I need advise please...?

Question

Ok..my ex bf and I ended things on a bad note. We were never disrespectful to each other until I found out something that he did which hurt me beyond belief. I let him know how I felt and we exchanged words, mostly on my part, but his actions hurt me very much. We ended things by pretty much saying we didn't want each other in one another's life. I can only speak for me that I know in my heart I didn't mean it. I also know that he knows he was at fault for much of what had happened. Well, when we were fighting, I would email him and he would delete my emails....not even read them. I can tell because our mail internet service lets us know the status. Its been a few months and we have not spoken. I am still hurt and bothered about what happened, so I sent him an text message and told him I sent an email to him, because its too diificult to say what I needed to say to him on the phone. And I told him "please don't delete it". Well, he has been online, yet the email status is "unread"

Answer 1

Hi there! Look baby GET yourself together. Give yourself and him time to heal. You both are hurt. You need to focus on your dream and look ahead. Stop looking back in the past, JUST COUNT IT AS A LEARNING EXPERIENCES OK.

It is hard for women to let men go because we are so emotional attach

Answer 2

Your story sounds similar to an experience that I had a while back with my ex. I am not sure exactly what he did that hurt you so much, but if it was big enough for you to react the way that you did I am sure that it was the right move. I too was hurt because my ex cheated on me with a former girlfriend, yet I wanted to remain "friends". However, he made that impossible. He too ignored me and honestly treated me like dirt. Why? Because I let him. I was young, thought I was in love, and had low self-esteem. The truth is I wanted him back, not so much because I thought that he was "the one" but because it wasn't finished on my end. It was almost like I needed to prove something to myself by getting him back. We never did get back together although he did try for a short time (after I stopped talking to or contacting him). I think for some men it's the thrill of the chase that they love, not necessarily the woman. As everyone's situation is unique, and I don't fully know the details of your split and the things said, the best advice I can give is to let go. As hard as this may seem I promise that life will go on and get better. I found true love 10 years later with an amazing man that I am marrying in June. The ex that I referred to above is married, unhappy, and going nowhere. I am thankful everyday that I did not end up with him! If you are meant to be with someone it will happen..regardless if it's as friends, family, or companion. If it's not then it just won't. Chalk this up to a learning experience and hey, it's his loss! Just remember exes are exes for a reason.

Answer 3

Okay you know that in most cases men and women do not remain friends after especially when there is a lot of history. If you keep pining for him even if it is only as a friend things are not going to work. he probably thinks you want to be more than friends even if you have told him friends only. that is just how guys are. The only guys that i am still friends with after a relationship are the ones i didn't really get attached to. And we just don't talk about the past and that way nothing is ever awkward and are current relationship are not damaged by our history together. No one can just you the answer you are looking for because everyone is different. i think it would help if you talked face to face...good luck

Answer 4

No..the more emails you send this guy, the more turned off he's going to be you and the more he's going to be annoyed. Give him some space and time. I understand your pain and what you're going through and that you want him to care but apparently he does not give a **** about how you feel because if he did, he wouldnt delete your emails. That's very cold hearted of him. anyawys, i don't think he is going to read that email and even if he does, i dont think he's going to change much by it. i know i'm being brutally honest here, but i don't think the friends thing is going to work between you two. but there are many fishes in the sea ..i'm sure tons of guys would love to be ur friend..u sound lyk a nice girl

Answer 5

I'm sorry. I know what that can be like...Try talking to him in any way about this. If he won't read your emails, try talking him on AIM, or Windows Live Messenger, or Yahoo! Messenger or whatever you guys both have (if you have any of them). If that doesn't work, then try calling him or talking to him in person. If he REALLY cares a lot about you, he will listen.

Answer 6

The only definite way to get through to him is by calling him and talking to him over the phone. How can you become friends with again if you are afraid to talk to him over the phone?

Answer 7

send him a e-mail

or message on myspace with the subject

"I want to be friends again"





so he now knows its not just about getting back together



and if YOU do want to get back together.

start over from stage 1 of being friends.

dont jump back into it right away



wish you the best hun<3

Answer 8

I think he is considering reading it. Chances are curosity will win him over and he will read it. I'm sure he knows deep in his heart what he wants but trys to listen to what he wants to want. Same with you. You just have to be patient. If it's ment to be it'll happen.. if not, it woun't.

Answer 9

2 Months let it go he's showing you how he can be cruel don't you think and he's enjoying you chasing him makes his ego grow walk away consider a lesson learned. Good Luck

Answer 10

Move on w/your life and stop worrying about what an ex thinks.

Answer 11

sounds to me like he has a new girlie in his life. Almost all guys are suckers for sex with the ex!!

Answer 12

Your headed into uncharted waters;it`s very difficult to be friends with your ex.I never did that before.

Answer 13

MOVE ON . did you even get what you were discribing, He hurt you bad, He will again , We men are fuckups like that. Cut your strings , Dress up Sexy,Slutty & go get laid. Try a Bisexual experience, explore.

Answer 14

That guy's a chump. You sound really nice. Find someone who deserves you.

Answer 15

You want a guy who WANTS YOU! I would move on and say NEXT!!