearance..

i was 31 when we married..she was 21..still together without kids i might add.

after 33 years doing well.

Answer 86

I think it is weird, for some it is not. On average those ages are way too different to have a natural relationship.

Answer 87

It's not like he's black.

Answer 88

Nah

Answer 89

I think its acceptable and not gross. If you are both happy then thats the only thing that matters :)

Answer 90

No, Age plays no role in a genuine relationship, its ok to be happy

Answer 91

To me i find that very young. I have a 20 year old.id be very upset...

Answer 92

not gross, younger women are better looking explaining why he like them young.

Answer 93

Who the hell cares if its gross?! You care for him he cares for you? you guys love each other? THATS what matters! you will give up on someone you love bec someone else thinks its gross?!

Answer 94

Nee enjoys sex with younger women; his record suggests that he us not good at maintaining commitment.

If you are happy with that, and do not expect too much, that is your choice.

Answer 95

Because he is shallow. When you get older he will toss you aside for a younger woman.

Answer 96

Eww. You could make a lifetime movie

Answer 97

He would act your age, if he knows you will open your legs to him....no offence sister but this guy is only after you for sex and one day you will relies this.

Answer 98

Daddy issues ?

Answer 99

yes his balls will be wrinkled by the time u are 30 and u will be looking for a fresh pair also if he looks like ron Jeremy leave now

Answer 100

it doesnt matter what other people think. If you are happy thats all that matters. You are of legal age so nothing is actually wrong.

Answer 101

yes

Answer 102

He could have been having sex when you were conceived Gross!

Answer 103

Nope.

Answer 104

gross?? His history of two young women, would have me more concerned.

Answer 105

Think about it this way, he was 26 when you were a baby.

Answer 106

It is your life people are going to talk but if he makes you happy then stay with him

Answer 107

There are men who go for that. If this affliction is severe, you will be dumped one day.

Answer 108

no. But to me yes. You love who you want to love. As long as your not just there for the money than your okay i guess

Answer 109

yes

Answer 110

yes

Answer 111

VERY his your dad infarct even older wake up

Answer 112

yes

Answer 113

If you think its gross..

Leave him..

Answer 114

Not if hes rich

Answer 115

No, you're an adult.

Answer 116

Age is no barrier

Answer 117

You are adults. If you like each other screw society

Answer 118

No you are grown, whatever makes you happy

Answer 119

unable to find same age group friend for the same.

Answer 120

Not if you both enjoy the Relationship.

Answer 121

yes, he is a pathetic disgusting creep...its just sex...ew that is like having sex with your dad

Answer 122

Be careful.

Answer 123

nope

Answer 124

i think you should make sure that his intentions are real and think about what your intentions are and think about your future/possible kids

Answer 125

nope

Answer 126

Do you have daddy issues?

Answer 127

no, it just means you are a gold digger

Answer 128

nope

Answer 129

Not in the least..If it works for you then have at it.

Answer 130

it makes him feel young

Answer 131

For you yes, for him no.

Answer 132

He just want sex leave him

Answer 133

ahhahaha

Answer 134

Not good.

Answer 135

not if he has money. Shake it girl!

Answer 136

No

Answer 137

I am not a criminal

Answer 138

no

Answer 139

no

Answer 140

no

Answer 141

Is he rich???

Answer 142

No.

Answer 143

No.

Answer 144

idk