Why did he behave like this?

Question

This story is about my classmate named Asad, previous academic year of our college he behave in a very absurd manner with me in 2 occassions. The first ocassion was of me along with some of my classmates & my seniors sticking posters of our course's fest inside d college, that time a senior of mine named Diya was talking to her classmates & also with my classmates about something, then suddenly she cracked a joke in which she said to Asad (her sentence was "Muaahh he is my Pilla" in ofcourse a joking manner (here "pilla" is a Hindi word which means pet or somewhat indicating to a pet dog or any pet animal) to which all of us except Asad began to laugh like anything, then suddenly Asad scolded me saying "What Ha Ha Ha! you are laughing, now help me in cutting d cello tape so as to stick poster".I was completely shocked by this behaviour of his, i was like why did he scold me & for what? In d second incident dat day, inside my college's area a fashion show was being conducted by students of a different degree course & d fashion show was part of their degree course's fest, in dat some of my class mates had participated.The fashion show was kept after 11.30am dat is at 12.00pm b'cos at this time almost all d degree course's lecture would get over except for d bachelor of science students, so some of my classmates had gone home to dress & came back to college for d fashion show, one of them was Saira she then suddenly approached me asking dat can she have my watch to wear, for d fashion show as she wasin a hurry to get ready for d show at her home & had forgotten to wear any kind of accessory even forgot to wear a watch & came to college.I told her i can't give her b'cos i had to leave for d station as i had to catch d train exactly at half an hour's time, so she said "U give the watch to me for now & i will return it to you d next day" for which i said dat i will need d watch for d whole day & even though she tried to convince me dat she will return it by d next day i just refused to give her my watch. This girl saira & i were just good accquaintances, we were not best friends Or good friends but we were a bit friendly wih each other dat's all.First i couldn't trust her with my watch b'cos we were just good accquaintances & not friends, if we were friends then i could have trusted her with my watch & secondly the thing she was asking was for a watch not a small thing like a pencil or an eraser & watch is an expensive thing which according to me we can't give it away like dat to anyone.This whole drama was viewed by Asad.He then immediately asked me dat why i didn't give my watch to my Saira for which i said dat i would I have to leave for d station to catch d trai n which would come exactly at half an hour's time, he tried to convince me in giving my watch to Saira by saying dat she will give it tommorrow & other things etc.For dis i said a straight no. Then a few minutes later he saw me & said in a scolding manner "Now why are you waiting for just go to your station". This time too i was again i was shocked to know dat he shouted at me & i don't know for wat reason he shouted at me.I was thinking dat why did he get so upset for me not giving my watch to her, i was even thinking dat why was he so concerned for saira not getting my watch from me, when according to my observation or whatever i have seen, i don't think they are even good accquaintances let alone being best friends or even friends b'cos i had never seen them talking with each other, nor i had ever seen them getting along or hanging out with each other's friend's group or even getting along or hanging out with each & they wouldn't even give greetings to one another like saying "HI","how are you?" or even saying "good morning" etc. I am in doubt dat either he was upset for Saira not getting the watch from me when she had so desperately asked for or he was upset for dat i didn't give her my watch. In d 1st incident wat did his behaviour mean, was he trying to show his power to me with the intention of trying to mellow down me b'cos he used to think dat i am a naive & innocent girl, not only him but d whole class except for people was of d opinion dat i was a naive innocent girl when in reality i was not b'cos i used to speak very less. Or was it b'cos he scolded me b'cos i laughed at him, if so then i can't understand dat why he had to get upset with me & why not with d others Or with my senior Diya who made a joke on him by calling him her "pilla"(here pilla means pet or a pet dog or any pet animal). I am very confused b'cos till today i couldn't understand this kind of absurd behaviour of Asad's.Please dear friends please help me by answering this question of mine as soon as possible.

Answer 1

From what you have said so far, he does not seem dependable and trustworthy. He is probably seeking a physical relationship with you for his own pleasure and there seems to be nothing more.



Decide what is good for you based on what your inner voice says.

Answer 2

hello ,i have read your whole problem .here is my suggestion :_



1 first thing you understand majority of boys do flirt with another girl no matter they are single or married but not all ,so you have to find out how

he reacts when you are with him and as well as not .in this way you can know about his inner side personality about other girls.



2 second thing you must understand you are his girlfriend so you have no need to afraid and feel bad because you are not doing any mistake but you are behaving like a slave and also you are behaving like a girl who is dependent on his boyfriend .so whatever he said to you or scolded you then this is your authority to ask them clearly in lonely place not in front of every friends when conversation is going on. you say to him see " see asad i am feeling bad due these following reasons i want to know answer ." he will give you your question's answer if you feel satisfy with his answer and you think his answer is logical and genuine then you will feel good another vise bad.



3 third thing you must know in India , i live in india also i have seen only in my whole life 2 or 3 cases of marriage those who are boyfriend and girlfriend relation,but 97 present boys don't do marriage with there girlfriend. they do sex and after some time break up and find another girl for to make her girlfriend or do marry with another girl. why because they want to take another taste , it looks creepy but it is true. so if you think you are serious about him so much then you must remember all these things another vise you will become misuse,.



4 thing is that there is no need to ask your personal problem solution to everyone or anywhere try to solve out self ask to your mind and your heart and search on internet .if your mind ,heart give you advise that means both are right no matter what another people say you are in love you are in a relationship with a boyfriend who is responsible to make you happy and feel good and do nice behavior .



5 my last opinion is that i have read your whole problem and i feel you are very innocent because your boyfriend misbehave you and you are asking to people why he does misbehave , does am i doing something wrong? so he is your boyfriend but he is doing misuse of you and he will be not honest for you until you catch him red handed your boyfriend red handed with another girl , i know that right now you will not trust me because your mind and heart will not accpect this , but in future your relationship will break and he will leave you not you.so better is do cautions don't do sex before marriage with your boyfriend ,and respect yourself not sympathy and don't become confused person without any reason another vise you will become mentally ill.



6 don't take him so much seriously because you are doing your best to understand him but he is not ,he is not giving you respect and you are giving him respect if you will continue on this then you will become mentally sick ,or if you do misbehave with him in his response then you will think you have done wrong thing to him so better is become serious try to solve out problem with conversation ,if it doesn't solve it means you are with wrong guy .



i think he is not a good boy and he is not serious about you (you will find out in future i am damn sure) .i hope these soltons will make and teach you to take your decisions own and respect yourself and recoznize a person by using heart and mind (first you think then think about another people) and last dont behave like a child and inoocent behaviour and be strong and ask and raise your voice if anyone make you feel bad (if evry time you will be in silient mode people will think you are week and your peronaility will become scary and your opinion always be dependt on others and these whol things will male your life hell )

i wish and i hope and i believe that these solutions will help you ,god bess you , bye and have a nice day.:) keep smiling see yea

Answer 3

This guy does not deserve so much concern by you. He is disloyal and a jerk, just forget him.