please help - is he trying to tell me something?

Question

Hi
I am a 16 year old girl from England and I have a boyfriend who is 25.
We only get to see eachother at weekends but it is difficult as my parents won't allow him in the house and he has no place of his own so we has to see eachother in public for the time being until my parents come round to the idea.
yesterday I was going to meet up with him, he claimed his battery was going dead on his phone so stopped texting me and nothing was arranged, but he said he would ring me later to organise somethin, he didnt. I asked him later at night what he had been doing and he said he had been at the pub drinking all day so i asked if i would see him today and he said yes and said to ring him early this morning, so i did but he didnt answer, then i texted and he didnt reply, and then when i tried to ring him again half an hour later his phone was off, and it still is off. I have been trying to contact since 8.30 am and it is now nearly 11am
is he trying to drop the hint that he doesnt want to see me?
he said he loves me and misses me when im not with him but why would he not come and see me? and ignore me today?
:(

Answer 1

I'm not being mean by saying this and only telling you from personal experience. You and him have almost 10 years difference between each other and when your young that can make a big difference. It sounds to me like he is trying to play around with you. I mean he asks you to call him but then doesn't answer/turns off his phone. Remember since you don't see him much, you don't know the life he is really living and im sorry if this hurts but man who is 25 thinks completely different then a man who is 16 and they want different things. I know it makes you sad because i felt that way when i was your age dating a man who was 25 , but now that im in my 20's i understand why. Now that im 22 and a mom I also find it wrong for a man of 25 to be interested in a girl who is not yet done growing for the simple fact is, you have to wonder what he really wants. Why is he not with a woman his own age? or maybe he is and not telling you (im telling you things you don't want to hear, only because you need to think of all angels, and because ive lived what you are living now) It sounds like he only makes the effort when "he" wants and you don't need that. Try forgetting about him for a few days and see if he makes contact. Guys that age know how easy it is to string along younger girls and pull strings how they want. He is much older and knows how to say the right things, and knows what a girl your age wants to hear, and that's why he probably thinks he can come and go in your life when he pleases. Please don't let this guy walk all over you and call the shots and remember your parents don't want you with this guy for a reason. They love you and see the things you don't because they are older. I hated my parents for trying to keep me from my older boyfriend when i was your age, but now that im older i understand, because i would say the same things to my daughter if she grew up and thought it was the right thing to do. Hang in there sweetie, I know it seems like this is what you want, but trust me when I say he wont be your last, even if you think he will. You still have a long wonderful life ahead of you. Best wishes! I hope you find happiness with whatever you choose. =)

Answer 2

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Answer 3

whoa

he is like what 9 years older than yo?

no offense but huge gap btw age is a pb too

i think u shudnt fast decide that he doesnt wanna see u cuz his cell might ran off battery and he passed out from drinkin last night and hasnt check his phone yet?



cmon i know how u feel

and i wud feel the same like u now

its possible though

= [ [sigh...]



i think u shud stop calling thinking about him for now!

lets see whats his react will be like and post it

and lets see what he means and what we can do about it

ok?

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Answer 4

I hate to break it to you but he is 25 and wants more from a relationship. I would bet my pay check that he is with his other girlfriend when he isn't with you. I am sure he says that he loves you and misses you but in all reality you are his play thing.My advise would be dump him and move on find someone else. It sucks but that is just how guys are...sorry

Answer 5

your 16 and he is 25..... there is a HUGE life experience and maturity difference there....





maybe not so much for someone that is 40 with someone that is 50.....



but 16 and 25???



dude.... just find someone your age! Trust me... its not a good idea..

Answer 6

perhaps you shouldn't assume he doesn't want to see you so fast. talk to him about it when possible, ask him to share his problems with you, and you guys can work something out =)