Girls are so confusing! Advice?

Question

This girl I like, she's usually very nice to me (talks to me, "Hi"s, waves, etc.). She gave me her number a few weeks ago in an email, but only a few days ago did I finally work up the courage to call her and say hey.

It turned out to be a very awkward call. She didn't answer when I called, but called me back and I had to explain it was me. That threw me off completely, and I basically said hey and "how are you?”. And she was on her way out of the house, so it didn't last long.

Next day at school, she goes to the other side of the scale, not even acknowledging I'm in the room with her. Like we've never met. I'm typically impassive, not letting her know I’m actually very shaken. Oh well, I seemed to spoil that chance at a relationship, and lost a girl I could call a friend, but what did I do wrong exactly? Reveal my incredible ineptitude at calls? Turn her off by looking lame? I've moved on I guess, but what was my mistake?

Answer 1

I'd say ask her out..if you continue to be all shaken up around her nothing is gonna happen. Doesnt seem you did any mistake. Who cares if you took long in calling her. The point is you did. Girls are confusing, but I think MAYBE she might have some interest in you and felt shy that you called her, and she feels awkward now. IT could be that she also feels shaken up around you which is why she's not talking to you. Trust me I know. SO just ask her out again, if she says no, well there you go, theres your answer. YOu still have a shot with this girl, either as a friend or more:)

Answer 2

Well I have to agree this is probably pretty confusing for you. I've been in the same situation as the girl before and this is probably the first time I've heard a guys opinion on the issue. Honestly a lot of girls are sweet and nice and try to let a guy down easy. She may like you AS A FRIEND and just think it would be nice if you guys remain just friends or at least start off that way. Maybe she was a little taken off by the phone call. If she's ignoring you she probably wants a little space. Give her some. I can only go based on my experience and how a girl would look at the incident having said that, looking at this from a different angle I can say that...

Maybe she likes you but likes to take things slow. Calling her is a pretty forward thing to do and if she wants to take things slow then it probably frightened her. Go back to trying to be her friend and gradually begin to move forward. I am sorry if my advice didn't helo but this o based on my prior experience. Anyways Good Luck! :)



P.S- To answer your question you may have one nothing wrong but she was definately taken back by your phone call...







EVEN THOUGH SHE IS THE ONE WHO GAVE YOU HER # IN THE 1ST PLACE!!! ; -)

Answer 3

You definitely waited too long to call.



No wonder she had to ask who it was...she gave you her no a few weeks ago.



I wouldn't ask her out just yet. I'd lay low for a little while. see if you can talk to her some more at school and test the waters a little bit.



She probably doesn't hate you - her pride is hurt though because you waited so long. You have to think it takes courage for her to give you her number as well - she was probably thinking is he going to call or not...? Then you didn't call. No wonder it was awkward. She probably thought you were interested in someone else and she was your fallback girl or something.



Girls aren't that complicated - they just want to feel like they're important to a guy and cared about.

Answer 4

I know that an awkward phone call can throw anyone (you and her). Play it cool for now at least and see if you get anymore 'signals' that indicate that she is attracted to you. If she likes you then she may be playing it cool to see if you are willing to pursue her. You can only be sure by calling her again and seeing what her response is like.



When you call her have a small plan about what you want to talk to her about for example the latest movie out, an annoying song, or an interesting thing that you saw or heard OR try asking her opinion about something random- girls like giving advice.



Key thing to remember is to never 'run out' of conversation. Have back up questions to ask (interesting ones).





And... Good luck ;-)

Answer 5

Well, probably the fact that you waited so long to call her after she gave you her number is making her distant. When she e-mailed you with her number, she wanted to you call possibly even that day. You kind of let the momentum drop. I'd just call her again and say, "Look, I'm sorry it took me so long to work up the nerve to call you after you gave me your number but I'd like to take you out to the movies still." And 'fess up. She will probably be flattered. If she says, No, then at least you'll know and you can move on. But yeah, you let the momentum drop.

Answer 6

I think that you waited too long to call her. All is not lost, If you are not afraid of coming off looking shy- you should tell her the truth face to face that you were nervous to call, and that once you did that you got even more nervous when she didn't know who it was. You should tell her that you like her, and ask her if she would still be interested in a movie.



Most girls really appreciate the truth, and a nervous guy comes off as really cute.

Answer 7

Ask her out - all she can say is no. She is probably mad that you didn't call right away. We girls are like that...I still get miffed if my husband says "I call you later..." and I don't hear from him until I get home. Stupid yes, but it means more to the girl than to you.

Ask her out and don't go over the phone call thing again unless she brings it up - if she does laugh a little and say you were nervous and wanted to say the right thing, and it won't happen again, if you say you will call you will.

