This really nice guy asked me out today in a note and asked me to be his gf. but he is kinda unpopular.Help!?

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This really nice guy asked me out today in a note and asked me to be his gf. but he is kinda unpopular.Help!?
I said yes to him and i dont know what to do im like kinda popular. Im in 6th grade and i have 48 friends. And on a scale from one to 10 i would probly be like a 6 or a 7 on the popular scale and on a scale from 1 to 10 he would probably be like 3 or 4. he has like 11 or 10 friends. and thats not the only problem............ he is my 2 ex boyfriend's friend........ so its gonna be awkward.............but he is sweet. when my ex bf broke up with me he came up to me and said u no brady is such a jerk u deserve better. and thats how i knew he had a crush on me. and also my 2 friends (one popular the other not really) they both said i should go out with himbut i dont know if the popular friedn was joking................ but anyways what should i do i said yes to him..... but liek my friends said he is ugly and weird and its gonna ruin my rep....... adn i will end up like be4 help!

Answer 1

First off, being popular SUCKS! Listen, i maybe a guy but i am in 10th grade. Thats HIGH SCHOOL and you know wat? Most all the pop. girls i know are whores and sluts (sry about langwage) but anyway you shouldn't care what people say and think about you. If he is a nice guy and he is sweet. It doesn't matter, you said yes. thats not a "stay together forever" thing but you said yes and gave him hope and alot of self confidence. Not to presure you but if you break up with him that could really make him .......well, sad. But if you dont like him or if your really into this popular thing then you NEED to stop it ASAP. If your like me and you dont really care what other people think (Good way to be) then stay with him and maybe you can have some fun and have a nice bf not some stupid mean jock.



Just to let you know, your in 6th grade. about 99/100 you meet in your ENTIRE school experience you'll NEVER even SEE again. I would say you got two choices:



You are a pop girl = Break up now



Your a "I dont give a crap" pop girl = stay with him and have fun, be young and do things 6th graders need/want to do.



Cuz when u get to high school then college you'll never have this opertunity again to be so young and foolish. I just turned 16 and i realize how grown up you have to be. And now that i look back, i missed ALOT of opertunities to have fun with a girl i liked, some of the time i wish i could go back even if i only had 1 month to stay there i would in a heart beat. Just think about it, do you like him or do u not and only went out with him cuz of ur friends. eather way, it wont be easy. you should have asked this be4 u said yes.





If you want to talk more about this with me ( love to talk to yea ) my aim is cgdeathreaper or my yahoo is derk4392, msn is [e-mail]



hope i helped

-derk

Answer 2

Boy, 6th grade-- that was a long time ago. It's funny how "popularity" is so important back then. You want to know something? When you get older, none of that matters anymore. I understand that you're in a position that effects your "status" at school though, so here's what I say. If he had the guts to ask you out, and you said yes, then be true to your word. If you don't, you could really hurt his feelings. Learn more about him, and be friends with him. You're in 6th grade, so you don't need to kiss him, and you DEFINITELY don't need to go farther than that, so just take your time. You might find out years later that he was the coolest guy out of ALL the guys. That's what happens when you get older, you'd be surprised. And hey, since you're so "popular", maybe you can use that to help him become a little more popular so you don't have to worry about it so much. :)



In all reality though-- popularity doesn't matter. It just doesn't. When you grow up, you'll realize it. It's sad how TV, and other things are effecting young people. When you grow up, you'll be embarrased you even asked this question, and if you hurt the guy's feelings, he will remember it. One time in 6th grade I asked a girl out, and she said, "Hell no". I remember it-- now she's fat, and I've managed to find a beautiful, HOT, nice, christian girl friend. :) We've been dating for 4 years, and I love her!!!

Answer 3

Okay, I know you are in sixth grade and it's the middle school scene, but who gives a flying-f^ck about popularity?? That is a stereotype that absolutley needs to be broken. Besides, the less popular people are more mature, have more sense, and are more loving and emotional. Don't confuse that with being needy though. He will truly feel for you and if you throw him away like a piece of trash, it would ruin his middle school life.



Also, who cares if your friends say he's ugly?? As I said, I know that you're in middle school and a reputation is the first thing on your mind. Grow up and look past the hand in-front of your face.



Now atleast give him a chance and learn from this small push from reality. If you don't listen to that small push, reality will then hit you with a train and blow you right out of the water and you will be the one that needs grow up after everyone else. Take this with a grain of salt, it's the truth.

