Am I being strung along by my ex girlfriend? What should I do?

Question

My ex girlfriend recently called off our relationship about a week ago because she is suffering from depression and there's a lot going on in her life that she said she needs to focus on. We dated for 5 months and I fell in love with her. We fought for about a week then she said she had it and didn't want to fight with me so she broke up. However latley she still calls me just as often and asks me on things as if we were dating and I told her this is awkward for me and she doesn't understand how or why I'd need space and see her minimally in order to move on. Her doing this and the way she is acting is leading me to hope or believe she plans on coming back and I can continue go on "outings" as she puts it with her just like we did when we were dating but the physicality or affection is gone. She said she wants our "friendship" to work and see where that goes. What should I do? I don't want to be her pet and stick around with my feelings hoping to get back together. Any ideas?

Answer 1

You talk to much for a man, after 5-months if she hasn't decided on you, your just leftover toilet paper to her.



Move on, find someone that knows your number one to her.

Answer 2

Here's what you need to do. You need to rething your entire outlook on this. And I mean girls and dating. You need to stop hoping that she'll come around. Honestly there's not much you can do to encourage this. It either happens for her or it doens't. And there is nothing you can really do about it.



Except this. You need to think of yourself as the one that deserves to be chased and courted and NOT her. Your the prize here my friend. It;s obvious that she is still atracted to you at least emotionally. IF there is no physical aspect to it then maybe she is just taking some time to get comfortable again. Not sure from waht you say.



Perhaps she is not atracted to you physically but is still very attracted to you emotionally. If this is the case then you need to cut it off immediately. That will not be good for anyone. It does sound like she still wants a significant amount of your attention and is willing to work for it. However it does sound odd that there is nothing physical. Ususally it i the other way around.





Anyhow, the best thing you can do is tell her how you feel and then leave it up to her to decide if she wants it or not. Don't setle for halfway. No one deserves that.

Answer 3

This is a tough one. I understand that she's depressed and when you feel that way it is impossible to be in a partnership when you're not happy within yourself. But, her calling you and still wanting to hang out is giving you false hopes. If you're not going to be happy to just settle for a friendship and as she says "see where it goes", then you should tell her you can't handle being strung along, it's all or nothing and you deserve to have a chance to get over her and leave yourself open to meeting another girl who will want to be with you. Good luck!