Guy trouble, now i got into a nasty habit of self-harm...need help ASAP...please?

Question

well...
i'm not ugly, i used to model, but i have gained a tiny bit of weight, about 6kg's...
um, since the gain, guys haven't acted the same way towards me than before...it has really upset me...
i got into the nasty habit of crash dieting (and it hasn't worked) and now i'm starting to cut myself... becuase i can't loose the weight.
i'm having real confidence problems now, and i just want the problems...to go away.
any ideas on how i can do this???
please!!!

Answer 1

Get HELP! Call a help line, like a suicide help line, or contact a county health service. You are in need of assistance to get you out of the rut you are in before you ruin your life! People and programs are out there! Life is not all about being a rose petal! Wake up and smell the roses before the thorn scars you for life!

Answer 2

There's nothing wrong with gaining a little weight. It's normal. But if you're really upset about it, exercise and cut back on junk food. That's the safest and easiest way to lose weight. Try something like jogging 3-4 times a week, and definitely cut back on junk food. You don't have to totally eliminate it from your diet, just limit your consumption of it. If guys are acting weird around you since you gained the weight, it means they were never really your friends and only liked you for your physical appearance. I'm sorry but that's the truth. If you care about someone, even as a friend, it shouldn't matter what they look like, especially their weight. And cutting yourself and crash dieting isn't going to do anything except cause harm to your body. Your low self-esteem is obviously the cause of your problems so just tell yourself that you're beautiful no matter what, and actually believe it. Everything will go right if you believe in yourself.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

YOU MUST IMMEDIATELY STOP crash dieting AND cutting yourself! you will just farther hurt yourself, get more scars, and get fatter and guys will stop paying attention all together. i mean lets be honest....have you ever seen guys with cracked out super skiny cut up anorexic chicks?? ABSOLUTELY NOT! there is no short cut, be it can be fixed faster than you think (you can see results within a few weeks).



first off, you must stop hurting yourself.....if you feel like cutting yourself ...simply go to the gym instead or for a jog....that will help you shed some kgs at the same time. and NO CRASH DIETING! this literally stops your metabolism and makes you fatter. you must eat 6 small meals aday. thats approx 1 small meal every 3-4 hours (this can be done with protien bars if your in school/work all day). also, you must work out cardio AND with weights to build fat burning muscle. buy the book "body for life" and read it whenevery you get sad or depressed. YOU CAN DO IT! DONT GIVE UP AND DONT CUT YOURSELF AND DONT CRASH DIET!! if you mess up one day, just start over the next day....nbd! you can do it....i promise you can, just dont give up....winners never quit and quitters never win.



ps, if you read this book thru and follow its advice, you will simply radiate health and fitness and have a healthy glow. you will have more guys gawking over you than you ever have had in your life.....i promise. guys are attracted to healthy good looking uncut/unscared girls, lol. : ) email me if you have any questions or need some support.

Answer 5

If a guy is going to like me I want them to like me for how I am inside not what I look like, I want them to really know me. If they don't like me for who I am on the inside than I don't want them because that what matter the most to me. Cutting does not help you are only burring your problem then you become more dependent on it then you have to hide the cut and later try to cover the scars. The scars will remain with you until you die and it isn't worth it in my opinion, You will feel ashamed after you do it like how unwise could I have been to do something like that. Talk to some in personal. Some one you can trust. Seek professional help.

Answer 6

i doubt it's the weight gain, guys really don't notice as much as we think they do. they can probably sense that something is not quite right, the vibe you are giving off is wrong. You need to talk to someone, find out what is really going on,, there must be some deep down pain that you are masking to make yourself cut.

please, talk to someone..

Answer 7

Find something you love in life... something you look forward to.. or something you love to do..



use the love for that 'object' and try to use it to use to realize you need to make a change.. to make some reforms in your life.. do a study diet... eat a lesser amount of calories, and do more.. but don't starve yourself... look back at what you used to be, and if you loved it.. you'll want to go back and work hard for it.. if not, then you'll find something that you'll end up loving to work hard for.. i hope you're understanding what i'm trying to say here.. for my mind isn't totally clear at the moment.. and i've been answering a lot of questions lately.. so my apologies on that. but i hope i was clear enough for ya here.

Answer 8

We all want a quick fix to our problems, but it doesn't exist. Seek professional help for your issues. Don't worry about how guys act or don't act around you -- you need to focus on yourself and getting better. You're worth it. Good luck.

Answer 9

You need to get help, that's the only way.



Call some counseling centers and find someone experienced with dealing with this. You CAN get it under control, but you need some help to do it, so don't wait.

Answer 10

Go seek professional help. And BTW No guy finds a chick who cuts themselves attractive.

Answer 11

Wasy too much emphasis on sex & looks & the idea that you have to have a boy/girlfriend!

This is against all of God's plans for us & it is ruining lives right & left!

Forget about sex untill you are old enough to understand what real love is!

Answer 12

from what my friends tell me... "crash" dieting will only make your weight bounce up and down. if you want to diet, just watch what you eat. and cutting yourself wont help you lose weight nor will it bring back your self confidence.

Answer 13

Do you need a vampire to suck the blood?

Answer 14

well you shouldn't be down on yourself. just do some sit ups every night and that weight will be gone in a flash.

Answer 15

STOP no guy i worth it......go to counseling