Answer 4

First off you have had FAR too many relationships for your age. Secondly it amazes me you care THAT MUCH about popularity and reputation. If I weren't such a nice guy I'd say you were a *****. But Im gonna help you. You should not care about how popular he is. It should not matter. If you like him a lot and he likes you and you think something can happen, go for it. Trust me, 3 years from now you won't give a damn how popular anyone is.

Answer 5

I'm really not clear how the number of friends is relevant. I'm not sure how this 'scale of popularity' works either. However I can tell you on a scale of 1 to 10 of how self righteous you are you'll be happy to know you're a ten.



If you're that concerned about popularity then do him a favor and break up with him so he can find someone who will be concerned with him.

Answer 6

While I realize this is a major issue with you being in middle school.....



You shouldn't be so worried about how popular or how many friends a person has. If he is nice, why do you really care that his friend count is not as high as yours? You should judge people on their character, not their rating on your popularity scale. One day, you'll look back and realize that how you are judging people today is very very shallow.

Answer 7

Geez girl. Popular? haha!! Have you no care for peoples' feelings at all?



He is a person right? Yet the way you talk about him is as if this whole being popular thing is a game .... sorry this is life!!



If you like him go with him. If not tell him straight! Popular or not!! The most important thing is whether you like his personality and you get on well!!

Answer 8

a kids popularity dosent matter im not the most popular person and i went out with th ehottest guy in our school from 4 days after he moved here till two days before he left(i ended it)oh and jazz man i had had 5 exs by the end of 6th grade oh and my bf stood up for me wile i was getting picked on by some toatal jerk in our school and he was even being attacked for going out with me but he stayed with me and thats what i love about him i miss him more than words can say

Answer 9

Sorry, but if you care THIS much about popularity and your rep then he doesn't deserve you.



Why would some guy want some girl that only cares about looks boys and reputation?



Gosh just forget bout him he don't deserve you at all.



I am 13 years old and like seriously I wouldn't care if me friends though he was ugly I would go for it even if he was missing a leg.



Kids never grow up these days

Answer 10

You said yes so you should give him a shot. When you grow up and get older you will realize popularity means nothing, it's what you do with your life what ends up counting. Trust me you don't have 48 true friends. You just have 48 people you talk to at school they are not true friends.

Answer 11

Not being rude but why do you care about your reputation. You are your own person and you shouldn't conform if it makes you unhappy. Look if he's nice, sweet etc and YOU like him, why should you care what other people think.



Personally, I think that people would respect you more if you said "You know what, I may be "cool" and he might not be, but I'm gonna go out with him anyway and show people that I have a mind of my own"



Up to you though. Don't hurt this guy though, he clearly likes you

Answer 12

Seriously you may not realize this now but if people judge you on that and are unwilling to be your friend because you are dating someone really nice and compassionate but shy then they have some serious issues. You're still in middle school so it may seem like popularity is really important but it is fleeting. Once you hit high school no one cares anymore.

Answer 13

well let me explain some simple life lessons to you be4 its to late. First off your "cool friends" well they wont be around for you when you really need help. So how many REAL friends do you have? he has 10 how about you? Second off, rep dosent mean jack to anyone else in the world except the "cool kids". And they dont care about you so its your choice ,either care about your rep or dont care about your rep. Maybe he can teach you a few good lessons about life, seams to me like he may already know them.

Answer 14

ok first of all sweetie ur kinda to young to have a bf. 6th grade?? im in high school and there some ppl who have never had a bf.

second of all popularity doesn't matter when it comes to this.

third of all why would he ask u to be his gf if u havnt gone on a date or anything ??

i think u should wait a couple more years

Answer 15

you sound like a pretty organized person hmm first off do u like him at all? trust me never go 4 a guy u dnt like



didn't no that ther was a popular scale in schools, you sound like you dont want to go out with him i quote 'and that's not the only problem............ he is my 2 ex boyfriend's friend........ so its gonna be awkward.............but he is sweet'



depending on who broke th relationship off between you and Ur 2 exs it could be ok or it May not be



all in all its ur choice some good advice is do a pro and con list list all the pros 4 going out With him and all th cons look at them and c which ones tip th scales tht could help you decide,



again your choice



Hope this helps some wat

Answer 16

omg. in the real world no one cares, there are no "popular" people and "unpopular" people. if you don't want to "ruin your rep" then don't go out with him that is your own choice. if you want to give him a chance, bc he is sweet...then you might be surprised. maybe he will become more "popular" if you go out with him. he might end up being better than all your exes....doesn't matter how popular or not he or you are.

Answer 17

After reading that, this guy is too good for you. If you are even thinking about your status, his and what the others will think, then you are just one of those plastics, materialistic girls. You are too young to even start thinking like that. If you like the guy, go for it, who cares what others thinks. In the long run (in a few years) the key to happiness is to follow your heart and not worry about others. Don't be a snob!

