A romantic failure, I want to solve it, can you help?

Question

Im at a stand still. I met this guy ages ago and we got so close, his family had to move futher away and we couldnt go out any longer, it broke my heart to say good bye. I never had many relationships after that it feels as though i lost my soul-mate. Since its been a few years I thought to find him again he said he lived in west, texas. I have foud nothing so far what should I do. I t feels as though I have tried everything. I need to find him so I can feel as though I can move on. Please help me.

Answer 1

The heart is the toughest muscle/organ in the human body. It's the human mind that has the hardest time when it comes to moving on.



Think about it for a few minutes. If this "soul mate" of yours was really that wouldn't he be trying harder to contact you? If you didn't move and he felt the same way as you feel he would have made an effort to contact you. Instead it sounds like he's made more of an effort to disappear.



Tomorrow when you wake up do what you have to to move on. Burn his pictures, letters, and any memento's. Go out and join a gym and get yourself out there. Personally I don't think we have just one soul mate, because if that were the case we would all be married and happy.



You're not happy. You're frustrated and why because this one guy made you feel great about yourself. Sweet heart men, we're like buses in NYC. If you missed the first one in 5 minutes another better one will show up and get you to where you need to go.

Answer 2

I have found the best way to forget about someone...well, not forget...but have an ability to move on is to do something written/physical/tangible about that person.

Putting pics, letters whatever away in a shoebox if you want to keep mementos to recall at a later time. Or to just rid yourself of any tangible things about that person that are really sentimental. If you dont have such a thing...make something that represents that person, write it out or such and then put the letter away. It's not a fool proof way of forgetting someone...you just cant do that unless you actually erase a portion of your life from your brain, next to brain damage..it cant be done. But attempting a 'final' tangible thing should help.

Answer 3

Well, not finding him is not going to prevent you from 'moving on". That is a personal choice, and he has nothing to do with it!

If you are so determined, you can hire a private investigator , or you can spend a few bucks on some on line searches of public records. If he is with his parents, then you need to search for them, rather than him. You may even be able to find databases of financial aid applicants, but most of those are secure.

My suggestion; get on with living!

Answer 4

Try not to overromanticize this guy. I'm sure it was great and you learned a lot about yourself, but chances aren't great that you'll get back together. However -- finding him may give you closure bc it will be a reality check that this guy is not perfect, not superman.



Almost everyone is single for a while. You will meet someone -- don't stop yourself from looking!

Answer 5

If he has not contacted you that should be enough for you to move on. Think about it and think with your head not with your heart.

Answer 6

Sweetie, its time to move on. If it is meant to be, you will find him again. Good Luck. . .

Answer 7

try yahoo people search, it might take a while but it does really good at finding people

Answer 8

No offense, you need to get some therapy. You can't live in the past.