Good luck...you'll be surprised.

Answer 8

There are 3 techniques here... a million. She's burned from her final courting and would not go with to get harm back. 2. She had a foul journey with you the final time you dated. 3. She would not go with to get in yet another courting precise now. i think of the main suitable factor so which you will do is the two wait and notice what happens or confront her and check together with her approximately those issues. desire I helped!

Answer 9

You just have to accept that girls (and eventually when they grow up to be women) are mysterious and it takes an extremely exceptional man to understand them.



If you are even THINKING of trying to understand why they act the way they do, then you are doing an exercise in futility.



It is best not to understand them as the more you do, the more you will get confused and possibly, frustrated and maybe even depressed. This is not good for your sanity.

Answer 10

lol, girls arent that confusing, she's prolly thinking the same thing! seriously! you shouldnt have let it shake you when she didnt know who you were you should have made a joke out of it to make the convo less awkward. Maybe your jumping in to fast with this girl? doesnt sound like your fully comfortable with her?



Next time send a text a few days before you call!

Answer 11

As I have done my travels throughout this world, I have found that there is another one out there that might be looking for you but if you keep looking only at one, the one that you think is meant for you, you might just miss the one that is absolutely right for you. Move on and maybe she might come back but if you move on she will definately be curious as to why you have.

Answer 12

Very strange. Why would she give you her phone number if she didn't want you to call...

Feel her out. Next time you see her say Hi. Don't go completely out of your way though. Let it be natural and see how she acts.

Answer 13

Just try not to be nervous and walk up to her and say I'd like to go out with you sometime! i know your busy but if your interested you have my number so give me a call. if she never calls it wasn't meant to be. high school girls don't know what they want! and they are often guided by peer pressure! so don't worry to much. a good girl will come along eventually!

Answer 14

i'm a girl. unless i'm really good friends or dating or something like that with a guy, its kinda weird just getting a call outa nowhere. thats y i luv texting!! i text lyk all the guys i know just lyk "hey wats up" and as for that girl, yeah she's probly just feeling kinda awkward cuz u did that

Answer 15

shes feeling awkward to. id give her a couple of days then try emailing her again. say hi to her at school but dont go out ur way to make it obvious that u want to speak to her.

Answer 16

Maybe because you didn't call her for a few weeks she got dissipointed, thinking you didn't like her and tried to get over you. now you've got to work tiwce as hard to show her you still like her without seeming cliny/stockerish.



good luck!

Answer 17

thats sweet.....If some one rang me, shy and akward i'd find that cute....atleast you rang her..she should be grateful that you tried...



I say ..if you really like her...just work up the courage to have a conversation with her...about a movie/music etc....



If she responds.....then ask her out....



whats the worst that could happen??



maybe she just didnt see you ....your probably thinking about nothing...



good luck!

xxx

Answer 18

Calling her late,

Calling Her,

etc....

Answer 19

If you still like her and want a chance at dating her, go up to her sometime and say, "hey, I think we got off to a bad start. (Add own words or desires here).

Answer 20

has she met someone else in that time???

maybe as she did not hear from you she thought you were not interested?

ever heard of the three day rule???

ask her out!!!!! it won't hurt.

you need to let her know you were shy and you want to take her out.

Answer 21

its refreshing to see a question by a teen thats in ENGLISH!! usually you see all that, "yo cuz dat sh*t is dope yo."



anyways, to answer your question, you didnt do anything wrong at all. she isnt worth your time if shes gonna act like a b*tch, no offence to her. but seriously find a girl that values you and doesnt act all wierd like this girl.

Answer 22

Dude, u got to drop some and go up to her. YOU talk to her, don't wait because another dude is gona beat you to her

Answer 23

They will always be confusing it doesn't get any easier. The good news is at least it is not predictable and will always keep you on your toes.

Answer 24

WELL FURST OF ALL THIS GUY GAVE ME HIS PHONE NUMBER! I DIDN'T NO WHAT TO DO!!! SO TWO DAYS AGO I CALLED HIM IT WAS GOIN FINE!! NOT WHAT I EXPECTED BUT I CALLED AS SOON AS POSSIBLE! SO U CALLED TOO LATE!!

Answer 25

humm sounds wierd she might be mad at something else you may be talking it the wrong way or maybe you have just tried to hard... give it time

Answer 26

You waited to long to call.

Answer 27

KEEP. TRYING.





you have nothing to lose if she isnt intrested but if she still is you dont want to blow it with her!

Answer 28

girl may not be for you you should explore your options

Answer 29

i agree girl's are confusing.