Answer 18

I wouldnt care if he wasnt "popular" that is the dumbest thing i have ever heard...popularity is not what you look for in a boyfriend or girlfriend. If you like him give it a shot and if it works out that is all that matters

Answer 19

It honestly should matter whether he's popular or not. I like someone who most everyone doesn't like. He isn't popular at all, but it doesn't matter. At least to me. You should go out with him if you think he is really sweet, and most importantly if you'd feel comfortable with him and have fun. Good luck (:

Answer 20

Who cares if he isn't popular. WHy should that matter if you like him??? And you are too young to even know what a relationship and a real boyfirend is anyway, so why not go out with him.

Answer 21

School popularity is such crap. Who cares? When you graduate from high school and go to college, it won't matter anymore. If you like him, then go out with him. And if your friends have a problem with that, then they are bad friends.

Answer 22

Baby girl you should be thinking about what you want to major in in college instead of these Young boys. Please realize that you have to fend for yourself these days. You don't need a boy to make you popular, You make yourself. But if you think you need a guy go for his personality because if he is ugly he want be after you fall for him lol. but be real stay in school.

Answer 23

Look at the heart. popular are pain in ***. they think they are better the other. but once you get out of school you will find out that the world won't care if you are popular or not.so listen to you heart and God will always tell you the truth and tell you what good for you. good luck and God bless you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 24

uhhh.....wow no offense your kind of dumb if you think having more friends makes you "better" or of a different class then you have it all wrong he may have 11 friends but there Good Close friends that have meaning not some "fags" for lack of a better modern word that think there cool cuz they have numbers......if you like the guy and he likes you then hey your all set who gives a f uck about "popularity" that would be like my gf going out with me because of my amazingly toned body and great looks but she liked me and wanted to go out b4 she saw me..

Answer 25

Geez you're shallow! Life isn't a popularity game -- grow up some!



How about deciding if he's a decent person or not? Or doesn't that count in your little world?

Answer 26

so hes unpopular, and whats the point?, i mean theres alot of nice unpopular guys out there. i dont think its about him being so unpopular as it is that your afraid of what your friends might say. dont listen to anyone, who knows he might just be the nicest guy you have known. just because hes not popular, doesnt mean a thing.

Answer 27

This is an opportunity to prove that you are a genuine, intelligent, thoughtful, kind and marvelous person.



Or you can prove that you are shallow and thoughtless.



I think you know which action will lead to which proof, don't you.

Answer 28

If you like him go out with him, if you don't then quit leading him on. Good guys last, popular doesn't last forever.

Answer 29

You should not let his popularity influence you to say no.



That makes you a very SHALLOW person

Answer 30

lol, your funny.



but, if you like him. then why not give him a chance? its not like if your gonna marry him. your not in 5th grade anymore! be mature. (:and once your friends see you mature, they will. and, stop with the she's popular, she's not. my 8 yr old sister does that. i'd think youd be over that phase.

Answer 31

To be honest, he's better off without you as you're more concerned about your own reputation and not at all about his feelings! And yet you say he's nice. He deserves better.

Answer 32

I think you're a wee bit too preoccupied with you're self proclaimed popular-girl status.

Answer 33

Omg, you need to grow up. "Popular"?! We dont even do that in high school. Grow up! If you're going to be conceited, then let him find someone he deserves.

Answer 34

You should like a person for who they are, not by how popular or unpopular they are.

Answer 35

So the guy's nice, but you're gonna destroy his life because he isn't popular enough for you?

You, madam, have no soul.

Answer 36

if you like him, go out with him. it's as simple as that.



popularity and "reps" really don't matter as long as you don't worry about them.



and as far as your ex goes, you're not his property, so do what you want

Answer 37

So What my bf is shy and not popular and i am but do i care no i don't! step up and don't care what others say1

Answer 38

Some day you will realize how little that matters.



Edit-- Hahaha, 'relationship'. Oh man.

Answer 39

please u call yourself popular because u have 48 friends



COME ON I HAVE MORE THAN 300 FRIENDS U DON'T SEE COMPLAINING WHO POPULAR AND WHO NOT



HIT THE BOOKS U NOT SUPPOSE TO WORRIED ABOUT BF THEY COME AND GO



OMG THIS IS SUCH A STUPID QUESTIONS LIKE FOR REAL ANSWER IT URSELF U PROBABLY KNOW THE ANSWER ANYWAY

Answer 40

How do you have 2ex boyfriends in 6th grade?

Answer 41

stop using the words "popular" and "unpopular"